If only i could shift back to how it used to be?!
Question: I have a really bad problem. Its not Womans health but i think you guys will understand so much more and have better advice.
I have the worst temper ever, i never was like this until i really fell in love, and since my one year relationship kinda went blahhh iv gotten so mean. im only 13 :/ and falling for true love this young sucks because i haven't lived my life as much as i wanted to but now im just really really mean when i get mad. I lose it so bad, i make my mom cry. I say the most horrrible stuff and i lvoe my mom to death, she has alot of issues and i always say stuff about how she doesnt do anything when honestly she cant becasue she has stuff with her problems and i jsut really want to stop being such a *****. I dont like it when i lose my temper..The stupidest things make me mad too..Like if somebody says something that they think is funny and i think is stupid i jsut get all idk wierd. i hate it..I want help before it gets really bad. Can you help me please ? !
Answers: I have a really bad problem. Its not Womans health but i think you guys will understand so much more and have better advice.
I have the worst temper ever, i never was like this until i really fell in love, and since my one year relationship kinda went blahhh iv gotten so mean. im only 13 :/ and falling for true love this young sucks because i haven't lived my life as much as i wanted to but now im just really really mean when i get mad. I lose it so bad, i make my mom cry. I say the most horrrible stuff and i lvoe my mom to death, she has alot of issues and i always say stuff about how she doesnt do anything when honestly she cant becasue she has stuff with her problems and i jsut really want to stop being such a *****. I dont like it when i lose my temper..The stupidest things make me mad too..Like if somebody says something that they think is funny and i think is stupid i jsut get all idk wierd. i hate it..I want help before it gets really bad. Can you help me please ? !
I don't know if it's much consolation, but, for a thirteen-year-old who has been in love for the first time and the relationship went sour, you sound pretty normal to me! How long ago did the relationship go sour? If it's longer than six months or so, I'd talk to a counselor about it, but a month or two...it takes time to become totally wrapped up in another person, and it takes time to become unwrapped, if that makes sense. Give yourself that time- try and spend some time alone and get used to you as a person again, instead of one half of a couple.
Basically, you're taking your anger about no longer being in a relationship out on everyone and everything else. It's developmentally pretty common in your age group. That doesn't make it right, but it doesn't sound to me like you're going crazy or anything. Good luck!
Edited in response to more info: Has the temper thing been going on just since Christmas? Because, if so, that makes me think even more so that you're behaving perfectly normally for what's been going on. The other thing that you have to remember, and I'm sure you've heard this in health class, is that hormones are running wild inside teenagers. Even a teen with the calmest home life and love life will have periods of feeling like they're going crazy. It's perfectly normal to almost feel like two people- one is getting pissed off at everything, and the other person inside you is sitting there going, "Huh? Why did I just get so pissed off at that?"
You now can recognize this, which should help you to control your temper a bit, or to give it a more positive outlet than saying mean things to your mom. I don't know you, and I don't know your mom, but, since I am a mom myself (my son is only 18 months old, but still), I'm pretty sure that she utterly adores you and wants you to be happy. I'm pretty sure she's wracking her brains, trying to figure out the best way to help you through what is clearly a very difficult time for you.
I don't know what your relationship is with your mom, but maybe you can sit down with her and talk about what you've been feeling, what's been going on with your boyfriend? It might help to talk about it. She knows you and, I hope, she knows your boyfriend, and she might have some ideas about how to make your life and feelings a little calmer. Use this posting and my responses as a stepping stone, if you like.
Good luck!