Sex hurts. Help?!
Question: Me and my boyfriend love each other very much, and finally decided to have sex.
The first time i did it, it didn't, and neither did the second, this was in missionary postion. The third time round, i went on top, and it was very very painful, and i had to stop, and then now when ever we do have sex, even if it is in the missonary postion, the pain is terrible, what is wrong, hes is very big, im quite small, will the pain continue? or is it because its my first time and they rest were close together and im not used to it?
or is it best to go the doctors? many thanks x
Answers: Me and my boyfriend love each other very much, and finally decided to have sex.
The first time i did it, it didn't, and neither did the second, this was in missionary postion. The third time round, i went on top, and it was very very painful, and i had to stop, and then now when ever we do have sex, even if it is in the missonary postion, the pain is terrible, what is wrong, hes is very big, im quite small, will the pain continue? or is it because its my first time and they rest were close together and im not used to it?
or is it best to go the doctors? many thanks x
It sounds like you're just getting used to having sex. Before I lost my virginity, I would pleasure myself to make sure that when the actual act came that I would be ok and not feel too much pain. It still hurt. Lol. It's most likely that you just need to get used to it. Make sure you relax and you breath, and as long as your comfortable, you'll get through it. If it's not that, then it could be that there's something wrong with you. Could be a crooked uterus, but since it didn't hurt the first times, then that's probably not it. I'd would just say that you are getting used to the act of sex, and perhaps you are sore from previous times, and that's why it hurts. It wouldn't hurt to get checked out though.
I doubt his size and yours have anything to do with it. Are you bleeding down there? Have you had him check you out and see if you have any cuts? The position may have possibly stretched your vagina or perenium in a way that it couldnt and cause a tear. I suggest you look down there.
It sounds like he's hitting your cervix if it's only when he goes really deep that it hurts (the same thing happens to me). Still, best to check up with a doctor. Good luck to you!