What should a bride do ?!
Question: How can a bride get ready for her wedding ?
what should she do the day or the few days before the wedding ?
any ideas are welcome beauty wise, health, what to wear at the wedding night
and by the way.. it's gonna be her first time having sex in her wedding night (yes a virgin)
Answers: How can a bride get ready for her wedding ?
what should she do the day or the few days before the wedding ?
any ideas are welcome beauty wise, health, what to wear at the wedding night
and by the way.. it's gonna be her first time having sex in her wedding night (yes a virgin)
Most important of all: every woman should have her own money. Best case scenario, she never needs it and it's passed on to her heirs when she dies. Worst case scenario, it's there when she needs it. Plan for forever, but educate yourself about property laws in your state just in case. But more about money later.
For the wedding, don't do extreme hair, makeup or nail styles or colors because everyone will be able to tell when you got married and figure out in future how old you are whether you want them to or not.
For the wedding night, and your sex life in general, I highly recommend Dr. Ruth Westheimer's book for first-time lovers (don't recall the exact title, but first-time lovers is in there). Sex is not the only thing involved in marriage, but understand that you deserve sexual satisfaction, too; it's not all about him.
Learn about and decide on birth control ahead of time. Don't get pregnant on your wedding night; it puts an extreme strain on your relationship. You have to get used to each other as Mary and John before you become Mommy and Daddy. If you can't discuss this with him now, you don't know each other well enough to get married.
My personal thoughts on how to decide whether you should marry a person are not traditional. You've probably thought about changing diapers for any children you may have. Can you see yourself changing his parents' adult diapers and cleaning them up when they are old and disabled? Can you see him changing your parents' adult diapers? Can you see yourself changing his adult diapers if he becomes old and/or disabled? Can you see him doing that for you? Because if you can't, you don't love each other enough for forever. I have been married for 28 years, and we have had to deal with a parent on each side being both in adult diapers and not being all there mentally. It is not easy.
Understand that your future husband and you are real people; happily ever after doesn't come without something going wrong somewhere along the line. Don't focus solely on the wedding and neglect the marriage. A woman should not lose her personality because she's married. All the sacrifices should not be on the woman's side. Don't think that you have to do everything together. If he likes fishing and you don't, or you like opera and he doesn't, then do those activities with other friends. Don't think that all socializing has to be with other couples; your single friends still have a place in your lives.
Some financial experts recommend that he have his own bank account, she have her own bank account, and they each contribute to a joint household account to pay the household's expenses. If one partner makes significantly more money than the other, contributions to the household account should be proportionate to the amount each partner makes.
My personal recommendation is that the household checking account and any savings accounts should be a "John AND Mary" account rather than a "John OR Mary" account. The difference? AND means both partners have to sign a check or withdrawal slip; OR means one partner can sign. AND means one partner cannot empty the household account and abscond with the money.
I know you don't think that will happen to you, but people who supposedly love each other will do unbelievable things. One husband I know took money out of their joint savings (which they needed) to buy a new bass boat (which they didn't need, he already had one). Another husband told his wife he was leaving her, and by the way, could she get his laundry done first? She went to a laundromat even though they had a washer and dryer at home, and poured an entire bottle of Clorox in his whites, then folded everything nicely and smiled when he picked up his clothes. After going through an extra-hot dryer, it made the fabric start to disintegrate when he handled them. Another husband went to the convenience store and didn't come back for two weeks. While he was gone, his wife reached her limit. She packed all his things neatly, stowed them in boxes, and then shoved them off the balcony of their second-floor apartment. He came home to find people going through the boxes on the lawn.
There are lots of wedding planning books available that answer all of these questions and more. Go to a book store and find the one that you like the best. Also magazines such as Brides and Modern Bride are a great help. The magazines will probably offer the more intimate secrets like wedding night jitters and all that. Best wishes to the new bride and congrats on waiting. That is to be commended.
I don't know much about this subject, but maybe if you posted this in the Marriage section (believe there is one) you will get much more and better answers. You will get a lot of opinions about the first time having sex tho.
She should just relax..
Ask the question in the wedding section. =]
A few days before you culd get a facial to make sure your skin is fabulous. But do leave a few days before the wedding in case of redness. You could go for a manicure and pedicure and get your legs waxed ready for your wedding night.