Serious, mature answers only please.....partner is 'well endowed'?!


Question: My fiance and I love each other a lot. Just a problem.....he is very 'large down there' and I am very 'small down there' if you get my drift.
He works away for three weeks at a time and when he comes back the sex hurts for the first few times just because it hasn't been 'used' for a while you know?
We use lots of lube etc. but it's just like every time we have sex I'm a virgin again you know!!!??? Just because he is so huge and it makes it hurt sometimes. BTW my partner is very supportive and he always stops if I say it hurts too much.
Does anyone have any suggestions? Serious answers only please.


Answers: My fiance and I love each other a lot. Just a problem.....he is very 'large down there' and I am very 'small down there' if you get my drift.
He works away for three weeks at a time and when he comes back the sex hurts for the first few times just because it hasn't been 'used' for a while you know?
We use lots of lube etc. but it's just like every time we have sex I'm a virgin again you know!!!??? Just because he is so huge and it makes it hurt sometimes. BTW my partner is very supportive and he always stops if I say it hurts too much.
Does anyone have any suggestions? Serious answers only please.

Do you masturbate while he's gone? If you do, use a dildo (or similar inanimate object!) that is slightly smaller than he is. Then, gradually start using a "larger" size and ease your way into working with something that big. That way, when he comes back, you'll be prepared, and the muscles "down there" will have stretched and relaxed a bit!

Not a lot to say.

You could try to keep your self, um, "open" for him through manual methods while he is away.

It is very elasticated down there and you should be able to accommodate him - using plenty of lube should help but maybe more foreplay is also needed before the actual deed

Get a dildo the same size and use it all the time when he is gone. That part of your body is made to strech so it will get used to the size.

WIsh I had your problem!!!!!!!
Anywhoo, why not go together to one of those sex shops and get a vibrator that is large
Every day while he is away you can use the replacement so that you dont 'forget' downthere

Wrap a hand towl around the base.

I know of someone that had the same problem. It is probably that you are built small and if you ever have children.This will also be hard. Probably need to talk with a professional.Because it sound like the two of you are doing every thing that you can on your own.

try the pregnancy massage it's supposed to stretch the tisuues in your vaginal area and pernium (spelling stinks, I know).

http://pregnancy.about.com/cs/episiotomy...

Oh thats no good :(

this may sound like a stupid answer but it may help...if you and you're fiancee discuss it (or just keep it to yourself if you like) you could buy a dildo to use everynow and then while he's away, it might stop it hurting so much? Im not sure if it can, but if your parts get 'used' more maybe it will elongate it a bit?

Hope i was some help ;)

it sounds like you are doing everything possible to make it easier. you could try using a vibrator when hes away just so it's "used" when he gets back. you could try the doctors to see if there is any other things you could try.

I had the exact same thing with an ex of mine. extra lube is definatley the way to go. I'd also suggest different positions like maybe you on top so that you can control how far in he goes. Some positions penetrate more than others so just try a few different things with him until you find something that works for both of you. Over time you will slowly become more "looser" and it wont hurt as much.
Good luck!! :-)

Hi there. I do know what you mean as my husband is quite fortunate in that department also. The first part of your problem you already seem to have covered and that is the support of a loving partner. Secondly, may I suggest alternative positions so that you can "control" the situation. The other thing worth remembering is that intercourse is only a part of the whole love making spectrum, perhaps there's other things you could do to occupy yourselves. I can appreciate the sensitivity though as lovemaking in the late stages of my pregnancy was a little uncomfortable. You could also try some massage prior to the deed, so that you are really relaxed and perhaps not so anxious about the prospect of expected discomfort.
Good luck with it all, I'd rather too much than not enough!

I'm sure there are ways to come around this problem, but I guess the only suggestion is to tell him to only go in a couple inches and work with that. Of course, at the heat of the moment, that's virtually impossible, but he is supportive as you say. Sex is difficult for men and women of all sizes, ain't it? well sometimes.

masturbate when he is away





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