My mum won't let me buy deodorant or shave my legs...?!


Question: How do I bring it up? I know she's against it but I feel awful. I've been using my dad's razor but can't get deodorant...How do I bring it up?!?


Answers: How do I bring it up? I know she's against it but I feel awful. I've been using my dad's razor but can't get deodorant...How do I bring it up?!?

Why is she against it?

For instance, if she's against deodorant because she believes it has health implications, you need to deal with it differently than if she sees it as something that's going to make you grow up faster.

If she is against deodorant because she thinks it might be harmful, discuss it with her and say you want to try a natural crystal deodorant.

However, if the scented baby powder works for you, why do you need deodorant?

As for the shaving thing... this is tricky. Unless she's a raging feminist, which would make it more difficult, maybe the best thing to do is to tell her how you feel. Might it work if you say you are being picked on if you don't shave and you feel embarrassed in front of them? Or maybe just actually say to her, I think I'm old enough now...

Or you could see if she is more comfortable with hair removing cream like Nair or Immac.

Good luck, this must be difficult.

Everyone needs deodorant, it would be mega embarrassing if you smelt.
Just say to your mum 'Mum, I need deodorant, I know you're against it but I'm against smelling bad, so can you please buy me some deodorant or give me money to buy some?'

University? If shes old enough to go to university then she should be allowed to make her own decisions to shave or not.
Your 15? I was shaving/deodorisng way before then, and to be honest I think your mother should be allowing you to be like a normal teen of that age, by shaving your legs.

you don't need deodorant--just use rubbing alcohol and cornstarch. i swear.

That's pretty weird. Your mom is probably afraid of you "growing up too fast". You don't want to be the smelly kid. Try asking your dad about it. Or tell your mom that kids at school are calling you smelly and hairy.

How could she be "against it"? That's borderline cruel.

Say Mom smell me, then she will buy you deorderent,

I would tell her that you want deodorant cause you dont wanna stink like B.O. and you want a razor to shave cause you dont want hairy legs. I'm a blunt person and my daughter is too, she didnt have to come to me and tell me she wanted these things, I had already given them to her by the time she was 13. So be blunt about it, tell her straight up. Then if that dont work then get a job and buy some yourself. Maybe ask grandma to help ya out. Or a friend.

How old are you?

You just need to tell her that although you respect her beliefs and reasons why she is against it, you are your own person and need to decide how to go about these things.

Does your mum not shave her legs or use deodrant???


If you are old enough to have to use deodrant and shave yoyu are old enough to make these decisions.....

i dont think that your mum has a right to tell you whether you can uses deodrant and shave your legs or not... you are your own person and its you that could get picked on at school or feel uncomfortable around people....

good luck.....

"Listen mom, I know you're all about liberation of women, but Woodstock is over, and nobody digs smelly, hair covered birds anymore. If you don't let me contemporize with the rest of the century, I'll die a withered, lonely, husk of a woman. That, and I think Dad has been getting a shaving rash."

I don't know her rational behind it, but it's rather primitive. Sit her down and have a conversation with her woman to woman don't argue or have any tantrums, be as mature as possible about it and tell her how you feel.
Good Luck!

does she use it, is this apart of your religion? my mom would not let me shave but i did it anyway, i got tired of being teased and once i did it she was mad, but then she was like whatever. as for deodorant tell her you feel uncomfortable not wearing deodorant and that you are a young lady. it is better for you to tell her before someone else tells you. that's embarrassing.

It's difficult when you're in a situation like this - your mum is probably worried that you're not her little girl anymore. ^__^

The best time to bring it up is at the shop. When you go past the deodorant section just ask her whether you can get some. If she asks why just say because others your age all use it, what's the point of being left out?

If she's still persisting, remind her that times are different...then explain that it's not as far as SOME girls are going to gain a little self confidence these days. She was there once, and I'm guessing she uses deodorant/shaves/something or other, so she'll understand.

Sit her down and have a mature conversation with her. Tell her that you feel that you should shave and use deodorant.

And then buy your own deodorant and razor (they're really not that expensive). She may not like it for awhile, but can she really stop you from shaving your legs or using deodorant?

I've been using those things since I was... I guess eleven. There's absolutely no reason you shouldn't be allowed to at age fifteen. I would tell her that these are normal hygiene practices of girls your age and that you will shave and use deodorant whether she allows it or not. If she shaves and uses deodorant, say that you're a woman (albeit a young one, but still!) and have those rights too. And look at it this way: if you have (or got, if you haven't gotten it yet) your period, would she prohibit you from using a pad or tampon? I would hope not, you'd have blood all over everything and you'd get teased something awful.
Don't be afraid to talk to her. She is your mother and she cares about you and wants only the best for you.

If she's not allowing you to do it just buy deodorant at a shop and keep it hidden, I mean she's allow you eventually. And as for shaving same thing. Although just talk to her be like I'm 15 now I think I can handle it. Or buy Spray deodorant.

You need to start using YOUR OWN RAZOR.

And go out and buy some razors and deodorant. Hide them in your locker at school (the deodorant.) Hide the razors at your friends house.

WHY exactly is she against it?

Talk to her, tell her you are tired of stinking.





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