I dont know what to do - orgasm question?!
Question: my boyfriend really wants me to have an orgasm - he tries fingering and oral.but right when i start feeling like a tickly sensation, i make him stop. he has tried many many times. idk why - i guess im scared or something. what should i do ?
Answers: my boyfriend really wants me to have an orgasm - he tries fingering and oral.but right when i start feeling like a tickly sensation, i make him stop. he has tried many many times. idk why - i guess im scared or something. what should i do ?
If your boyfriend really wants you to have the orgasm, that might be hindering your ability to do so...he probably just wants to see you feel really great...he probably has the best of intentions. But orgasms are intense and some women, they are a little scared to "go there" with someone for the first time...it's a very vulnerable feeling. If you're scared, and you don't want to do it, you'll have to tell him that. You are not required to orgasm for anybody, or to do anything you don't want to do sexually. However, if you're afraid but still do want to experience an orgasm with your boyfriend, I'd suggest you experience one solo first. Masturabate alone, become aware of what you enjoy, what brings you to the greatest heights of pleasure, and what turns you off...get to know yourself...get to feel comfortable with your orgasm. And only then attempt it with him.
well it all starts with doing it manually first girl, then you can be comfortable with orgasming and eventually it will become ok with a boy/man.
why don't you try yourself.. make it more comfortable before you let your bf try.
why do u stop him ? let him do coz ultimately u'll lik that , no matter u experience orgasm or not ! yes, if u feel hurting or feel pain then u can tell him but if not, plz enjoy as much as possible
You, the woman controls the orgasm, not the boy. Your mental state has to be right or it won't happen. It is more mental than physical. That is the nature of it. You have to be able to let yourself feel the pleasure and allow yourself to let it happen or it won't. Many women blame the man for not making it happen, but 95% of it is your issue.
good luck
nothing to be scared about. its like the best feeling in the world. almost like an explosion in your body but a good one.
O.K, this may sound gross, but try masturbating (or use a vibrator) and getting yourself to orgasm in privacy. You'll find the sensation is nothing to be scared of and hopefully enjoy it! If you're scared of your "natural reaction" to an orgasm in front of your boyfriend...don't be. It's my experience (as a 30 y/o wife!) that letting myself go at orgasm is a huge turn-on for my husband. Good luck and may lots of BIG O's come your way!!
Don't stop him, let him continue. You will eventually get an orgasm.
my husband is the only man who's ever gotten me to orgasm, because he's the only one i felt comfortable with and he's the only man i was truly ready to be with. most of it is mental, and you are probably just not ready. you sound like you are very uncomfortable with this. and if you are, then you need to set your own pace - don't let him push to do something you're not ready for. believe me, when you are ready, it'll be something that you enjoy. until then, just take it easy and tell him what you told us - you are scared or nervous. (oh, and there always is the possibility that he's not hitting the right buttons)
next time just let it happen. and it'll eventually feel goooooooood =)
biggest thing is just relax and enjoy the time, and possibly give some advice to your partner, but be compassionate. he is trying to help also.
you just have to keep going, don't stop him.