3rd time we have sex, it still hurts her, why?!
Question: my girl friend says it hurts her when i put my penis in, its barely going in and she pulls it out saying it hurts. im just average 6", its her 3rd time, i took her virginty and i havent seen much improvement since the first time, {even if i put 1 finger in there she kinda shakes a little and says it hurts} why?
Answers: my girl friend says it hurts her when i put my penis in, its barely going in and she pulls it out saying it hurts. im just average 6", its her 3rd time, i took her virginty and i havent seen much improvement since the first time, {even if i put 1 finger in there she kinda shakes a little and says it hurts} why?
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Sometimes it can take longer than having sex three times. If it still hurts after a while, perhaps she should see a doctor.
Maybe it doesn't hurt. Maybe she's just scared to get pregnant. But that's what I'm guessing, dude. You have to talk with her about it.
It can really be painful for girl even a while after they have had sex the first time.
Give her a break, it'll loosen up
tell her to see gynecologist
or
put some lube in
Go incredibly slow then. Make sure she's incredibly wet. Helps if you're not dry either.
Incredibly slow. Micrometers back and forth at a time.
Ever heard of foreplay?
geez! Give her a chance - it takes more than a few goes to be comfortable for a girl
I hurt for 4 months after losing my virginity. Some girl's just take longer to open up and not be so sore. I also had some issues with clenching up which made it painful too. She might still be fearful.
mabye u tore somtin in her or shes sore from last time
Don't know. It still hurts my fiancee, and we've been sleeping together for almost four years. And we have sex often. Some girls just stay tight. Just take your time so you arent killing her and enjoy the fact your girl doesnt have loose pussy.
When you're nervous, your muscles tense up, making you tighter which usually causes pain when you're still tight
I think you should talk to her about what she likes, and like, if shes nervous whats her concerns let her know you care about her, its best if you loosen her by fingering her first...that way sex is less painful
take your time with her, just cause you might be ready doesnt mean she is
welll.... lets just put it this way she's been a virgin for how many years give it time start slow lube it get her in the mood her vagina should open a bit don't worry time will open her up with a couple of tries use protection!!
Its probly because she hasnt been "broken in" yet. just because she has had sex three times dosent mean that she is ready to go hard core yet, she probly hasnt had time to heal properly in that area which can take up to a month depending on the severity of the injury. You may not see anything to say its injured but if theres pain then something is hurt there. it may also be sore from vigurious movement. give it some time and i mean more then a day or even a week or two. Next time along with condoms use a lubercating gel thats water based and go SLOW until shes comfortable with it. Oh and dont put your fingers in there thats just not healthy!
Sounds like she's still scared and not getting wet enough to allow penetration by you, if she's still nervous about having sex, she won't relax enough down there to let you in, same goes with your finger in her. You need to see about getting some jelly (K-Y or something like it) to use in order to make it easier to enter her, pre-lubed condoms don't have enough to do any good in her case right now.
Just make sure she's relaxed, she may take awhile to get comfortable with having sex with you, it will get better if you take your time with her, your usually ready way before she is, that's why it's called 'foreplay' and 'afterplay' is important also, it will make her feel better about having sex with you if you make her feel good about having sex with you and not criticize her after wards, rather cuddle with her and soothe her.
Just take it easy, it takes some girls a very long time to get used to sex. After about 4 months I still was hurting at times. Now 2 years later, sometimes if we haven't done it in a while it can still hurt for me. Be happy that your girlfriend is tight! Just take it easy, make sure she's enjoying it, after all, whats more important 'having sex' or both of you enjoying what you are doing, you dont necessarily have to have intercourse to have a grea time together, some other sexual activities might help her to 'loosen up' a bit.
lots of lube
is your best bet