What do i do??!!! i am about to go crazy....?!


Question: I HAVE TRAFFIC TICKETS DATING BACK TO 2001, AMOUNTING TO ABOUT 4000.00 TOTAL. I LIVE IN MY HUSBANDS HOMETOWN, 2000 MILES AWAY FROM ALL THAT I KNOW, I HAVE DEBT UP TO MY EARS, GETTING READY TO START SCHOOL FOR THE RN PROGRAM I HAVE BEEN EXCEPTED INTO, MY HUSBAND IS SO DISTANT THAT I FEEL LIKE WE ARE ROOMMATES, HE DRINKS EVERY NIGHT AND DOESNT PAY ANY ATTENTION TO ANYTHING I AM SAYING OR HAVE DONE ALL DAY LONG JUST TO MAKE SURE HE COMES HOME TO A PLEASANT AND CLEAN HOME, MY TWO YR OLD IS BATTLING SOME COMPLICATIONS WITH HIS SICKLE CELL DISEASE AND I JUST DONT KNOW WHERE AND HOW TO START GETTING A GRIP AND GETTING MY LIFE TOGETHER!!! I AM IN TEARS EVERYTIME I THINK ABOUT ALL THIS STUFF. SOMEONE, ANYONE, PLEASE GIMME SOMETHING .....


Answers: I HAVE TRAFFIC TICKETS DATING BACK TO 2001, AMOUNTING TO ABOUT 4000.00 TOTAL. I LIVE IN MY HUSBANDS HOMETOWN, 2000 MILES AWAY FROM ALL THAT I KNOW, I HAVE DEBT UP TO MY EARS, GETTING READY TO START SCHOOL FOR THE RN PROGRAM I HAVE BEEN EXCEPTED INTO, MY HUSBAND IS SO DISTANT THAT I FEEL LIKE WE ARE ROOMMATES, HE DRINKS EVERY NIGHT AND DOESNT PAY ANY ATTENTION TO ANYTHING I AM SAYING OR HAVE DONE ALL DAY LONG JUST TO MAKE SURE HE COMES HOME TO A PLEASANT AND CLEAN HOME, MY TWO YR OLD IS BATTLING SOME COMPLICATIONS WITH HIS SICKLE CELL DISEASE AND I JUST DONT KNOW WHERE AND HOW TO START GETTING A GRIP AND GETTING MY LIFE TOGETHER!!! I AM IN TEARS EVERYTIME I THINK ABOUT ALL THIS STUFF. SOMEONE, ANYONE, PLEASE GIMME SOMETHING .....

Calm down hun. Just remember that you have the power to change life. I think that the first thing to do is to talk to your hubby. Tell him that you want to talk with him. And tell him that you really love him and it hurts you a lot to see him come home drunk everyday. Do NOT get whiny or play the blame game. Just tell him your feelings, plain and simple, and ask him if he'll stay home a bit more. Tell him it would make you really happy and that you'd appreciate it a lot.

As for your kid, take him to a parent support group. There's a lot out there. Just go online or talk to a friend. Maybe if your husband is out, you can invite a friend (or make a new friend) to come over. Talking with friends help a lot.

And as for yourself, as I stated before, talking with a friend helps a lot. And go get counseling if you want. It's really relaxing and helpful. I went before for a couple months and talking with another person really really helped me.

And NEVER start drinking like your hubby. It'll destroy your life.

For the money problem, take some online classes so that you can get a better job. Online classes are generally cheap, or go to a nearby community college.

The world is full of possibilities hun, and if you try (write down in your journal, make a list of "what to do") i'm sure that your life will improve. =)

And there's always people who are willing to help out there, like me. Email me if you need to talk. =)

Have you tried prayer? I'm not being funny or rude. Jesus is there, he'll listen to you. You're not alone.

I will pray for you...

Awww sweetie don't cry. Actually crying usually makes you feel better, so do all the crying you want to!! :) Just talk to your huband about it and say that it would be appreciated if you had his support with what you do, and that it would be nice if he would stop drinking and that you need someone. I WILL PRAY FOR YOU!! and i dont know if your religious or anything but praying and trusting in God definately gives you a peace because it lets you know that someone is there listening to you! Ill say a prayer for you right now
Lord I want to raise up to you this woman as she is going through a lot of stress and give her the strength to carry through and talk to her husband about whats been going on, and let there be a drastic change in his behavior and that he would be more understanding. I also lift up to you her 2 year old with sickle cell, and put your hand on him and let him be healed. I also pray that she seeks you God and finds comfort in you and what you do. In Jesus name. Amen

I hope this helps comfort you!! I wish you the best. God bless

I'm sorry you're having to deal with all of this at once. You are definitely facing a lot of trials. I wish I had words of wisdom to give you, but this is all I know:

www.mormon.org .

Please visit the website and see what it says. It has brought os much peace and comfort into my life and I know that it cna bring peace and comfort into yours as well.

live with your mom for a while? maybe just breathe take it day to day and know it will slowly get better. you need support too, from girlfriends or family. just think that after you complete your rn prgram you will have more money, experience and friends so it will get better.

Well, first of all, you have to get a grip. Stop freaking out!

Secondly, all these problems just didn't magically appear overnight. You have been making poor decisions on top of poor decisions.

You have to begin doing the right things and stop living in the moment...stop all that self-gratifying.

It will take a while for you to clean up your messy life but, if you do the right things, it'll slowly come together.

hey.Very sorry to hear yur in a mess.If i was in yur position,i'll pray.Prayer is very very powerful (: Trust in God okay?
Ill pray for yu sweetie.I think yu need to talk to someone ure really close cos when u talk it out,u will feel alot lot better (: trust God.Pray yeah dear :]
Hope everything goes well.Keep holding there dear !!

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