Why dont my friends masturbate?!
Question: im 17, im a female..and whenever my friends and i are talking, masturbation sometimes comes up (i never bring it up), and they all say things like "i wouldnt do that, its gross" or like "oh, i dont even know how to do it, thats what a man is for"
i just keep my mouth quiet and agree with them..personally ive been doing it for a long time...like at least a few years...
why dont my friends do it, why is it so gross? i thought it was common
Answers: im 17, im a female..and whenever my friends and i are talking, masturbation sometimes comes up (i never bring it up), and they all say things like "i wouldnt do that, its gross" or like "oh, i dont even know how to do it, thats what a man is for"
i just keep my mouth quiet and agree with them..personally ive been doing it for a long time...like at least a few years...
why dont my friends do it, why is it so gross? i thought it was common
I think they are full of it. LOTS of girls masturbate - it's just that none of us admit to it because for girls it's thought of as naughty.
BTW - it's a PERFECTLY NORMAL THING!
It's NOT gross - our society has just ingrained in us that pleasuring ourselves is bad. Masturbation is tolerated in boys because "they can't help themselves" - we, as women, are supposed to be able to control those urges better.
It's such a crock of **** - you know what - the next time the bring it up and start harping on how gross it is, just tell them how fantastic it is and how YOU know what gets you off and how to orgasm and how good it feels.
There's nothing wrong with it. Have fun!
IT IS COMMON, I BET AU 100% THEY DO IT 2, THEY JUST DONT WANNA SEEM LIKE THE NASTY HORNY PERVERTS, SO THEY SAY ITS GROSS...EVERY2 DOES IT ;-)
They may be doing exactly what you are doing, denying it in front of everyone because they may be embarassed about it.
For some reason it is taboo, even though many people do it, few admit it.
They do. They lie too. Everyone does it.
I think they do it too but they are just too embarrassed to talk about it.
But on the other hand, some of us just have a stronger sex drive than others. Don't worry about it. You are normal at least in that aspect.
Consider that girls can't as openly talk about masturbation as males are allowed to, for the talk has always been considered unfeminine. Thus, they may not be completely honest towards you or your friends regarding the topic in order to appear a certain way. If they are being honest, it's simply because all girls vary in their sexual drive and their opinion on stimulating their body in that way, which applies to why some choose to, and some don't =P.
Like they say, different strokes for different folks!
Don't worry about it! just keep doing "it"!
well not everyone does it. some girls are embarressed to even do it.
they are lying to you!
they are masterbating.... and denying it.... arent you denying it?
hmm
well.... i'm 21... and my friends and i are open about the fact that we DO. lol i guess everyone is different. i'm the type of person to say if you dont like it, the hell with you... i'm not going to change for anyone or anything and i tell it how it is :) and i'm not going to lie to make other people comfortable.
hmm.... now, where are my sex toys?
haha
THEY LIE- THEY LIE- THEY LIE
theyre doing wat ur doing- saying they dont wen they do
Unfortunately, your friends are still stuck in an old paradigm which says that single women shouldn't be sexual creatures.
This is an old mindset, but many "modern girls" are still stuck there, probably out of fear and embarrassment.
A modern woman is sexually liberated, meaning she makes her own decisions about what is appropriate for her. Your friends are afraid of being harshly judged.
It is very likely that every one of your friends masturbate on a regular basis. Some likely do it every night.
Maybe they just TELL you they don't. Maybe they are too shy to talk about their own experiences.
brb
Well, I realize the concept of masturbation at the age of six.... But, I have masturbated (without realizing what I'm doing actually) since I was three years old!
I remember when I touched my vulva and humped around, my parent always said, "No humpy, no humpy." But, I keep doing it again and again. Until one day, my mother finally gave in and told me if I wanted to hump I must do it all alone, in the bathroom or bedroom... and she would always be availabe anytime I want to ask her anything about my womanhood. (Thank you mother! I'll certainly do the same to my daughter someday.)
Of course I THINK something hot... but it's kinda personal for each and every woman.... Well, for me. I sometimes fantasize of doing it in the middle of freezing ice field.... I feel cold and hot in the same time. LoL!!
I want to go on more details, but someone would report me for that... (ah, the intolerance in Y! Answers....). At least I'm quite safe to say that I'm a bi-curious, so I alternate my "thought" of threesome between mmf, mff, and fff... always with me in the middle, having the greatest "o" ever!
Now, I'm 22 and still love masturbating anytime I get chances. It's completely normal. Believe me, there's nothing stupid, gross, or embarassing here. (But female are more common to deny it than male :P )
Perhaps the more important issue to raise here: "Why don't you and your friends talk about something else besides masturbation? What's the point of talking it if that makes either of you uncomfortable?"
they probably do but dont want to say
alot of people think its gross because thats where you pee out of lol everyone is diffrent
I'm betting your friends do do it, they just don't want to be seen as horney or gross. I would never admit to masturbating, and would certainly never talk about it. You are doing the right thing, dont talk about it . Masturbation is a very personal thing, Not for the whole world to know about. By all means keep doing it however.
While I dont agree that every single woman masterbates, there are some that have religious views and dont chose to do that, or just not find it pleasing for them. But its perfectly normal and nothing to be ashamed of. What you chose to do is your own personal business, and you dont have to share that with your friends if you dont feel comfortable doing so.
Whatever your friends reasons are behind having such strong feelings agaisnt it, really shouldnt make you feel ashamed of what your doing. Your a perfectly healthy normal woman with a strong sex drive, and later in life you will be glad you have that sex drive. Just keep this thought in your head the next time there making you feel uncomfortable(just wait till im older and my husband is soo pleased with me!)