Iam scared n nervous but iam ready for it!! i knw it.. plz help me wid dis feeli!
Question: before i start plz beare wid my english.well ive finally got my true love .iam 19 n he's 24 its like 1 yr to our relationship . he had asked me for it but i had said iam not ready.. he never forced me.. has done wid his MBA n is palced in a gud company.. leaving the city next month.. n he's like u can take time n think bout it. n if u think u r ready we can make out. i really respect him n love him.. but scared bout the future .. its like i wanna spend rest of my life wid him n iam a virgin. i wanna lose my virginity to him. If ive made love to him i just cant think of some other man.. ive tld dis to him. To dis he says i knw wht ur thinking but v need to give dis space .. no 1 knws wht are future holds for us.. its better 2 enjoy d present.. its just if i make love to him n if v break up. i'l not b able to take dis.. i'l regret all my life n will never ever respect my self ever again.. at 1 point i wanna make love to him but iam scared wht if my life chages after it? am i normal?
Answers: before i start plz beare wid my english.well ive finally got my true love .iam 19 n he's 24 its like 1 yr to our relationship . he had asked me for it but i had said iam not ready.. he never forced me.. has done wid his MBA n is palced in a gud company.. leaving the city next month.. n he's like u can take time n think bout it. n if u think u r ready we can make out. i really respect him n love him.. but scared bout the future .. its like i wanna spend rest of my life wid him n iam a virgin. i wanna lose my virginity to him. If ive made love to him i just cant think of some other man.. ive tld dis to him. To dis he says i knw wht ur thinking but v need to give dis space .. no 1 knws wht are future holds for us.. its better 2 enjoy d present.. its just if i make love to him n if v break up. i'l not b able to take dis.. i'l regret all my life n will never ever respect my self ever again.. at 1 point i wanna make love to him but iam scared wht if my life chages after it? am i normal?
If he loves you then he will wait as long as you need until you are ready. Its a good sign that he hasn't pushed you into it before.
If you are scared about breaking up with him after you have had sex, you need to think about the connection that you two will share whilst making love, rather than the physical side. If you are serious about this relationship you shouldn't be worried about the physical side of it. Its a good sign that you have told your partner these worries and it hasn't had a negative effect on your relationship.
If you feel like you want to wait untill your married you need to expore other ways of your physical relationship.
Why would your life change afterwards - i guess it means you are a woman?
He must realy love you, wanting to wait 1 year!
Just go for it, you're 19 ;-)
its totally up to you what you do and it should be completely your decision. but i felt the same with my boyfriend we had been together for about a year and i wanted too but didnt know whether to or not. in the end i did and i am so glad i lost my virginity to him we are still together and i wouldnt beat myself up if we ever did split up in the future because i know he wasnt just using me for that and i lost it wisely ha x
You are not ready,so just wait. You did not say if you were talking about getting married. It is goo to wait till one marries,when they feel like you do. Good luck.
It's your body and it's your decision. If you want to and you feel ready, go ahead. Make sure you're protected if you're not ready for a baby, which at nineteen you most likely aren't.
Some aspects may change, but sex is a deep and trusting act between two lovers and should forge an even stronger bond.
If you're ready and you love him, go for it. If you're not ready and he loves you, he'll wait. If you love him, you wont' regret that first time, even if you later break up. If your boyfriend was only in it for the sex, he would have left a long time ago. He sounds like a keeper.
It's completely normal. And it's good that you've decided to wait. You shouldn't make love to someone (first time or not) just because you think you should. If he loves you, he'll wait.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost three years and being intimate has strengthened our relationship.
One of my bestfriends waited until she was married and feels that it has strengthened her relationship.
In the end, only you can know what is best. Just be sure about whatever decision you make. Wether to wait or not is completely up to you -- there is no universal right or wrong choice.
When you're ready, you'll know. Don't rush or force it.
He sounds like a good man. and if i was in your shoe. i would give it to him right away. losing your V to a man like that is fine hunni. so GO FOR IT.