I want my Girlfriend to lose weight, I cant help it - am I wrong?!
Question: When I met her she was perfect for me, now she needs to lose a few pounds, I feel she would be happier, she was happier when she was thinner.
Answers: When I met her she was perfect for me, now she needs to lose a few pounds, I feel she would be happier, she was happier when she was thinner.
Of course you are in the right, you know how many women sit and cry and wonder why they get less attention, it is our duty to eachother to stay fit and healthy, and you mentioned she was happier thinner so she is not happy now, so please keep on trying to help her , she is lucky to have you ,some guys are too chicken to say anything and the weight gain gets our of control and then it really hard to get off, you deserve her at her best and her love should make her want to give that to you ,good luck ,stock up on cranberry juice, natural fat remover,
that is wrong. stop being so shallow.
Maybe you should both start going to the gym together, even if you don't need to... kinda make it a couples thing to do together, instead of just telling her she needs to lose weight. I think that most people in a relationship want to look their best for the person they care about, but doing it alone isn't always easy.
Ask her to work out with you! NEVER tell her she needs to lose a few pounds!! Just invite her to play a sport together... or start slow by asking her out for a walk once a week!!
Worked on me!! ; p
Well If your doing it because you feel she would look better for it (Meaning You can show her off) and people wont glare as much at you in the street.. that could to an extent be wrong.
But if you do it because you care about her health and well being then I wouldnt really say that was wrong!
Believe it or not, LOVE IS A DECISION. You either accept her as she is, love her as she is, or the only other option is that you don't love her. You love what she could be. You can't change anyone but yourself. If you can't change yourself enough to love her unconditionally, you should look at you, not her. Perhaps she was happier when she was thinner, as it is clear when someone we love is not accepting us just as we are. I believe that if you truely love who she is, her weight shouldn't matter, unless having it matter originates from her, not you. Even then, all you can do is support her, which is really important in a relationship, and you are not giving even that. No real offense meant, I have to call em like I see em. I'm 50 and I've picked up a few things about how a relationship works and how it doesn't. What you're doing is one of those things that doesn't work.
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Not every woman can be "perfect" for their entire lives.
Get over yourself.
Accept her how she is.
you cant tell someone to change something so you are wrong there, however you can't change the way you feel.
dont tell her she needs to work out say WE need to as the previous poster said,( this is the best metod) dont buy her anything just say this would be cool, and offer to cook for her ( you get points with her, and you control her eating habits)
the reality is making her insecure with her weight does not make her want to lose it it will either have an adverse effect ( meaning she gets fatter) or she will become self conciosess bulimic, anorexic, or she may just cry and become depressed.
take her on jogs walks, to the beach, but never tell her she is fat women take these things to heart, and it hurts them deeply
think how you would like to be treated if you gained a few pounds. realistically you would be offened if she told you you had to lose weight.
if you are not willing to leave her over it then dont push the issue, just be happy you can have someone in your life who is special, many of us would be so lucky. however if you can't stand her you may be better of leaving her, but never tell her she is fat, even if you decide to leave.
Yes, you are wrong. That's completely the wrong approach to take and why is it she was perfect for you then, but now that she's gained some is no longer perfect for you? If you truly loved her then if wouldn't matter how she looked, you would love her for who she is on the inside and never question how she looked from without.
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So how 'overweight' is she? Has she had her cholesterol checked? Are you concerned about her HEALTH, or just how skinny she looks?
If you really want her to lose weight, start eating healthier foods and buying healthier when you go shopping. Take long walks with her. Ask her to work out with you because its lonely to workout by yourself.
Depending on her weight now and how she looks and how her health is, you could be wrong, or right. I really can't say.