I'm 22 and am not interested in sex anymore, Whats going on?!
Question: I'm 22, I have been with my husband for almost a year now, I have a 2 year old daughter, and I am really having a rough time wanting to have sex. I just never feel motivated or turned on enough to have sex, so, my poor husband, is left in the feeling that I am only doing it to make him happy, I really need some help, and some answers as to why my libido has totally shut down.
Answers: I'm 22, I have been with my husband for almost a year now, I have a 2 year old daughter, and I am really having a rough time wanting to have sex. I just never feel motivated or turned on enough to have sex, so, my poor husband, is left in the feeling that I am only doing it to make him happy, I really need some help, and some answers as to why my libido has totally shut down.
When you said you had a 2-year-old daughter, I just nodded and thought "ah, there we go."
You may simply just be exhausted -- two-year-olds are fun, but they are also a handful, and you may just be completely wiped out at the end of the day!
Does your husband take an equal share of the care for your daughter (i.e., feeding her, putting her to sleep, etc.)? It may be as simple as that. Mind, I'm not saying your husband is a slacker; it just sometimes shakes down that one parent or the other does a bit more of the grunt work, and that can wear you out. Very young children can be tiring even when you DO both take an equal share of the work -- maybe seeing if Grandma can take your daughter off your hands for a few days and letting you and your husband just relax a little may give you a chance to get some sleep for a change, and that may help.
But it you may just be plain old tired, and that may be all it is. Giving yourself a break to take care of *you* is important too. Good luck.
See your doctor that's not normal. Maybe it's a side effect from some medication you are taking? That can happen with some anti-depressants and with certain kinds of birth control pills as well.
Lack of sex drive (lack of libido) is common in women, but quite rare in men. The American Medical Association has estimated that several million US women suffer from what doctors there call 'female sexual arousal disorder' (FSAD).
As is the case with men, lack of desire in women can be of either physical or psychological origin.
Physical causes
Anaemia, which is very common in women because of iron loss during periods.
Alcoholism.
Drug abuse.
Major diseases such as diabetes.
Post-baby coolness, a term we have coined for the loss of libido that often happens after childbirth. It is almost certainly linked to hormonal changes that occur at this time. The general trauma of childbirth also plays a part - and after having a baby, many women are too exhausted to think about sex.
Prescribed drugs, particularly tranquillizers.
Hyperprolactinaemia - a rare disorder in which the pituitary gland is overactive.
Psychological causes include:
depression
stress and overwork
anxiety
hang-ups from childhood
past sexual abuse or rape
latent lesbianism
serious relationship problems with your partner
difficult living conditions, eg sharing a home with parents or parents-in-law.
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