Virginity and menstrual cups?!
Question: should i lose my virginity so i can wear menstrual cups? im 17 and a virgin. it hurt so cad when i put it on so i had to pull it emmediately. when i lokked at it there was a little blood. if i go out and have sex ewill i be able to wear them? is there a way i can wear them without losing my virginity cuz i dont really wanna lose it? how can i make it less painful?
Answers: should i lose my virginity so i can wear menstrual cups? im 17 and a virgin. it hurt so cad when i put it on so i had to pull it emmediately. when i lokked at it there was a little blood. if i go out and have sex ewill i be able to wear them? is there a way i can wear them without losing my virginity cuz i dont really wanna lose it? how can i make it less painful?
Loosing your virginity has nothing at all to do with using a menstrual cup, certainly you shouldn't loose something so special just to use a menstrual product!
Loosing your virginity can mean different things to different people, but most would define it as having penetrative penis to vaginal sex for the first time, it is considered a very important experience that should not be taken lightly. It's best to loose your virginity when you are ready with someone who loves and respects you, it's also something you need to do when fully aware of sex and how your body works.
It seems to me that you don't understand what sex actually does to your body, like maybe you think it will 'stretch' your vagina, which it won't and which may suggest that you don't know enough about this to have sex safely, responsibly, and educated enough to have a positive experience of sex.
When you have sex your vaginal muscles relax, the vagina lubricates itself and the vagina actually expands, this all happens to allow for penetration during sex and is your bodies normal reaction to sexual stimulation - your vagina does not stay that way once you have had sex, it all goes back to normal once you are no longer turned on.
Loosing your virginity would not have any effect on whether you are able to use a menstrual cup as it will not change anything about your body or vagina. Your age also has nothing to do with it, the youngest girl I've known to use menstrual cups is 13 using a Divacup, but I am positive that girls younger than that could use them too.
If it was painful for you to insert the menstrual cup for the first time then it is very possible that it is for the same reasons that most penetration is painful at first - be that from internal menstrual options such as tampons or cups, fingers or toys during masturbation or your partners penis during sex - have you had similar experiences inserting anything else?
You also didn't say where the pain was, I'm going to assume the two most obvious reasons you experienced pain and bleeding;
1. Your hymen may have broken or stretched.
Most girls have a thin layer of skin partly-covering the opening to their vagina called the hymen, this can be broken or stretched when something is inserted into the vagina, this is not always painful, nor does it always bleed, but it could explain your experience.
Do you know if your hymen was in tact prior to trying to use a cup? If you know your hymen was in tact then you can lay yourself comfortably on your bed with a few pillows to prop your back up with, then using a mirror and a lamp look at your vulva (external part of your genitals), you'll see little flaps of skin around the opening to your vagina which would be the remains of your hymen if it had broken.
Unfortunately there is not much you can do if you are unfortunate enough to experience pain when your hymen breaks or stretches, chances are it is now broken so shouldn't cause any further problems.
2. You were tense.
When you are nervous or tense then your vaginal muscles also tense up, this is why a lot of girls experience pain the first time they have sex because they tense up rather than relaxing allowing the vagina to make the changes needed for pain-free penetration. It means your vagina is staying small and inflexible, so when you tried to insert the cup you were forcing it in rather than just smoothly inserting.
The best thing to do when trying to use anything internal for the first time is to relax, you can do this simply by laying down on your bed and use some lubricant on the end of the cup to help insert (KY jelly, or if you're too embarrassed to buy this try olive oil as this can be safely used and is easy to get hold of), or try a bath to relax yourself and the water will help youo insert the menstrual cup. Another very good idea is to masturbate before trying to insert the cup, this will relax your vagina, also making it longer/wider and lubricating it to make it easier to insert the cup.
If it does continue to be painful then it may just be that the menstrual cup is not for you, it's very rare but it can happen - if you are using a bell-shaped reusable cup then they normally come with a money back guarantee of 3-12 months so you can try for a few months, and get your money back if it still doesn't work for you, maybe try again when you're a little older or more used to inserting things into your vagina. Check what guarantee comes with the brand of cup you bought.
You may want to try using a different type or brand of menstrual cup, for example a Divacup can be a lot bigger and firmer than a UK Mooncup, the difference in shape, size and material may make a big difference to whether-or-not you can use a menstrual cup - note many women also find softcups (e.g. Instead) very difficult to use.
Different brands;
http://www.divacup.com - Divacup
http://www.keeper.com - Keeper
http://www.mooncup.co.uk - MooncupUK
http://www.mooncup.com - MooncupUS
http://www.lunette.fi - Lunette
http://www.ladycup.eu - Ladycup
http://www.softcup.com - Instead
Another suggestion would be to change folding methods, the method it shows you in the instructions is known as the 'C-fold', the menstrual cup support community has this entry on a few of the different folds you may find useful - http://community.livejournal.com/menstru... - another page you may want to check out are their entries on teens/virgins and menstrual cup use here: http://www.livejournal.com/tools/memorie...
Try joining the menstrual cup support community, they have over 3000 members who use menstrual cups, any questions you have they will be able to help you or just look around their web site: http://menstrualcups.org
If you experience pain inserting other things into your vagina then you really should talk to your doctor as it is likely you are suffering from dyspareunia which is when it is painful to insert things into your vagina and that will also affect you when you loose your virginity. This is normally down to emotional factors, such as maybe you feel negative about your vagina say if you were taught 'down there' was a bad place, or if you suffered sexual abuse. In most cases it is easy to deal with and nothing to worry about, but it's worth ruling anything else out.
Do not lose your virginity over this. Sex is too emotional for that.
What does virginity have to do with using menstrual cups?? Do you think your vagina is going to magically get huge after you've had sex one time?? Luckily, that is NOT the case.
Just use tampons.
it's called a pad...or maybe a tampon..use one...