Why cant I orgasm?!
Question: I have been on anti-depressants for awhile, and I know that that might be the problem.
But I can always feel RIGHT before I'm going to but it never comes :(
What's going on?
I'm not thinking about it too much,
I just seem to think about it more when we're done because he's pleasured and I was, but I've never reached orgasm.
Any advice? Anything?
Answers: I have been on anti-depressants for awhile, and I know that that might be the problem.
But I can always feel RIGHT before I'm going to but it never comes :(
What's going on?
I'm not thinking about it too much,
I just seem to think about it more when we're done because he's pleasured and I was, but I've never reached orgasm.
Any advice? Anything?
This is something you've got to do for yourself. Until you know what you like, you can't teach him what you like. Time for some self-exploration.
Many women will never orgasm from vaginal sex, BTW. They require more clitoral stimulation.
Have you ever attempted any clitoral stimulation?
Some women can not reach orgasm through just vaginal penetration...
Probably your guy is a quick one, before you get a chance to release all feeling your man already had blown it
its very common for women to not orgasm during intercourse. I rarely do, but it doesnt mean I cant enjoy sex
i had the same problem. had never had an orgasm other than manually or orally until 2 years ago. you would be surprised that more women have not ever had an orgasm than women that have. it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. try talking to your gyno.
Most women can't reach a full orgasm from just vaginal intercourse. Try rubbing on your clit (with a little lubricant.. try astroglide) while he is thrusting is thing. Or if you do it doggie, let him reach around and pleasure you there too.
It sucks, but I have the same problem. Also, if I'm intoxicated or have used "herbs" it seems to relax too. Illegal, but it helps with JUST vaginal intercourse.
80% of women do not achieve orgasm through penetrative sex alone. Most need clitoral stimulation.
Its the antidepressant. Have your doctor change it and try something different. My Dr. put me on Paxil, and I could not have an orgasm. I would get so close, but it would not happen, which left me very frustrated and more depressed. I switched to a different med and the problem is gone. No problems orgasming now. Woo hoo!
Normally, I do not like to put this business out but when a sista needs help....
Sue Johansen on Talk Sex with Sue is great. I thought I was the only one with this problem until I started watching her shows.
First thing is that most females.....80%+ can not reach orgasm with penetration...so only 20% can climax with a man in them...sad for us. For me I must lay on my stomach and squeeze my legs very tight for about 20 second and BAM!
Now granted there has been a lot of work up to that point...and yes your anti depressants will have an effect...but normally it makes you not want to have sex....make sure you know your body and get what you nedd during sex...experiment whenyou are alone...nothing worst than sweating and not getting the medal. GL
what ever was said about some women just cant reach orgasm through vaginal penetration is so wrong...this is absolutely not true...before i go any further let me tell u that my profession is sensual enhancement and i know my facts. every woman has a g spot there for every woman can have a g spot orgasm...certain medications dry u up including antidepressants...antihistamines and antibiotics as well as birth control. if u are on antidepressants u will also lose sex drive. an other thing is that the longer one goes w out sex the harder it is to get ur motivation back...force ur self to have intercourse one a day for a week. during the deed think of nothing other than how ur body feels right here and now. u can try different lotions and potions to stimulate u..my personal favorite is oral-gasm creme in mint chocolate chip...its an arousal balm u can find it at http://athenashn.com. most women do not know where their g spot is so let me tell u that ur g spot is about the size of a pea and is located 2 inches below ur navel on the frontal wall of ur vagina...when u r about to orgasm it will feel like u have to urinate but as long as u know u emptied ur bladder u will not pee, ur g spot touches ur bladder and this is why u feel this sensation..ride out that feeling and in a few moments u will experience ur bliss! good luck and i hope i helped u...NOW GO GET UR MAN AND GET UR ORGASM ON!!!!
I bet it is the anti-depressant. I am taking zoloft and it gave me that side effect. I have heard that taking ginkgo biloba can reverse that effect. I'm going to try it. I'm not a doctor though. I just read about a study that was done on it online. Have you tried taking a day off from your meds? You could try that and see if your body cooperates. Then at least you would know if that is the reason. You can also try switching your meds. Hope this helps.
I think he needs to have a talk with someone... perhaps some coaching... It's all about technique and practice... u need to tell him how to get you there.... it's a journey that should be a "fantastic voyage"
I think you should pleasure yourself to find that "spot." During intercourse, guide him to your sensitive areas. If that doesn't work, my suggestion to you is to seek advice from an OBGYN.
do it with a woman....
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...I'd have to make a "personal" study of the problem... I'm sure I could help you... (but it would require several "sessions") to properly diagnose and formulate plan to get you to where you were accomplished in your quest.