I was raped...?!
Question: I was raped when I was little, but I don't know who did it. I never told anyone. I don't see a point to freak everybody out if I didn't know who it was so they can put him away. I'm also not sure my family will believe me since I don't remember who it was.
Should I tell someone?
Answers: I was raped when I was little, but I don't know who did it. I never told anyone. I don't see a point to freak everybody out if I didn't know who it was so they can put him away. I'm also not sure my family will believe me since I don't remember who it was.
Should I tell someone?
Telling someone will help you ease the pain, and help you find some form of comfort in this terrible experience. It does not have to be family it could be a therapist in your area that you talk to on occasion when you feel the need to talk. At some point when you feel the strength to you can tell your family, but this is all in due time and completely up to you. I wish you the best.
yes...hang in there...sweetie
YES!!!!! You have to tell someone!!!!!!! Even if you tell your best friend!!!!!! Just make sure they swear not to tell a soal......... BUT SERIOUSLY, TELL SOMEONE!!!!!!! That is a big problem, even if they don't catch the person. PLEASE TELL SOMEONE!!!!!!!!
yes, you should definitely still tell someone.
I'm sorry this happened to you.
Scary to think the person may be hurting other young girls. You must try to remember.
im really sorry about this you should talk to someone who is close yo u maybe like a best friend or a cusin who you know that willl make you feel a lil better or that you could just talk to about this......never stay quiet about something this deep talking to someone always helps
YES TELL SOME1!! u seriously need to tell some1 what happened to u even if u dont remember..tell a friend, parents, or go and get medical help because if u dont get help as soon as possible who knows what will happen in the future....
you should tell someone.
you wont beable to hold it in for mcuh longer.
one day your gonna snap and tell people in a bad way .
How old were you when this happened? I dont mean to pry its just a very unusual occurance for something so terrible to have occured ant to have no memory of the attack. If you were very young then it was most likely someone known to you so it is important that you tell someone to prevent this from happening to someone else and also to get some closure on the matter for yourself...
When my sister was young she remember me tormenting her and told everyone she could find. Her memory was vivid with plenty of detail and terror. Only problem was the times she remembers, I was never there because during those times I was either in school, working out, studying in the library or going out with my friends. When faced with the truth, she still insists I tormented her. Quite frankly, she was my younger sister and I did nothing but look after her and help her.
If you don't know who raped you, I would certainly tell your parents what you do know. Parents are generally smart enough to fill in the blanks and figure out who it could be. Do it ASAP, because the longer you wait, the more difficult it get to figure out who did it.
The first thing you need to remember is where it happened.
traumatic experiences, especially when they occur in childhood, can affect the brain and may cause psychological problems in later life. it may be a good idea to consider therapy to work through the issues just in case. i have known several people who's past traumatic experiences come over them later on in life causing them serious emotional distress.
do it for yourself and your health.
yes you should tell someone.tell a good friend.just tell someone.because on day when you get older you might have issuses and your gonna wonder y.and tht can be the reason.so let out your emotions on what happend
PLEASE TELL SOMEONE.....
it may feel uncmfortable but it will ease the pain... u shoudnt have 2 keep this 2 urself...
go to a family member that u believe u can trust and spill it...
im sorry this happened 2 u..
i think u shouldnt have to handle this by urself u obviously need to let it out and get comfort... sorry this happened to u...
good luck!
You don't say how old you were at the time, or how long it has been. "Little" to me means you were no older than 12 years old at the time, but it may mean something else to you.
Do you have any idea about how old you were, or where you were living, and with whom, when it happened? Any idea of what time of year it was (warm weather, swimming, snow on the ground, having Thanksgiving dinner, birthday, etc.)? Do you have any memories of the event, like smells (aftershave, cooking smells, etc.), touch (feel of his clothing, beard, etc.), things you heard? Did it happen in a house or outside? Do you recall what you were wearing? Were you old enough to dress yourself or do your own laundry? If not, why didn't anyone notice blood on your underwear when changing you or doing your laundry? I know it is painful, but if you can go back in your mind and write down all the details you can remember, that would be a start. You could have been raped by someone you knew at the time and you blocked out the knowledge because it was too painful.
Perhaps your mother did discover blood on your clothing and for one reason or another didn't say anything to you. (She may have known or suspected who it was and moved your family away from him. She may have been a victim, too, or there may have been other victims in your family.) I would talk to your mother about whether you lived with her for all your childhood or if you lived with your grandparents or other friends or relatives at any time. Don't tell her why you are asking or she might clam up and not tell you anything. Go through your family picture album to get her talking. Ask things like 'where did we live when this picture was taken?' and 'how old was I in this picture?' And you could talk to an aunt or other female relative older than you, or a gay male relative. Not a straight male relative because it could have been one of them. Find out as much as you can about all the places where you lived during the time period in which it happened. Find out if you moved suddenly from one place to another, and why (for instance, were they behind on the rent and had to move, was someone transferred for a job, got a new job in another town, etc.)
When you have narrowed down as much factual information as you can (mark anything that your relatives are not sure of, or anything that is conjecture, as questionable), make a list of what you know is true and what is maybe true. Then try talking to your mother about what happened. If she doesn't want to talk to you about it, try to talk to another female or gay male relative to pin down where and when it happened.
I highly recommend you see a psychologist or therapist, preferably female, who does hypnotherapy. The human mind keeps a complete record of what has happened during your lifetime, and it can be recalled by hypnosis. BUT the therapist should not, after telling you to go back to the day it happened, suggest anything to you. The therapist should remind you that the events are in the past and the person cannot harm you now. You were little then, but you are grown now and can defend yourself.
Also, take a mini recorder with a tape or memory disc long enough to record a complete hour without being turned over or switched out. Keep it in your pocket and turn it on (don't be obvious about it) when you go into the therapist's office. That way you can play it back later and hear exactly what went on if you don't remember it later. You need to know the truth; it will set you free, just like it says in the Bible. Your attacker may have been a relative or friend of the family, or it may have been someone who attacked you at a babysitter's house or daycare. You may know this person or it may have been a stranger to you. Most importantly, you have to heal from the experience. The mini recorder hidden in the pocket is a good idea for when you talk to your relatives, too. Good luck. You're a brave young(?) woman. E-mail me if you'd like, or if you have any questions.
I understand how you feel; I was sexually abused as a child for 2 years. I was afraid of sharing this information with my family because of fear of a bad reaction for whatever reasons, but I told someone. Please tell someone you can trust, a teacher, a school counsellor, a close friend, or anyone else you trust.
If you ever want someone to talk to, or just someone to listen, e-mail me (chiluvsyou@yahoo.ca)
I wish you all the luck in the world, and hope for nothing but the best for you!
yes, you should definitely still tell someone.