Question about going to the gynecologist?!
Question: well i am 13 and going for the first time. am i expected to shave? i do already but do they prefer you to or not? is there anything i should expect or they expect from me? thanks!
Answers: well i am 13 and going for the first time. am i expected to shave? i do already but do they prefer you to or not? is there anything i should expect or they expect from me? thanks!
Well it may not be as bad as some people on her have suggested - you are 13 years old; and unless you are sexually active, it is probably only going to be an external exam and blood work ect.
TO SHAVE OR NOT
Do NOT shave - the doctor will become seriously concerned about a 13 year old who shaves.
*******More importantly, more than likely the doctor will want to look at the growth line on your pubic hair - is it straight, is your pubic hair thicker in one spot more than the other - it is all to do with hormones and the release of such within your age bracket - looking at your pubic hair is a legimiate medical diagnosis tool. You can ask the doctor if you like.
TAKE MUM BEHIND THE CURTAIN OR NOT?
It is up to you if you let your mother stand there and hold your hand. Chances are if you are not sexually active, and or if you value your privacy, you do not want your mother to see some strange man poking about your nether regions. You may be far more comfortable with just you and the doctor behind the curtain - that way your mother cannot see your face and cannot make comments which you may find embarassing and not at all comforting at the time. However, you can ask her to sit outside the curtains nearby, or go out of the room - chances are the doctor will have a nurse in attendance any way.
AN INTERNAL EXAMINATION
The doctor will use a spectlum; I doubt that you will be having a pap smear - unless you volunteer that you have been sexually active for a couple of years (and won't mom hit the roof if she hears that little confession). Scraping the cervix does hurt some women.
FORMS OF EXAMINATION - maunal
The doctor may examine you through your vagina manually - just using his gloved and well creamed fingers - or depending what is wrong with you and if he is trying to perserve your non-sexually active status (e.g. not break your hymen) he may examine you through your anus; again with his fingers. An examination through the anus does not hurt (it is done for apendex as well as gyno). It does feel a bit funny thought when you are not use to it - but remember your doctor's fingers are smaller than anything that you may expel from your anus - and have been well-creamed to make it easier.
FORMS OF EXAMINATION with spectlum
If he uses the spectlum you can ask him to USE THE SMALLEST SIZE PLEASE AND LOTS OF CREAM. He will probably do that any way but it gives him a hint that you are feeling uncomfortable and nervous and he may go a bit gentler and slower. If it hurts TELL HIM. Some of the doctors can be pigs - particularly if it is not a private doctor.
Now to put this delicately - if you have been have a bit of a little fiddle down below and trying out your equipment - and it involved fingers or other objects going in and out; or if you have played rough sport - you may have already broken your hymen. If that is the case a spectlum going in will be easier - if not it may hurt rather a lot depending on how much of your hymen is left - and how big it was to start - you will not scream in pain - but it will hurt - the good news is when it does come time to have sex the doctor having a good old fiddle down there will make it much easier for your partner to gain entry.
THE DOCTORS FINGER EXAMINATION
Chances are the doctor will more than likely just do a manual vagina examination to check for growths, lumps, unusual development that cannot be felt from your tummy because your internal organs (depending on your size and height) may not allow him access - do NOT tighten your vagina when he inserts his fingers - practice been relaxed - it makes it much easier - your vagina is like a spiniker - when the muscles tense up it makes it harder to open.
If the doctor uses a spectlum do the same thing - try to relax your vaginal entry as much as possible. I do not wish to sound crude; but if you are sexually inactive I would perhaps have a bit of a practice in your bedroom in private.
Remeber you have the right to;
a) ask the doctor not to use a spectlum - which really is only to look at the cervix - and at 13 years old probably not a priorty.
b) the right to ask your mother to sit outside the curtain; or leave the room - providing there is a nurse with the doctor - it is about what makes you more comfortable - but no doctor can examine you internally without a second person; either a mum or a nurse nearby and able to at least hear what is going on
c) you have the right to stop the examination at any time - forget what mom says about finding out what is wrong - it is your body - if you are not comfortable speak up
d) you have the right to be fully informed as to what the doctor is going to do and how he is going to do it - not just mom - the doctor should treat you as though you have equally worth to your mother's opinon
e) you have the right to feel as though you are been heard, your wishes are adhered to and you are treated like a person
Do NOT let medical students practice on you - INSIST that you only WANT AN EXPERIENCED DOCTOR BECAUSE OF YOUR AGE.
Good luck - the first time is the worst PROMISE.
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nope just relaxxx....theyll ask questions about your sexual background (hopefully you have none) because what ever you do dont lie about your sexual background and if anything tell your mom to leave the room. and if it comes to this theyll stick this tube up you it doesnt hurt just uncomfortable (((bestanswer)))??
it doesnt really matter the doctor isnt really staring how nice and shave your vagina is they just open you up and thats all
no they wouldnt
theyre not actually looking at the outside of your vagina
more like the inside
so it doesnt matter if you shave or not
No they do not expect you to shave-don't if you don't want to. Personally I do just b/c it makes me feel better lol. But seriously-just shower right before, spray on some body spray to smell good-or lotion, don't use any tampons the day of or before...and you're good to go. They don't expect anything else of you. And unless you're a sexually active 13 y/o, don't expect a pelvic or pap smear....
For them, they are doctors so just remember it's like they're looking at a throat. They see it alllll day long.
Wanted to add-if they did comment on anything like if you shave or not, I'd find a different doctor.
nothing is expected of you. NO they dont want you to shave or not shave that I would say is your preference.
Your first time will be alot of different kinds of questions. Be prepared to tell them all about your menstrual cycles if they have started. they want to know the length , how many days you flow. let them know if you experience PMS. IF you have anything going on during that time of the month. They will do a pap test and breast exam.
Just be open and remain calm. the first time is always the hardest but after the doctor wins your trust you will feel more comfortable every year that you go.
Just relax.
you dont have to shave...everything---just whatever you would normally shave.
Just relax and have your mom or a nurse in there since it's your first time. Good luck, it'll be fine, it's like going to the dentist, you really dont want to but you have to and it's only once or twice a year, okay!????!!!!
Sweetheart, the gyno's aren't there to judge you on whether you have chosen to shave or not to shave, whether you have pink pubic hair or brown, and if they did comment on it id tell him or her to mind their own business! they are there to make sure you are well and healthy up there on the inside!
the only thing they expect from you is to be completely honest about anything they ask. you have the option of having your parent in the room with you or not and some doctors dont allow them back there anyways [but you being so young, thats likely not the case]
one thing i'd recommend is showering before you go because they will give you a papsmear. and trust me, its going to be really uncomfortable but atleast you'll know for sure if there is anything wrong [but hopefully there isnt]
good luck<3
They don't care if you shave or not. I always shave because I want to look clean. But seriously they see everything and they don't care either way. I take it you are getting a pap smear. Well if you are a virgin expect pain. If you are not a virgin just expect discomfort. The whole process doesn't take long, first the tell you to get naked and put on a paper gown and you keep the open part up front. Then they come in and they do a Breast Exam, its not painful unless your breasts are sore due to PMS. Then they have you put your legs in the stirrups and scoot your bottom all the way at the edge of the table, seriously it feels like your going to fall off. And they want you to relax and let your legs fly open. Just lay there and BREATHE! Your almost done, the Doctor will then tell you that you will feel something cold (spectrum with cold Ky) and she inserts the spectrum inside *she will probably tell you that you will feel pressure* If your a virgin this is the part that hurts!! If your not it doesn't hurt its just a bit uncomfy. Once the Spectrum is in place I believe they put 2 long cotton swabs inside for samples. YOu can't feel that...the 1 part that does hurt is when they insert a small brush inside you...it's like a long cotton swab but it has small bristles on the end and you do feel that. They scrap the inside of your cervix with it. Then that is it. They take the specturm out and the doctor puts KY on her fingers and put's them inside you and pushes on your stomach and that is it. After the breast exam the Vaginal exam lasts about 90seconds. Good Luck
it doesn't matter either way. they see all sorts of different people, those who shave, those who trim, and those that are totally natural. they don't really care, and it doesn't really effect your health one way or another, so it's not an issue.
No, you are not expected to shave. The only thing that the doctor expects is that the patients come in for their exam clean and odor free.
The nurse will ask you a lot of questions. You must give truthful answers, otherwise you may not get correct medical advice. Don't be embarrassed. I doubt that there is anything that you could tell them that they havent's already heard before.
You might ask them about the Gardasil vaccine which will help prevent HPV (the same strain of virus that causes genital warts and cervical cancer). You will have to discuss this with your mom.
If you have a pap smear, it will be a little embarassing, but it will be much easier if you just relax and breath slowly. If you are tense, it will be more uncomfortable.