I cant believe the nurse said this to me what should i do?!
Question: around 8pm i had those really bad reoccurring pains in my lower abdomen on the right side near my ovaries.it hurts so bad that i double over in pain. i wanted to go the emergency room but no one was home and my car is in the shop. so i waited it out and they finally went away. my mother came home and i told her i almost went to the emergency room and she knew ive been having these pains for 6 months or so and she was concerned. so she took a shower and came downstairs and said we are going to the er in case thier is something wrong with you.
so around 930 we leave my house and head to upper chesapeake. i called andrew (my boyfriend) so he knew what was going on and he met me there. i got in there and they didnt look busy at all. it took them forever to asses me for my vitals and such. then they needed a urine sample. so i went and did that and here i am carrying around my own piss and cant find a nurse to take it from me. i was like to myself
Answers: around 8pm i had those really bad reoccurring pains in my lower abdomen on the right side near my ovaries.it hurts so bad that i double over in pain. i wanted to go the emergency room but no one was home and my car is in the shop. so i waited it out and they finally went away. my mother came home and i told her i almost went to the emergency room and she knew ive been having these pains for 6 months or so and she was concerned. so she took a shower and came downstairs and said we are going to the er in case thier is something wrong with you.
so around 930 we leave my house and head to upper chesapeake. i called andrew (my boyfriend) so he knew what was going on and he met me there. i got in there and they didnt look busy at all. it took them forever to asses me for my vitals and such. then they needed a urine sample. so i went and did that and here i am carrying around my own piss and cant find a nurse to take it from me. i was like to myself
Im a nurse, but ERs dont know it....and I call them on the carpet when they act like this. Call the hospital and tell them what they said and did. Its horrible. The nurse giving you the pain meds is requires to tell you what he/she did....but sometimes they can make it sound more like an ACCUSATION than a required statement. You have a right to complain. If it is the hospital thta your gynecologist practices at, make sure she knows that this is how you were treated. Im sorry this happened to you. They are never supposed to tell you how much pain you are in...they are supposed to ask you and then treat you accordingly.
that's really sad. I think you should find another hospital
There is a number that you can call to make a complaint. The hospital MUST provide it for you. Or you can talk to someone from public relations. I work at Good Shepherd Hospital in Barrington, IL. We would never allow something like that to go on. Make the complaint.
Bravo! The nurse wanted to care for people in an emergency and did not want to care for someone who was not in medical distress. You were obviously not in critical condition. Your attitude and wanting nurses to hang around to collect your piss when people are in crisis really proves what is wrong with health care. The ER is abused thousands of times each day and we wonder why health care is so expensive.
Your behavior was really unacceptable.
wow.
where was this?
im so so sorry i would be soooooooooo pissed off, i kinda im now..
what!? oh hell no, see I have a mouth and I remember when a nurse told me to shut up and stop crying when I was in LABOR with my son..smmfh I demanded to have another nurse. Of course I got another nurse and she was very very nice. I would of ripped that lady a new butthole lol in all honesty..Did you get her name? If you did you can write a letter to the administrator of the hospital and see what happens, I can't believe how awful some people can be when other's are in pain, sometimes I wonder why they took a job in that career field if that's how they felt about patients in pain. I hope you feel better sweetie, if pain still persists go to another hospital. :D
*edit, sorry i guess you weren't done writing when i submitted my answer..I would so suggest going to another hospital or call your own doctor if you have one to get it check asap, doctors who act like that are friggen rediclious and I would of done the same thing you did.
you have to understand that the er is the busiest place in the hospital. people go there for minor things(not saying yours is minor), and people who don't have a primary care physican go there as well. and you have to think about the ambulances, they bring people to the er and are seen first. i see this everyday i work at a hospital. and sadly the er is the last place you want to go. you should probably go to an urgent care or some place like that. you will be seen quicker. they nurse probably shouldn't have worded it like that, but you have to remember the er is very busy.
First of all I will start by saying that I work in a very busy emergency room. From a patients view, yeah we dont look busy but guess what we are. That long of a wait is nothing. Especially since you have had the pain for 6 months and decided that finally you are going to go to an ER at night instead of waiting 12 more hours to go to your doc in the am. While you were bitching that you were cold there was someone else in the ER that was dying or really sick. Thus the word emergency. Do yourself and all of us in emergency medicine a favor and next time you have so called excruciating pain for 6 months, go to your regular doc.
I actually CAn believe the doctor said this to you. I have many times been told not to drink or have sex while on certain meds! Really he would be the one getting sued if he didn't tell you that. You need to lighten up. While you were in pain you should know that there are procedures in ER's and they do see people based on trioge which is levels of care needed! He may of been right there may have been people there in life or death situations and stomach cramps are not severe enough IN ANY CIRCUMSTANCE to not save a life of someone who may be dying in the nest room from say a gunshot, a head injury, a coma ETC. Think about others a little and try to cool off with the suing thing because as much as you think you might have a case, that doctor has more of a case on you for making an outburst on him after him telling you some info on your meds!
It sounds like you may have had a ruptured ovarian cyst. It's not all that uncommon. Emergency rooms are really stupid that way. If you aren't about to die, they wont do much for you. They would much rather you go to your family doctor or a walk-in clinic then tie up beds that could be used for the critically ill. I know it sucks, but that's just the way it is. I have had the exact same thing happen to me, except I waited much longer and the doctor asked me stupid questions like if I was in an abusive relationship...I had no bruises and was thinking to myself "where the heck does she get off asking me that". Don't take it too personally, just go to your regular doctor and ask for a referral to either a gastrointestinal or gynecology specialist.
You know what, I had this exact same problem, and the pains occured around ovulation every month for like 6 months. The pain was so bad for like a couple hours each month at ovulation, that I too was doubled over, and so severe that I felt like I was going to pass out. I vomited it was so bad. No pain ever in my life was ever so severe, and I am 30 and had a csection, which in itself was painful. I never went to the dr. but evidentually, the pain went away after like 6 months, and my dr. said I must have had an ovarian cyst or fibroid, and it either exploded or went away on its own...ouch. As far as your horrible experience, I have heard dozens of nightmare stories. I have even heard hundreds of stories where people have ended up having life threatening diseases, or cancers, things that were brushed off by doctors. I think sometimes they get so used to seeing trauma, that they brush off those who arent gushing out blood or unconscious. I feel your pain.... I will never ever forget how it felt when I had that pain. Go in and see you family doc right away. They are less rushed and will prob run tests. If not, go to a diff doc who will.
You need to make an appointment to go see a Gynecologist. You could have ovarian cysts. Request an ultrasound with your appoitnment, which they may refuse until you are seen by a Dr., but that would be ok too.
OB/GYN RN
There, there now. You probably feel better now that you got that said. It's always hard to be satisfied with what goes on at an emergency room. The only time I got quick efficient attention is when I went into a hospital up in Everett Washington with an angina attack (Minor heart attack). You will always get immediate attention in cases like that. They have a strange system about how they see people. Here's my advice for being in any line, be it the emergency room, the grocery store or the bank. Get your mind off the line itself. Turn around backwards to the line and go through it backwards. I'm the only one at my grocery store who does that. And you know what, I'm the coolest dude in the whole place. Good time to get caught up on what's happening to Brittney Spears also.
Now on a more serious note. If possible, try to get some medical attention at any place rather than the emergency room. You have a problem that is gonna take several tests and careful analysis to fix. But don't give up on the objective. Patience is the key to benefiting from the medical system. Ask God for a prescription for patience.
Obviously, you have issues.
If you feel that you are having a problem make an appointment to see your physician.
As for the ER, there are usually many patients with serious or life threatening injuries. These patients always get seen first.
Your were triaged, as were all the patients. The patients that require immediate attention get seen first. There are usually a lot of patients to see. This causes a long wait for some.
Even though yes, you were in pain, you were triaged as a low risk patient.
You are still alive, and breathing. Your problem that night even though it seemed, to you to be the priority was not life threatening.
There are many different things that could have caused you the pain. As for the doctor to ask you questions about your sexual activity is the right thing to do. Sexual activity and lifestyle habits, play a huge role in the health of your body. For the nurses and doctors to ask these questions it is appropriate. You may feel embarrassed, but its important.
Here is what you do. Call the hospital administrator and /or write him a letter. If you could not use the word 'piss' I think that would be more appropriate. Use the word urine. Just tell the facts. Not about your boyfriend, your mom and all that. If you have the nurses name that would be an extra benefit to you in getting something done. Tell him that the ER seemed to be very slow and pretty empty and if there was something going on that you certainly saw no evidence of it. Tell for sure how the nurse was not compassionate about your fear of needles (I have no problem with them myself, but can at least sympathize with those who do!) Let him know that she dropped the blood on the floor and made you hold the needle. Be sure to tell him/her what the nurse told your mother about not being in enough pain.. Stress to him that you would not have made a trip to the ER at night if you had not been in bad pain. You did not come there to have a tea party... you were hurting and upset about what may be wrong! Or be sure to tell the time and date all of this occured and the times you were seen like you did in your yahoo question.
You aren't going to win a law suit or anything, but you may get a letter of apology. Let him know that you want to know what they are going to do in the future so that if you have to come there again that you or others can be assured that they will recieve proper treatment that includes compassion and understanding. Ask for a letter to be sent to you as to what changes are being put in place.
There is no excuse for that kind of slip shod behavior from them. My mother fell at a restaurtant back in Dec. and had to be transported to a local hospital. They WERE busy, but they were very compassionate, sweet to her and apologetic about how long it was taking. And they really were swamped. There was only one doctor on duty that afternoon and was running from patient to patient. The bottom line is that they were working as hard as they could, but did not forget that they were dealing with people in pain who were waiting and that it was difficult.
Hope this helps! And good luck. Be as professional as you can when you call. Let them know that you want to know that if you or anyone else comes there that they will not experience what you did.
unfortunately I have been through this b4 and unfortunately u can complain and compalin some more, but they all have each others back and im sure nothing will get done. I dont know y they think ppl enjoy sitting in a hospital all that time for some bull. u basically have to say ure pain is 10 times worse than it is, in hopes to get seen. Ive had a lot of stomach issues and been back and forth to the docs and NOTHING they have even treated me 4 acid refulx and i had to ask the doc "do u really think i would come here if i was having heart burn???" but the thing is they dont want to take time to seek out info of things that could be wrong. they r not n 2 preventitive medicine u have to be practically dying b4 they will help u. and now that I have cyst and issues with conceving I wonder if it all could have been PREVENTED.
so the only thing i can suggest is to make repeated complaints and even have different fam and friends call making similar complants and hopefully u will c results if u ever have to go back (hopefully not)
Although I know that everyone's pain threshohld is different, I do not doubt for one instance that you were in pain. I am not going to make excuses for the hospital staff - as there is no excuse - let me tell you what they were looking for. An etopic pregnancy, or a VD. You didn't state your age, but guided by the fact that you live at home, and they told you not to give the meds out at school - you are probably in your teens. Unfortunately, some view teenage girls to be over dramatic, and they unfortunately preconceived that notion with you.
I agree that you should make a complaint agains the staff that night, and let the administrators know of the treatment you received. Most hospitals now days have patient advocates which you can talk to if you wish to pursue this.
I also feel that since this is a recurring pain you shoould visit your OB/GYN and/or general practicioner. ER personel will only triage and treat things which are readily visible or can be diagnosed at the time. They should not have perscribed pain killers since they do not know what is causing the pain. Pain is the body's way of letting us know something is wrong. Although it would give you immediate and temporary relief, whatever caused it can be put off now because you no longer feel the pain. I think they should have at least done a sono of your abdomen to rule out an obstruction, or fibroid tumors. (These aren't as scary as they sound, but need to be taken care of - they only get bigger and hurt more.) I am sorry for your treatment - I hope you find the source of your pain and get better.
what a crazy story. i hate emergency rooms too.
Emergency rooms are for emergencies. You state the pain had gone away but you went just to make sure. 6 months of pain why go to the emergency room instead of making an appointment iwth a doctor. Basically you brought this to yourself for not taking care of your health before this was not an emergency.....
First off - if you've been having these pains for 6 months and haven't seen a doctor then you have no one to blame but yourself.
Having said that, they do blood and urine samples to see if you're pregnant, to check for infections and check to make sure your blood counts are normal.
ERs are incredibly busy anymore, because more and more they're being used as doctors offices. Just because it didn't "seem" busy doesn't mean it wasn't.
Oh, and if you're told not to do something while you're on a medicine - then don't effing do it. You have a problem with people knowing more than you - just accept it and move on.
I was on a medicine once for a TB exposure - they told me under no circumstances was I to drink alcohol...but I did (like you, I was 21)...it was the sickest I had ever felt. I was sure that being dead would be better. Luckily I was wrong and the feeling went away after a few hours. Yes, they absolutely CAN tell you what to do and how to do it (or not do it) because they want you to get better. You need to accept that and move on.
But you? You just have a bad attitude. ERs are busy as hell because of people just like you. Go to your regular doc or your OB/GYN. And yes, unless your head is in your hands you won't be seen very quickly...because quite frankly it's really not important enough. Had you been bleeding...you'd have gotten back soon. But even so, you were there for like 4 hours...and that's not a long wait AT ALL. Get over yourself.