Is it lame to move back in with parents IF... Please help!!!?!
Question: I'm married with 1 daughter. We can't afford to have me not work, but I desperately hate my job and my life right now because I'm very unhealthy and want time to dedicate to myself for once to get healthy. To do that I feel like we'd need to move in with my parents for a few months to get my health on track. Also, my daughter has a developmental disability, so this would be great for me to spend time with her to have her flourish as well.
Is it lame to move back in with them for a few months to get my life on track? I think it would even give me a bit of time to take a class to get my skills up to find a better job, too..
In all I feel its a great idea. My husband would still work...
What do you think? We'd pay my parents, too, but is it lame?
Thank you.
Answers: I'm married with 1 daughter. We can't afford to have me not work, but I desperately hate my job and my life right now because I'm very unhealthy and want time to dedicate to myself for once to get healthy. To do that I feel like we'd need to move in with my parents for a few months to get my health on track. Also, my daughter has a developmental disability, so this would be great for me to spend time with her to have her flourish as well.
Is it lame to move back in with them for a few months to get my life on track? I think it would even give me a bit of time to take a class to get my skills up to find a better job, too..
In all I feel its a great idea. My husband would still work...
What do you think? We'd pay my parents, too, but is it lame?
Thank you.
No i don't think it's lame. Every day we hear news reports about people who had tragic things happen to them because they were too stressed out. It's wonderful that your parents will help you to get back on track and relax.
No, not at all! It sounds like you and your family could really use the extra support for a while. Especially when you've got a kid to think about, doing what's going to make everybody healthiest and happiest in the long run is always the smartest choice. :)
no not really my parents move back when i was like 3 i found it great be cause i got to spend alot of time wit them,now we have lived in our own hose for 8 years but i still enjoy that time at my grandparents
If your parents have enough room for all of you, I think it is a great idea. One thing to watch out for though, is that your parents will soon be switching from grandparent mode back to parent mode. Most grandparents enjoy spoiling their grandchildren so you need to make it clear to your parents, before you move in, where you stand as far as rules go. The last thing you need is for your parents to allow your daughter to do something that you do not agree with. That is just a small issue though. If you really feel like your health is not where it needs to be at this point in time, then it is a good step to take so you can get back on your feet. Just be aware that this could take some time. Most of the time, when we view something as temporary it becomes something more permanent than what we expected.
You need to do what is right for you and your family and if that means moving in with your parents so be it. That's what families are for to help you when you need help just as much as if they needed your help you would be there. Focus on getting better and embrace the fact you have a wonderful family to help at this time.
do what feels right take care of yourself and your family, i
moved out when i was 19 and it felt so good, i could not imagine living with my parents again, unless of course i had to
Well, every situation is different, but on the surface, it sounds pretty lame to me. I really don't see how moving in with your parents is gonna solve your personal problems. You gotta get a grip on those yourself. They really can't help you and shouldn't have to. It would not be fair to them, or to your husband for that matter.
Since you hate your job, get a new one. Seek counseling for "hating" your life. Educate yourself about good nutrition and the value of exercise . Implementing what you learn might do wonders for both your physical and mental health.
Get a grip on you life so you can be a good example to your daughter. You'll be very proud of yourself for doing so.
Good luck.
When a man and women get married then they are to leave their parents and cleave to each other. Maybe you should get a smaller place. Moving in with your parents should not be an option. Why should you put them in the situation to have to take care of you. My sister did this to my parents and it caused a lot of friction and fighting. They were not as close after the situation. I don't think it would be a good idea.
It's not lame at all. 2 forward, one back, right?? It sounds like that is a good option for you and your daughter in the long run.