First orgasm?!


Question: My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little less then a year (11 months) and as teenagers our relationship's progressed fairly quickly on the physical side of things, but we haven't had sex.
We are each other's first serious relationship so we're kind of figuring things out as we go as far as what we like, and what to do to give each other pleasure. I've never felt the urge to maturbate, never saw the point, and so while my bf can have an orgasm no problem, I can't at all. It's not that what we do doesn't feel good- it's just never quite enough.
He tells me he's done research and in order for him to give me an orgasm I have to do it for myself first. But I have no clue how. I have tried a few times just to see what all the fuss was about and there was nothing.
So what's the problem exactly and how do I/he/we fix it?


Answers: My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little less then a year (11 months) and as teenagers our relationship's progressed fairly quickly on the physical side of things, but we haven't had sex.
We are each other's first serious relationship so we're kind of figuring things out as we go as far as what we like, and what to do to give each other pleasure. I've never felt the urge to maturbate, never saw the point, and so while my bf can have an orgasm no problem, I can't at all. It's not that what we do doesn't feel good- it's just never quite enough.
He tells me he's done research and in order for him to give me an orgasm I have to do it for myself first. But I have no clue how. I have tried a few times just to see what all the fuss was about and there was nothing.
So what's the problem exactly and how do I/he/we fix it?

It is not a problem. you two haven't had sex and you are trying to plan everything out before you do it. you are putting too much stress on it. If you are at the point of having sex, do it and don't think about it. If you aren't ready to have sex and are trying a manual thing. there is nothing wrong with masturbating. Do it. place yourself under the running water in the tub, or touch yourself. find out what you like and then explain it to your boyfriend. Most women reach orgasm by either manual or oral stimulation, mostly around the clitoris. Try these. your issue isn't a problem. Just experiment and have fun.

im not quite sure. Prob just the technique or w/e you're doing isnt working out so well. Try something else?

the boy doesn't know what he is doing.

he doesnt know what hes doing

you probably arent doin it long enough to enjoy it, it can take acouple minutes to get one. some girls cant have an orgasm without the help of clit stimulation. if u cant do it yourself id go buy a vibrator ( a clit one ) and see if that helps

CONTAINS ADVICE FOR SEXUAL ACTIVITY PLEASE DO NOT READ IF YOU FIND THIS WOULD BE AN INEXCEPTERBLE ARNSWER FOR A QUESTIONyour bf is wrong about you having to do it first, if your finding it hard do so yourself get a medium sized mirror and place it between your legs and have a look at yourself (this is good for you as your get to now your body and you may even be able to let your boyfriend no what to do during sex.) at the top of your vagina there should be a very sensative to the touch flap of skin this is your clitarus if you slowly move your finger over this area your feel yourself becoming aroused and bring you in to orgasum thats how you can pleasure yourself but during sex its alabout your g spot witch is different for everyone.

I started masturbating when I was ten. I had no clue what it was, but I knew that it felt good.

When you masturbate you learn things about your body. You're comfortable with yourself and it relieves some tension. Both sexual and physical.

Masturbation is a normal part of everyday human life and you not ever masturbating isn't natural.

You should learn more about your own body and what you like before you try to figure out what he wants or before he trys to finger you or whatever.

You could try a vibrator, clit stimulator. Run your vulva under the water faucet or rub against a pillow.

This might help on how to get ideas:
http://sexuality.about.com/od/anatomyres...





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