I just had a missed miscarriage, and a D&C. I have to go back to work in 2 days.!
Question: So, yeah. I found out on 3-7-08, that the baby had stopped growing sometime around 2-14-08. I had a D&C on 3-11-08.
I will be going back to work on 3-20-08.
Is it normal to be terrified of going back to work?
I have adjusted well at home, and have not been crying anymore. I have come to peace with it. The problem is, that I had been very open about my pregnancy with everyone for about 4 weeks, when I found out. It was all we talked about at work.I made sure that my friends at work knew about the loss. I am for some reason scared of going back, and facing everyone. I know that they will be compassionate. I don't know if it's because it means that it's over, and time to get over it. Is it because I don't want to face it.
Have any of you gone through this? How did you handle it?
Do you think that I am crazy? I have had panic attack in the past, and have been on the verge of one just thinking about going back. I don't want to go on any meds, cuz we are trying again soon. Thanks
Answers: So, yeah. I found out on 3-7-08, that the baby had stopped growing sometime around 2-14-08. I had a D&C on 3-11-08.
I will be going back to work on 3-20-08.
Is it normal to be terrified of going back to work?
I have adjusted well at home, and have not been crying anymore. I have come to peace with it. The problem is, that I had been very open about my pregnancy with everyone for about 4 weeks, when I found out. It was all we talked about at work.I made sure that my friends at work knew about the loss. I am for some reason scared of going back, and facing everyone. I know that they will be compassionate. I don't know if it's because it means that it's over, and time to get over it. Is it because I don't want to face it.
Have any of you gone through this? How did you handle it?
Do you think that I am crazy? I have had panic attack in the past, and have been on the verge of one just thinking about going back. I don't want to go on any meds, cuz we are trying again soon. Thanks
First off I am sorry for your loss. Yes, I've been in your position a few times. It was difficult. Everyone grieves in their own way in their own time. Think of your co workers as compassionate and their caring and concern is for you and for what you have been going through. A loss is a loss, its not pleasant. You will bounce back and NO your not crazy. Don't put yourself on a time schedule to work through the grief.
You may find several co workers have been in the very situation that you are in. Misscarriages are common, but it still doesn't mean its any less painful. Give your body time to adjust before you start trying again. Your in my thoughts.
Oh sweetie, I'm very sorry for your loss. I completely understand your fear. However, the longer you wait to go back to work, the harder it will be to go back. If you truly feel a panic attack coming on, though, it might be wise for you to take it easy and see if you can take the day off.
I would also talk to your doctor, therapist, psychiatrist, or whichever health care provider handled your panic attack issues in the past. There are options for you that don't involve taking medication.
You could also consider joining a miscarriage bereavement support group in your area. A lot of hospitals and doctors' offices will have resources for you so you can find one in your area.