How do I tell my boyfriend...?!


Question: I have never orgasmed during intercourse...usually the only time I get mine is before we have sex during foreplay. But ever since we became sexually active with one another, I've been faking them. I guess I just didn't want him thinking that it was because of him or to get self conscious (he's not very endowed, if you know what I mean). I still enjoy being intimate with him, and I feel horrible for lying to him all this time. Would it be a bad idea to just come clean and talk with him about it? I would really like for us to look for ways to help me acheive an orgasm during intercourse so I don't have to rely on just foreplay (in my opinion, it's just not as intimate), but I don't want him to beat himself up over it. Any suggestions?


Answers: I have never orgasmed during intercourse...usually the only time I get mine is before we have sex during foreplay. But ever since we became sexually active with one another, I've been faking them. I guess I just didn't want him thinking that it was because of him or to get self conscious (he's not very endowed, if you know what I mean). I still enjoy being intimate with him, and I feel horrible for lying to him all this time. Would it be a bad idea to just come clean and talk with him about it? I would really like for us to look for ways to help me acheive an orgasm during intercourse so I don't have to rely on just foreplay (in my opinion, it's just not as intimate), but I don't want him to beat himself up over it. Any suggestions?

I would just come and and tell him.

When I was younger, I also faked orgasms because I thought it was something I was supposed to do. I didn't really know what an orgasm was because I had never had one, period.

If you have a good relationship with your boyfriend, he'll probably take it all in stride and be more then willing to enhance your experience any way possible :) I'd probably try and let him know about your little secret at an appropriate time (like not mid-action) and then maybe go on a little shopping trip with him ;)

work on yourself during the experience. focus on your own pleasure

maybe you dont have to tell your boyfriend.. its really hard for me to have an orgasim... try focusing and even fantasizingg..

have you ever tried it side ways or. doggy style or standing up

I hate to say this BUT a woman should NEVER lie about having an orgasm. Now he's going to wonder every time; "did she really climax, or is she faking again?" You should never have started this deception. I say don't confess, it will only hurt him and your relationship. Ask for more foreplay. If coming clean is only going to hurt him while easing your conscience, why do it?

i know how you feel! no dont tell him. that will really hurt his feelings. i always come when we do doggy style. try that. or like you guide him. if you like being touched down there then get his finger. dont be in a hurry, do a lot of kissing, feel it. sex is a wonderful feeling!





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