Women, does this happen to you?!
Question: I was just wondering if it was normal for it to hurt a bit every time I start to have sex or not... I'm not a very big girl, and it might just be because of that, but I don't know for sure. It's just that every time my husband and I have sex, no matter how often or anything, it always hurts a tiny bit getting started and it takes a minute for me to be able to just go at it. It's kind of discouraging to the two of us because we get to messing around and have to slow down to get started at sex. I was just wondering if this was normal for most women.
(By the way, he's the only person I've ever had sex with so I haven't just had a ton of sex with a bunch of different guys and that may play into it)
Answers: I was just wondering if it was normal for it to hurt a bit every time I start to have sex or not... I'm not a very big girl, and it might just be because of that, but I don't know for sure. It's just that every time my husband and I have sex, no matter how often or anything, it always hurts a tiny bit getting started and it takes a minute for me to be able to just go at it. It's kind of discouraging to the two of us because we get to messing around and have to slow down to get started at sex. I was just wondering if this was normal for most women.
(By the way, he's the only person I've ever had sex with so I haven't just had a ton of sex with a bunch of different guys and that may play into it)
yes, it happens to me, too, even if i'm really lubed up. it doesn't last, and i'm also a small girl. i know it sucks having to slow down for actual insertion, but it's worth it to me. if my husband goes in and i stays still for a bit, then it doesn't hurt so much. and after a few seconds or so, it feels great. sorry i couldn't offer a solution, but at least you know it's not just you!
Have you tried using a personal lubricant.
tell him you want more foreplay
It is normal to a degree but it's still something you should discuss with your GYN or doctor. In fact, I went in to my doctor last week for a pap and she point-blank asked me "does sex hurt?". I told her I had no issues and her response was "okay, I just wanted to ask because alot of women have that problem but are afraid to say anything. It's an easy fix if you do have issues".
You need to get wetter- either by foreplay, or using a lubricant.
Also, it may be a psychological thing- if you know its going to hurt starting out, because it often does, getting into it can be harder- just relax. Maybe try rough sex.
I have been with my bf for almost 6 years and it hurts almost 1/2 of the time when we have sex because I'm so small and he is so much bigger than me. I used to think that it would go away when we got used to each other....it never has. We just have to do different positions that are more comfortable for me.
It hurts for me too in the beginning.. and towards the end.
Dyspareunia (say: "dis-par-oon-ya") is painful sexual intercourse for women. The pain can be in the genital area or deep inside the pelvis. The pain is often described as sharp, burning or similar to menstrual cramps. It can have many causes. It is important to talk to your doctor if you have this problem because there are effective treatments for many of the causes.
There is a whole explanation on the subject in this page and please talk to your Doctor.
Good Luck!
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that's like me too, even if i'm really wet it's still painful at the begining but afterwards it's fine, to me it's normal i think it's just due to his big d*ck lol !
Since you say it happens at the beginning, maybe you are too dry...and need more time to lubricate before having intercourse, that means more foreplay, or when you only have time for quickies, you can buy some products for lubrification. There are also more natural products, but I only know the name in French, it's "huile de bourraches"...an oil from a plant
Your body size should not have anything to do with it, try a little extra foreplay or some water based lubricant. Maybe it is that your husband is a little big and he should take a few extra minutes so not to hurt you. Also talk to your doctor about it because you might have some endometriosis and that is what is causing the pain.
It happens to me too. There are several things you can do about it. Go a bit longer during foreplay, or achieve orgasm before you actually begin to have sex. During female arousal, the vagina actually loosens a bit, and the uterus pulls further up into the body to make room for a penis. I know you said that isn't a matter of wetness, but use some lube. It really will help, and at least, it can't hurt to try it.
hi my wife and i us water based k y jelly you can buy it over the counter at your local boots it can add a bit more fun to sex
my husband use to hurt me until we invested in a sex toy wich made me much more wet and turned on so its better for both of us this way, i dont hurt anymore and he gets his undesturbed session with me afterwards, and i must say by the time im done he his driping with pleasure, can make for a much better sex life.
Im a small girl too. I'm only 4'11 and my BF is like 6'1!!
When we were starting to have sex, it hurt sooo bad. He was too big for me and i thought it was because of me being too small. Sometimes i even used to avoid having sex with him. Now i cant have enough of him. lol.
No kidding. My problem was that i wasnt wet enough and i hadnt had sex in a while.
Try having sex more often, maybe this will loosen you up. hehehe