A question about masterbation?!
Question: Im a 39 yr old woman and have been happily married 17 yrs..My husband and i have an active sex life so i rarely masterbate but when i have done this i have a lot of trouble having an orgasm..Sometime i will have 1 but it takes forever like half an hr or more and other times i get close but nothing will happen...When my husband and i make love i never have any trouble having 1 ...I stimulate my cl*t with my fingers...This isnt a problem cause i rarely do it but i was just wondering why its like this...
Answers: Im a 39 yr old woman and have been happily married 17 yrs..My husband and i have an active sex life so i rarely masterbate but when i have done this i have a lot of trouble having an orgasm..Sometime i will have 1 but it takes forever like half an hr or more and other times i get close but nothing will happen...When my husband and i make love i never have any trouble having 1 ...I stimulate my cl*t with my fingers...This isnt a problem cause i rarely do it but i was just wondering why its like this...
I am 31 and not married and i have similar problems as you do..for me its because its not the real deal..and no toys probably wont help this at all...its because you love your hubby and want him!!ANd thats great..just wait til he is ready andf you both enjoy not really a problem but there are others that experiance this...we just have minds that are more turned on by the man we are with other than what we think in our minds or try to think dont worry!!!Enjoy hubby!! take care!!
Do not be staunch or narrow minded about this act.
Do other things with your self as well.
Experiment with what makes you feel good...
You will find an action or method that suites you.
Important also is to use your mind.
Do not think about the kids or work problems while masturbating.
Let loose your mind and think of things like sex acts or even let your mind dwell on people you would like to be your lovers....
It is all so much part of the mind, so please, do not feel ashamed to think dirty thoughts while masturbating.
Let it be your secret...
Maybe you just really like the penetration, along with the stimulation. You could test that theory with sex toy along with stimulation. Or maybe you just really like the company of your man while your masterbating. Me personally I would rather have my husband in the room while im masterbating.. I can honestly say masterbation alone doesnt please me. I think i got so used to him watching me, that doing it alone just doesnt cut it. I need his gleaming eyes watching my every move, lol.. dont worry your not alone..
Buy a toy! they have ones that stimulate both in and out. also it may be psychological ( women have to be turned on in their mind) .