He gets orgasms EASILY... i dont. i take forever... and usually i have to fake o!
Question: anyone know why it takes me such a long time?
Answers: anyone know why it takes me such a long time?
first of all, the worst thing you could do is fake it, b/c if your faking it he thinks whatever he's doing now is working, and obviously its not. Communicate with him. A lot of men's egos are very sensitive so you have to be careful how you go about this. Non-verbal communication usually works best (don't come right out and say you're not doing this right or you're not doing that right), but when he does something that feels good let him know. Maybe you can figure out what feels good to you on your own, and then incorportate it into sex with him. You can try foreplay, have him go down on you or finger you before you guys have sex. Women usually have orgasms by stimulation of 2 parts: the clitoris and/or the g-spot. G-spot orgasms are more intense, but are harder for most women to acheive. Clitoral orgasms are much easier to acheive and you can probably do it yourself while you guys are having sex. While you guys are having sex just reach down and rub your own clit, not only will it feel good and help you to have an orgasm, but a lot of guys find it really sexy when they see a woman touch herself, it personally drives my boyfriend crazy when he sees me do it. Or if you don't feel comfortable touching yourself, just take his hand and guide it down there and show him how to do it. This will show him what works for you without you coming right out and telling him. And there are also positions that stimulate the clitoris as well... try this one: while you're on top of him lean into him so that your chest is on his, this will place your clit on his pelvic bone and when you are moving his pelvic bone will be rubbing your clit. And with any girl on top position, you're in control so you can do what feels good to you. Hope this helps... GL
not enough time on you and he is just thinking of him self. Make him go down on you.
Many women are different, and I have had experience with a few that range from easy to hard to achieve orgasm...
My suggestion is to get him more in to foreplay, assisted masturbation with you, and oral please prior to sex. This seems to help quite a bit and be quite enjoyable for your partner.
I prefer to make my partner come orally before I try and make her *** through intercourse. I love it, and it guarantees we are both satisfied...
Excellent question, a star for you...
It just does there is no real reason. He might not be doing something right or you might just not be focusing. It is the same with me i used to fake them all the time to save trouble but then when he got better and i started paying attention we go about the same time (10 min. or so) if i dont focus it can take me up to an hour you actually have to want the orgasm if you get what I'm saying. hope Ive helped.
he just worries about gettin his and dont worry about you i would tell him what you like and if you have to show him help him out
all women are different
some orgasm very easliy, for someit's harder
and some don't orgasm at all
if you really wanna orgasm during intercourse, have alot of foreplay before hand and make sure either your partner or you are doing something to your clit during and before intercourse
you can also get him to 'finish you off' after he's done
get him to use his hands or mouth on you after, faking it will not solve anything, he'll just think there is nothing wrong so tell him about it as well
Oh please dont fake it anymore. now he thinks hes doing a good job but he really sucks so things wont change for you. if you keep faking get ready for a horrible sex life
STOP FAKING
tell him, and work out ways that get you both off.
tongues are for more than talking lol
i always make sure my lady comes before i penetrate her with my penis. i enjoy getting her off orally and with fingers. she enjoys it even more lol.
A thumbs up to billepplerkfc's answer, and a star for this question ;)
try the top it might help..
Don't fake, make him satisfy you first...Make him do you orally or finger play...It is normal for the woman to take longer and don't take this pleasure away from yourself, besides make the guy work it, he will appreciate it more.
Enjoy!!!
Depends on how you are reaching orgasm. A lot of girls don't have one through sexual intercourse alone. It requires direct manual/oral/toy stimulation to the clitoris. Some girls have an easier time on top. Regardless of position, reach your hand down between your bodies and help it along. It could also be he's not spending enough time on foreplay to get you really aroused or that he's too focused on his own pleasure.