Someone plz tell me giving birth is'nt THAT bad ..!?!
Question: I'm only 18, and don't plan on having a baby anytime soon, i'm not even married lol. I "love" kids, and want to have quite a few of my own, but i'm terribly afraid of giving birth~!! it's one of my biggest fears in life .. now don't tell me that i will forget all the pain once i see the baby, coz i know i will .. just tell me it's not as bad as everyone says it is ... ;( what about the pain killers they give you? do they help? and how much? but you cant have the baby if you numb, correct?
Answers: I'm only 18, and don't plan on having a baby anytime soon, i'm not even married lol. I "love" kids, and want to have quite a few of my own, but i'm terribly afraid of giving birth~!! it's one of my biggest fears in life .. now don't tell me that i will forget all the pain once i see the baby, coz i know i will .. just tell me it's not as bad as everyone says it is ... ;( what about the pain killers they give you? do they help? and how much? but you cant have the baby if you numb, correct?
First of all, you don't have to feel pain when you give birth. You *can* be completely numb and give birth. That's what epidurals do, pretty much. They numb you from the breastbone down, and all you feel is some pressure. Epidurals come with some risks, but most women do just fine with them.
I'm glad you're waiting. My first labor and delivery was difficult; my second was not. Take pre-natal classes such as Lamaze or anything that helps you relax. Sounds like you could use some relaxation now even. And, in fact, you can utilize these relaxation tips to keep your stress level low for the rest of your life.
Sorry hun I cant tell u that it's not that bad. All I can say is that if someone gave me the choice to go through it and have my baby or dont go through it and dont have my child I would go through it a million times. Lots of things help. You can have a baby if ur numb (with an epidural/spinal) but u cant always feel the contractions so u dont know when exactly to push and u might not be able to push hard enough. It's more likely that u will need interventions. Everyone is different, u never know how u will cope, u might take it all in ur stride. I wouldn't waste too much time thinkin about it now, enjoy urself until ur ready to become a mother, which by the way is the best thing in the world x
Sweetie-It is a nasty business-but truly they are right when they say it is all worth it when you see the baby.It is pain beyond belief,but although you can't imagine it now-you will be surprised at your ability to handle it.Having said that,I have to tell you that after 3 kids,the epidural was a godsend(had it for each one).Don't be afraid of it..even though the whole spinal injection thing is freaky,for me it made giving birth bearable;and I am a total chicken with pain.Luckily western hospitals are liberal with drugs and don't let us suffer.Take heart-I'm nearly 40,muscles are shot-but I'm going back for another go.See?even a total pain chicken goes again!Let nature take it's course-and don't feel shy to yell for pharmacutical help!By the way...make sure the man is supportive and at your side all the way-really helps the pain!
Cease to worry,sister-just find a good man/father!