My dad is gay, and is making me move to england?!
Question: i am 11 years old. my mother died giving birth to my younger sister, who died at birth. my dad's fiance is also gay. which means he is a man. they are moving to england so they can get married, but that means i have to move with them! i have moved so many times because when the neighbors find out my dad is gay, they make fun of him and gets so bad we have to move. in total i have moved 24 times. :( its hard making friends as it is, but with gay dadS?!?!?!?! i do not know what to do. my dad has sex everynight with this man, i can hear it through the apartment walls. and when i empty the trashcans in they're room, all i ever find is used trojans. grossss. i don't want my dad to be gay anymore! what do i do!?
Answers: i am 11 years old. my mother died giving birth to my younger sister, who died at birth. my dad's fiance is also gay. which means he is a man. they are moving to england so they can get married, but that means i have to move with them! i have moved so many times because when the neighbors find out my dad is gay, they make fun of him and gets so bad we have to move. in total i have moved 24 times. :( its hard making friends as it is, but with gay dadS?!?!?!?! i do not know what to do. my dad has sex everynight with this man, i can hear it through the apartment walls. and when i empty the trashcans in they're room, all i ever find is used trojans. grossss. i don't want my dad to be gay anymore! what do i do!?
Sorry hun, but you cant change your dads sexuality. But you live in that house as well, They should respect you and keep the noise down. As or tidying up after them is just wrong. You need to talk to your dad about this.
As for moving, England is not so bad, you have two choices. Either move with him, or spread your wings and move out. Good luck.
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I have just read through some answers and 'Ordinary Me' said two gay mean don't need protection. Please don't listen to her. It is essential.
If you are only 11 years old, then you are NOT supposed to be on this site. See TOS
OK, 21.. If you have hearing aids and you can hear your dad and bf in the throes of passion, then why don't you shut your hearing aids off?? Also why would you even mention hearing aids, that has nothing to do with the 1 and 2 being next to each other on a keyboard??
Thats freakin nasty
accept it. then move. make friends. pray to god. focus on school work. then b4 u know it u will be 18 and u can move out and never have to look at ur dads gay face again. If he treats u like dirt and only looks out for hijmself then just make sure you look out for yourself. Try to make friends but also just mainly focus opn getting smarter, stonger, and having more faith. Look out for yourself.
Judging by your answers to some questions I'm guessing you're just looking for attention. And on top of that, you're only 11.
Ohhh you're 21?? Right. Then you don't need to be living with your parents. Easy enough.
Consult your school and local authorities for help.you need to speak to as many people as posible.
Hun, 2 gay men DO NOT need protection!! And why is this in the Womens Health section??
EDIT: Judging your grammer and capital lettering, you are not fooling any body with your I'm 21 act!
If this is seriously true, then I suggest you sell the story to Lifetime, cause this is movie of the week material.
You must be from the US then, because gay marriage is legal in Canada. Don't worry, most people in the UK are more accepting of homosexuals than they are in the US so I really don't see that as a reason that you won't make friends.
Unfortunately, there's no way to make your Dad "not gay".
If you have hearing aids then take them out at night so you can't hear them having sex if it bothers you so much.
that really sucks, try to have a serious conversation with him about being gay. it will at least affect his opinion about his status.
Well sweetheartfirst off i'm sorry about your lil sister and your mother. My heart goes out to you. I feel sorry for you but there is seriously nothing you can do about your father. Thats the way he chooses to be. =/ I mean atleast he's using condoms so he won't catch any type of disease but i wouldn't mess with that garbage can if i were you. Thats just really gross if you do please use disinfectn spray and rubber gloves. I know it must kill you that your alone on this situation and then to top it all off your dads qay. You should just blast your music when you hear them having sex or leave the house go sit outside or something. Maybe even confront him about it maybe they can chill out maybe wait till you are sleeping or something. Well good luck with everything hun. I'll pray for you.
well you should accept it
if you are 11 you are not meant to be using this sight
in another post you said you were 43 and now you are saying 21
i do not think you deserve to have your rather personal questions answered
get help
Ask Jesus to help you and he will. He has always helped me when i need help for anything just ask Him
He still loves you no matter what
He will help you
Honey you need someone to talk to ,a proffesional,therapyst,some one who deals with children that have gay parents,it would help you deal with this better than this site ,you dont need to be on here anyway,you might get some nasty answers ,that may make you feel worse than you already do,if you have any family to stay with ,maybe thats what you should consider,this gay thing is not good for you ,you are11,you need a stable life,hang in there and dont give up on yourself,love your dad,you dont have to like that he is gay.LOTS OF LOVE TO YOU !!!HANG TOUGH!!!!!FROM KATHYA!!!!!!!
LOL your family is really screwed (with what happend to your mom, sister, and now dad). You've had enough! :-(
I'm sorry but I don't think there is nothing you can do about your dad's gay relationship. It's his life and he's probably not going to stop loving men just because of his daughter.
Since your 21 now and legal, why don't you just move out and get your own apartment. You can still make it with your hearing aid i guess.
Try talking to your dad about how you feel, it might not help the whole gay situation out, but it will help the father/daughter relationship much better. Try talking him in to moving to New York City, there's tons of gays living here in manhattan. There's even a whole neighborhood of them living in "the village". I'm sure your dad and his lover will feel right at home in manhattan.
and i do have to agree with you about hearing them having sex every night lol... that would also freek me out!