When you lost your virginity, was it very painful?!
Question: This probably oversteps the scope of the question, but I hope sharing will help.
I waited to have intercourse until I was 24 - I was waiting for the 'right guy.' As it turned out, he was not the gentle lover he had seemed. Though he wasn't rough, he was somewhat large and not careful. No orgasm for me, that's for sure. It hurt quite a lot from pressure and scraping, and I bled a bit - it was a situation where I just laid there and let it happen so the virginity would be over and gone.
I was relieved when it was over. I felt pain and burning in my vagina, and my pelvis and back hurt. Two days later I had a terrible bladder infection and had to get antibiotics. We used a condom and he did not have any disease; bladder infections can be common in sexually active women.
When I think back, I remember I felt glad that I'd finally "done it" but I suddenly seemed to wake up: give up the idea of Harlequin romance. What should have been being swept away felt more like crossing something off my grocery list.
To women waiting to experience first intercourse, my advice is to be damned careful who you allow to share your body! He will literally be inside your body, with all the emotional and physical elements that entails. Think about how you will feel in both senses when it's time for one of you to leave the bed and go home. Will you be pregnant? Have an STD? Will he tell his friends all about it? How will your heart feel when you get up and dress for the day? Will you be grinning, or cry?
Now at 40, I have an amazingly satisfying sex life. Definitely NOT with my first partner. I regret my unhappy "deflowering" but not the lessons it taught me. The one thing I'm glad for is that I waited until I was in my 20s. If I'd had the same experience at 16 I probably would not be as happy with my sexuality and expressiveness as I feel now.
Answers: This probably oversteps the scope of the question, but I hope sharing will help.
I waited to have intercourse until I was 24 - I was waiting for the 'right guy.' As it turned out, he was not the gentle lover he had seemed. Though he wasn't rough, he was somewhat large and not careful. No orgasm for me, that's for sure. It hurt quite a lot from pressure and scraping, and I bled a bit - it was a situation where I just laid there and let it happen so the virginity would be over and gone.
I was relieved when it was over. I felt pain and burning in my vagina, and my pelvis and back hurt. Two days later I had a terrible bladder infection and had to get antibiotics. We used a condom and he did not have any disease; bladder infections can be common in sexually active women.
When I think back, I remember I felt glad that I'd finally "done it" but I suddenly seemed to wake up: give up the idea of Harlequin romance. What should have been being swept away felt more like crossing something off my grocery list.
To women waiting to experience first intercourse, my advice is to be damned careful who you allow to share your body! He will literally be inside your body, with all the emotional and physical elements that entails. Think about how you will feel in both senses when it's time for one of you to leave the bed and go home. Will you be pregnant? Have an STD? Will he tell his friends all about it? How will your heart feel when you get up and dress for the day? Will you be grinning, or cry?
Now at 40, I have an amazingly satisfying sex life. Definitely NOT with my first partner. I regret my unhappy "deflowering" but not the lessons it taught me. The one thing I'm glad for is that I waited until I was in my 20s. If I'd had the same experience at 16 I probably would not be as happy with my sexuality and expressiveness as I feel now.
i lost mine when iwas 16 and it hurt a bit but not really bad like some people say it depends on the person thou i think xxx
To be honest with you, it was somewhat painful. Not ridiculously but it was an uncomfortable feeling. That's normal though and happens to many girls -- however, I'm really not too sure if age has an impact on how much it would hurt (I wouldn't think so though).
For me it diddnt *really* hurt. It diddnt really feel good either. I bled, I bled for probably 4 times after that. Make sure he does it nice and slow and I dont think it will hurt you, it will just feel like pressure. But make sure its with someone you care about!!
ps, I was 17
Yes
It all depends on the person, and what other sexual things you've done before you've had sex. Also the more aroused you are, the less it will hurt. That's why if you're having sex with someone you trust and care about it will hurt less, because you'll be less nervous
For me it didn't hurt, but it didn't feel good. If you use lubrication that will help. But if you're using a condom (which I hope you are) make sure it's water-based so the condom doesn't tear.
The first time can be painful when the hymen breaks upon penetration. There can also be some blood. Not all girls bleed and not all have pain. I never bled but there was a lot of pain.
Relaxing, foreplay, (oral sex, more foreplay