I can't seem to orgasm?!
Question: I am 19 and I have never experienced an orgasm before. Everything he does feels amazing, but I can never climax. I feel so bad afterwards, because I know it is hurting his ego to think that he's not doing anything good enough, but NOTHING has gotten me there yet. I just didn't know if it was weird or not that I have been unable to orgasm. (We have been dating for a year, and "messing around" for about that long). If you know if this is normal or not, let me know...and if you have any suggestions to help me get there, that would be great! Thank you!
Answers: I am 19 and I have never experienced an orgasm before. Everything he does feels amazing, but I can never climax. I feel so bad afterwards, because I know it is hurting his ego to think that he's not doing anything good enough, but NOTHING has gotten me there yet. I just didn't know if it was weird or not that I have been unable to orgasm. (We have been dating for a year, and "messing around" for about that long). If you know if this is normal or not, let me know...and if you have any suggestions to help me get there, that would be great! Thank you!
Female orgasms are funny things,and I don't mean 'haha'.It's hard for us to get there.It's not only the physical things going on,it's the mental things as well.We have to be able to put all of our worries and thoughts aside and just 'be' in the moment,or they won't happen.The more relaxed you are and the more you just concentrate on the feeling of him and what he's doing,and not be thinking 'I have to have an orgasm...what's wrong with me...is it hurting his feelings?', the easier it will be.It takes a while for ours to build up,but once it does and you finally get there,there won't be any question of what it is.Some women's are so intense that they almost,or do pass out,so you'll know it when you do.Just relax and enjoy!
You and him or just you...are going to have to explore manually in your vagina to see what sets you off...there may be a place there that's pleasurable that hasn't been discoverd yet..this may be the best way...good luck and have fun.....
Don't worry. Only you know what turns you on. Tell him what feels good, guide him. And sometimes, women can only achieve orgasm by masturbation. It can take time to figure out how to get there, it's very common. Take some time to explore your body and see what sets you off. Good luck!
hmm girlie im very sorry that a very unfortunate problem..Does it at least feel good? Maybe try to "warm up" for like a 1/2 hour or so before sex by foreplay. Um also try masterbating..if you may be mes areound with yourself and feel wat feels good to you like if youi orgasm from your clitoris (front outside of the vagina) being stimulated or your G-spot (about 2 inches inside your Vagina). Then just maybe not bluntly but help him help yoiu by telling him what makes youi feel good!
Good Luck! :D
Don't sweat it honey , some girls don't it will happen your brain controlls it so close ur eyes and tighten up enjoy it and like a sneeze it will be a flush in your vagina