Using condoms during marriage...?!
Question: When I get married, I don't want to have to use the chemical birth control methods like the pill, shots, etc. I have read about the side effects of them and the things that it can do to a woman's body, and I don't want to put myself at risk for health problems like that. But, I do want to be able to have sex for pleasure and bonding without the risk of getting pregnant when we do not want to have a child at that time.
What is using condoms during marriage like? Does the condom really reduce the pleasure for the man to a great extent? Is there anything else I should know? (By the way, both my boyfriend and I are virgins.)
Thanks!
Answers: When I get married, I don't want to have to use the chemical birth control methods like the pill, shots, etc. I have read about the side effects of them and the things that it can do to a woman's body, and I don't want to put myself at risk for health problems like that. But, I do want to be able to have sex for pleasure and bonding without the risk of getting pregnant when we do not want to have a child at that time.
What is using condoms during marriage like? Does the condom really reduce the pleasure for the man to a great extent? Is there anything else I should know? (By the way, both my boyfriend and I are virgins.)
Thanks!
Personally, I think condoms does reduce the sensation, but if you are both virgins, and you start out using condoms, you won't even notice the difference. I think your best bet would be to use condoms, and use them all the time. You won't even notice a difference.
Condoms do decrease the pleasure for the male. Much like wearing a latex glove on your hand makes it harder for you to feel things with your finger tips.
However, condoms are a good way to prevent pregnancy, as well as a good way to prevent disease.
Don't want to burst anyone's bubble, but over 50% of marriages end in divorice. The majority of them end because of infidelity on the part of one of the two people in the marriage.
Keep that in mind when having unprotected sex with your husband/wife, and thinking that you are not going to ever get an STD. Think again!
Actually that is something that you and him are going to have to decide together. Every one and every relationship are different. I would find it kind of odd to be married and use condoms. Birth control is not bad. They just tell you a bunch of things that might happen maybe to scare you is what I think it is. I've been on the birth control shot for about two years, and I've never had a problem with it. It depends on if you are getting married soon or if you are just curious for when the time comes. I've talked to quite a few guys that have told me that a condom does lessen the pleasure for them. It constricts their "private area" and they aren't able to have the same amount of pleasure as they would without. I hope you make a right decision. And I give you and your boyfriend props for still being virgins. That is cool.
as long as your boyfriend wears a condom and puts it on properly. (make sure he knows how) and nothing happens to it (ie. breakage, slippage) you won't get pregnant. It reduces his feeling a little but not significantly.
Since I am female, I have no idea if it decreases sensitivity or not. I have had seven partners and have never experienced sex with a condom....I was always on the pill and obviously naive. One thing to keep in mind though - you will always have to have one with you so you can have spontaneity in your sexual relationship. Also, you will always have the fear of getting pregnant should one break. You should look into other methods and really look at the pros and cons of each.
Using a condom is your best bet unless you'd like to couple it with a diaphram with spermicide. I personally am not a fan of condoms as I feel a loss of sensitivity when we use them, but that's just me.
Oh, and to respond to the person who said that 50% of marriages end in divorce: First of all, while that might be true, the percentage of people who get divorced is around 30%. That means that the same people are getting married and divorced numerous times.
Best of luck!
it depends really alot of men dont like wearing a condom but as a man i still find it very pleasurable with a condom my g/f says she still enjoys it aswell and u might want to get a well lubracated condoms good luck and enjoy it