I have a problem...or maybe we have a problem?!
Question: My bf and I tried to have sex 3 times and I was too tight. He tol me to relax and I wasn`t afraid at all, it must have been my muscles. Now, a friend of mine told me it could be him, i.e. he is not large enough and firm enough. Honestly, I don`t know what is the problem. It hurts a lot and it just won`t go in. What shoul I do? Can this problem be solved.Could it be that we`re not compatible for sex?
Btw, I`m 20, he is in his 30s.
Answers: My bf and I tried to have sex 3 times and I was too tight. He tol me to relax and I wasn`t afraid at all, it must have been my muscles. Now, a friend of mine told me it could be him, i.e. he is not large enough and firm enough. Honestly, I don`t know what is the problem. It hurts a lot and it just won`t go in. What shoul I do? Can this problem be solved.Could it be that we`re not compatible for sex?
Btw, I`m 20, he is in his 30s.
ok i've had this problem... i'll tell you how i did.. set yourself a night aside to just the two of you...get some personal lube of your choice and take your time...oral sex is a great relaxer... that will help you loosin up a good bit... and just enjoy it dear... it sounds like your stressin about it a little bit too much... yeah its a big deal but its meant to be fun..just remember though.. sex isn't everything
idk it might be you arent compatible or it just might be that three times isnt enough to loosen up.....or maybe he has some sort of issue on his part
I don't think its a matter of him not being large enough or tight enough it sounds like he might be too big for you. This may sound disgusting but if you want to have sex with him you may have to stretch yourself out. They sell things on the internet that will do that. It just seems extreme. Its up to you though.
buy some ky, maybe that would help......and the age is not the problem!
oh jeeze...idk! maybe yall should both go to the doctor together and ask the dr. he/she would give you the best answer! maybe go to the gyno or something....
Is this your first time to have sex, or were you sexually active before that...cuz it kinda makes a difference.
Me and my gf tried having sex for the first time (both of us) and it took us 3-4 times to get it right. It just wouldn't want to go in, and all that tightness made me softer.
The solution: Lots of foreplay, and KY...
and if it is your first time....don't worry, after some time you won't need KY anymore :)
ok if your a virgin it will be that way or if u aint had sex in a long time. my suggestion is to use lubrication and you should also try loosing yourself up a lil before you have sex.
Sounds like he's large enough, try using k-y jelly. If it's painful tell him to just go slow and once he's in your muscles should relax and it will be easier,and don't forget to use protection.
Your problem can be solved. You just need to make sure that you are ready and have plenty of foreplay. If that doesn't work try a lube. Try to relax. It always feels like my husband is stretching me. I'm 20 and he's 24 so it probably doesn't have anything to do with your not being compatible for sex. If it is uncomfortable every time, go see your doctor and ask what could be causing it.
i have the same problum, people are telling me tha my bf is too big and that i am too small, they are sugesting that we do more forplay to get me more wet, and try not contracting ur muscels it makes it harder for him to penatrate you
Go slow, use ky lubrication, use protection and remember, relax. Make sure he's doing a lot of foreplay, because it's not a myth:women need more foreplay. It's like shopping, women take their time, look around, try different thing, enjoy different sights, sounds and feelings. Men like get in and get out. LOL. :) What I"m trying to say is get him to remember to 'shop' like you----go slow, take your time, get really into the mood. If there is a continuing problem, talk to your doctor and see if there is anyhtign (s)he can help with. :)
This sounds ridiculous, it really sounded stupid when your friend said he may not be large enough.If you really like him and he's to big, just practise with something larger each time until you are able to handle him.
ky really helps..
I think all you guys need is some KY jelly, and loads of forplay. The vaginal walls stretch to allow babies pass, so it would be no problem for a penis to make it in. I just think you need a little bit of extra moisture. Especially if you are a virgin. Especially if you are using condoms. You are using condoms right??? *wink*!!!
I agree with lil country girl. I don't think he is too small ,but maybe too big for you. I also don't think the age difference is the problem either (although please be careful of that one). It will get better over time. A great form of foreplay is a whole body massage (ending up in the middle). Good luck.
It takes a while at first to "loosen up"
well maybe your ages could be a part of the problem!
genius.