Pleeeeeasee help i really dont know what to do anymore?!
Question: I am a girl, but I have both parts. Its a birth defect, and I've lived with it my whole life with few people knowing. doctors say that it could be unsafe and affect physical growth to get removal of the 'male' part before i've fully matured physically. the problem is that i really like a guy and i've been with him for a few months no and dont know how to tell him because i'm afraid the relationship is going to get serious. someone please give me some advice
Answers: I am a girl, but I have both parts. Its a birth defect, and I've lived with it my whole life with few people knowing. doctors say that it could be unsafe and affect physical growth to get removal of the 'male' part before i've fully matured physically. the problem is that i really like a guy and i've been with him for a few months no and dont know how to tell him because i'm afraid the relationship is going to get serious. someone please give me some advice
well if you not bsing around..
don't tell him
take your chances get it removed
If you are serious about him-then you should tell him. If you don't want any one to know break it off-tell him your not ready for something to get so serious because you're not ready for something serious yet. Otherwise tell him and see where it goes.
well truth be it... if you tell him he will find you unattractive and probally break up with you... your best bet is to just play it safe... and get the chage when you can
Your a hermaphrodite, which is possible, and it is possible since you obviously have the female genes. The doctors should have cut off the male parts when you were just born but okay. And just tell your guy. He knows your a girl, and he should know what hermaphrodite is because of school
Talk to a shrink.
This might sound hard, but be honest with him! If he truly cares about you that much, he will stand by you nomatter what. He will find out eventually, be it from the scar left there or something else. Please, wait until you are fully matured to have the male part removed! You could throw off your horomones if you don't, and that can lead to even bigger problems. Additionally, you need to consider that a few months is not very long. You're still young; take some time to make sure that he is the one you want to be with. If you tell him and he shies away, then it was not a strong relationship to begin with. This might be hard, like I said, but you can do it. C'mon, us women rock! We can do whatever we put our minds to, nomatter the obstacles in the way! Good luck to you, and I hope I helped!
talk to him, tell him you seen this thing on the news or read it on the web about someone having both parts make up a lil story and ask him how he would feel about it? ask him how he would feel if he was born that way? and then you can decide what to do based on his answer....
i hope that helps