What can I do to increase my sex drive...ladies only please!?!


Question: I am 30, married and have a nine month old and...

...I hate sex. I would rather be sleeping. I used to be fun, now I am boring and want nothing but to just lay there and let my husband do his business. Is this normal for women to feel this way or am I crazy? I have no sex drive at all...ever...well, maybe at 4pm, once a month, but thats it, and my relationship is suffering because of it. HELP ME...any suggestions to increase my drive would be much appreciated. I dont want to hear what any men have to say about this either, cause your just gonna poke fun and be sarchastic and sexual.


Answers: I am 30, married and have a nine month old and...

...I hate sex. I would rather be sleeping. I used to be fun, now I am boring and want nothing but to just lay there and let my husband do his business. Is this normal for women to feel this way or am I crazy? I have no sex drive at all...ever...well, maybe at 4pm, once a month, but thats it, and my relationship is suffering because of it. HELP ME...any suggestions to increase my drive would be much appreciated. I dont want to hear what any men have to say about this either, cause your just gonna poke fun and be sarchastic and sexual.

Well you're not the only one who feels the same!

My sex drive is SO low it's practically none existent! ;)

But it doesn't really worry me that much cause i would prefer to have a cup of tea than sex,...and i don't even drink tea to start with!

I'm not really looking for a way of increasing my sex drive either,..I'm quite happy as i am.

You may have a low sex drive cause of having a child,..and that understandably takes it's out of you cause you are SO busy and tired

If you want to have more of a sex life maybe you could get some one to look after you're child for a day or so if possible,..and go away on a night stay at a hotel to spend time with you're husband.

The night doesn't have to lead to sex for it to be successful.Just show affection towards each other and start to enjoy each others company again without a child to worry about!

If you can't afford to go away,..practice the same at home once or twice a week to get thing's started...and see how thing's go from there.

Hope this helps ;)

maybe you should talk to your doctor. maybe your hormones are off or something? no ideas for you, i have NO problem with this. sorry and good luck.

I think you need more hormones in your system that is what creates our sex drive. You probably have a lack talk to your doc.

Have you seen your doctor about this?

Decreased sex drive could be caused by a number of things including hormonal changes and side effects of some medications. The most common reason is hormonal changes. You're 30 and had a baby. Many women who have had kids lose their sex drive. I know my mother did.

Ask your doctor about it. He/she could help.

First off. I am a man and would never poke fun at a lady, the best thing to increase your sex drive is either exercise or hormone's, whether in pill or vitamin form. I use lots of vitamin B-6, B-12 pretty much any of the B's are good and you doctor can also administer them via shots if needed. Also your diet and daily routine have loads to do with your sex drive. It could also be that you and your hubby are not meshing in the bedroom anymore and are bored to a certain degree. The best thing for that is to abstain for as long as you can and try going on a date with each other away from the normal every day life. women are normally more amorous a few days prior to ovulation so try and hit it around that time (your date schedule that is) I am sure if there is any spark that would be the time to set it off. you can always try roll play or find something you always wanted him to try and see if he will go along with it. that should do it, best of luck in your venture/s

Well maybe your just really tired, you say you have a 9 month old, that itself is exhausting and when your tired theres no sex drive... I have 2 kids and honestly when they were at young ages I was really exhausted and sometimes the sex drive I had was nowhere to be found.. What I learned to do was try to get the sleep my body needed, even if that meant napping when the baby was napping. Also I took time for myself, took long bubble baths, dressed myself up. Also sometimes after having children you dont get all dolled up like you used to, and so you dont feel as sexy, which kills the sex drive.... So try taking some extra time with what you wear etc, to give yourself a confidence boost...
Maybe spruce up the sex life with some role play, or differant play toys. Even some kama sutra. I bought books on all these things, and tryed new positions and games to play during sex.
If all else fails then maybe have a chat with your doctor and see whats medically ailing you.. Maybe hormones etc..
But in the end dont feel bad about yourself sometimes you just need some time to get back to being you not just mommy..
Good luck

Depressed. Another reason could be you are suffering from boredom, your soulmates seems a very stick to the routine someone- thats why you have gave up on this. First of all, you should know, and ask youself a question, Why am I feeling this. If everything is ok in your life, then for sure visit your doctor and work on bettering things Up. to increase intensity in your life... you need to build more of your conversation. TALK TALK... AND TALK...Talkinglistening to the other is the biggest turn on...Feel the CLoseness of your partner , by sharing small details, memories, and everything that you think is sweet and memorable. Second build a romantic atmposphere all around your house.. scatter around different sizes of Candles..turn off the light...Paint your walls, so often to decrease the level of boredom that might builds around. open Soft saxophone romatic music as a background. And please try to get rid of your TV, or move it outside if its in yoru bedroom....


And Open up in term of sharing what you need and what you want. Most Probably, woman feel as such when they feel depressed, or down because of certain incident in their life or because of thei husband attitude, that with time they have not forget....Play with your Cards wisely, i hope you find happiness afterall. Good Luck

maybe you should get on the pill because it gives you more hormones and try to watch or do something that can stimulate your mind.think about how you did it in the past or watch porn and picture it being you and your husband

I had that same thing I would just rather he just do what he need to and let me go to sleep! About 2 months ago I started talking some herbs to help with TTC and I did a 360!! I now what it more then him! I don



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