Toughest decision ever!! please help me make it??!
Question: i was just diagnosed with polycystic ovarian disease.
i also have a bleeding disease - because of a miscarriage last May.
i was told the chances of me having kids are like 0 - none if i wait.
but, i was told if i tried getting pregnant now, i have a better chance.
here's the thing: i'm only 19. i don't really have that much money due to a recent problem... i am married though, with 2 great step daughters and i love them dearly (but hardly ever see them).
i was also offered an acceptance at a university for an amazing program, 4 years long.
i understand i can adopt and foster children, but it's not the same as my own... what do i do? try now? i was born to be a mother, i really really was. that's all i have EVER wanted to be.
i can do distance education or start university at a later date... but i don't know what to do !! help?? thanks!!
Answers: i was just diagnosed with polycystic ovarian disease.
i also have a bleeding disease - because of a miscarriage last May.
i was told the chances of me having kids are like 0 - none if i wait.
but, i was told if i tried getting pregnant now, i have a better chance.
here's the thing: i'm only 19. i don't really have that much money due to a recent problem... i am married though, with 2 great step daughters and i love them dearly (but hardly ever see them).
i was also offered an acceptance at a university for an amazing program, 4 years long.
i understand i can adopt and foster children, but it's not the same as my own... what do i do? try now? i was born to be a mother, i really really was. that's all i have EVER wanted to be.
i can do distance education or start university at a later date... but i don't know what to do !! help?? thanks!!
I think you answered it yourself!
I'm so sorry to hear of your problems!
I would never normally recommend that someone of your age have children over education but at 19 you are still young and have time ahead to study.
I would take the chance to try for a baby. If you don't try now later you may regret, if you think you will regret not trying now, then there's really not a question as to what you should do! I'm sure your family would support you in this decision.
As far as not much money goes you said that your married and therefore have a serious partner with whom you can really love a child and look after it together love is worth far more than money!
Yes university is amazing but having your own child will be to! besides you can always wait for uni!
In the end no-one here can make this decision for you you know whats right for you, your body and your relationship
Good Luck!
If its what you want to do , then try now, if it doesn't happen at least you know you tried. How long are you going to try though? It would be bad so get to caught up in it and be disappointed, be care full and good luck.
if a mother is what u really really EVER wanted to be
i would go with that
school will always be there
go with what your heart tells you to. i mean 19 is very young but if you want it then go for it.
good luck
This is your one and only chance to have a kid of your own.
University will ALWAYS be there. this chance wont be. I think you should try to have your own children now. It seems your pretty stable and stuff so id go after the kids.
Well when your child is in school full time then you can go to school too. Then you'll have the best of both worlds.
Leave it up to fate... try now and if it happens it was meant to be! If not, then you know that your purpose as a mother is to be a parent to a child without one. Things will happen the way they're meant to. Good luck, and I hope things work out for you. Oh, and talk to your husband about this. He obviously has a lot at stake in this as well, and I'm sure his opinion matters to you. If he's with you on trying now, great. If not, try to make him understand why you feel it's so important. Good luck!!!
go for the kid-much more memories than school, and a lot more lovable too!!
First of all. With any big diagnoses like this you need to get a second opinion. I'm not saying your doctor is wrong. You should always get a second set of eyes when dealing with something like this though. Another doctor may have an different opinion on your options.
I had a baby at 21 and do not regret it for one second. If you feel that you can do it. Than go for it. Most universities do have childcare. It isn't the easiest way to go, but in your situation it may be the way you must go.
BTW I'm twenty five almost twenty six and I haven't gone back yet. Money is a major issue when you have to pay for childcare plus tution for yourself. I suggest if your going push forward with a baby don't delay school. It's really hard, but it's going to be harder to go back later.
I got pregnant with my daughter when I was 20...I'm now almost 30. I haven't been able to have any other children, so for me I was lucky to have gotten pregnant when I did. If I had waited I might not have ever became a Mom. I never once have looked back and thought having a child was the wrong thing to do..So do what you heart tells you.