Why Does Everyone Think They Have the Right to Judge Me for My Abortion?!
Question: I've had an abortion and I was treated so badly by the bible hugging know-nothings outside. YOU HAVE NO RIGHT! I'm not saying you shouldn't be there but shut up. The women that I have walk past you people don't need to be treated that way. Yes, not only have I had one but I help women choose that path too. I don't regret it and I never will. I'm pround and I was happy when it was over. OH and the pill doesn't always work and neither do condoms.
Why do you feel the right?
Answers: I've had an abortion and I was treated so badly by the bible hugging know-nothings outside. YOU HAVE NO RIGHT! I'm not saying you shouldn't be there but shut up. The women that I have walk past you people don't need to be treated that way. Yes, not only have I had one but I help women choose that path too. I don't regret it and I never will. I'm pround and I was happy when it was over. OH and the pill doesn't always work and neither do condoms.
Why do you feel the right?
I couldnt agree with you more.
I cant say Ive experienced it personally because Ive never had an abortion, but I do believe as a woman its your body and your right to have an abortion. Im certainly not for having one myself, but given certain circumstances I can understand why someone would have one. I would NEVER in my right mind go off at someone for having one unless they were doing it every few weeks as if it was a new form of contraception, and I would certainly not try and preach religion to someone because of it. For gods sake its traumatic enough without having someone do that! No wonder you're angry, I would be too!!
i think because abortion is a big sin because you have take away the right of a child to live in this w0rld..
People have different views on that thing cause it's a very touchy subject. So some frown upon it, so I wouldn't be surprised if I were you. I don't totally agree on it myself but I respect other peoples decisions.
Because they think they are right.
They think their way is the only right way to live. They don't care who they offend.
One of the reasons why I left the church is their pro-life stance.
To me it's the mothers choice. Not the church and not the government.
It's not right to judge anybody for anything in my point of view.
BUT your proud and don't regreat it? Um...it's different when you NEED to get one because of money, and other PROBLEMS but getting one just because it happened and because your protection didnt work and your all proud of it..not so much of a good thing. You cant just be one them people who get one just because you can. I dont think people should judge others but it also sounds like you need to grow up a bit as well. sorry.
you had your "reasons" and that is something YOU will have to live with all your life. I'm not going to throw stones at you. I just would not have one myself. I wish no one ever wanted/ needed one.
i knew a gal who had a baby with a brain condition that made it so that the kid would never grow right and mentally NEVER get past 2 months of age. when pregnant for time number 2 they did a test and found SAME THING WRONG. they got an abortion. that is about the only time I can appreciate it. EXTREME circumstances. not as a back up to birth control.
these are the most valid reasons i can think of.. i don't say i am right or i am wrong. but this is what i feel only circumstances for it:
RAPE
INCEST
DEATH
EXTREME quality of life issues, ones where i myself would rather die than live like that. (ie: born with organs outside the body, something like i mentioned above)
I don't care a bit about those gals who do it as a back up to a ruptured condom or failed contraceptives.
I knew a gal in high school who has not 1 not 2 but 3, THREE abortions.
Abortion is so common in some countries if they find it is a girl. isn't that a nice thought?
people feel very strongly about that issue. i could never have one myself, but i certainly feel it should be a personal choice and a right. now, i could not go so far as to say if i could do it that i would be proud as you say you are. there are many things that you can be condemned for but that just happens to be one issue that some people just go overboard about.
the way the world is right now i think you may of saved a life..
I'm not saying abortion is good.. I'm not a fan of it, but if my gf got pregnant i would def choose to do it. why? not that i dont want a baby, just dont want one now and I'm not ready for it.
I've been in your shoes. And it's hard enough to deal with your own inner turmoil, and then you have to listen to other people tell you that you're going to hell. I don't know what your circumstance was, but mine was basically that I already had a child with a man who left me a single mother, I made a mistake and wound up pregnant (indeed, the pill, or at least me on the pill, does not work), I had an abortion.
People that feel the need to judge should remember that we are all human, we are not perfect, we make choices (bad and good) and we live with our choices. WE live with them, not the know it all freaks that feel they need to make an example out of us.
I'm sorry for the pain they caused you.
I also had an abortion. It was a birth control baby. What kind of world is this to raise a child in? That's the reason I'm on birth control, not to get pregnant.
These people feel that it's their right to force their beliefs upon you, which by the way is a form of harassment. They think that their way is the only way. Ignore them. They're ignorant. And I'm convinced most of them are just jealous because they didn't have the courage to get an abortion and now they're stuck at home with 7 children and another one on the way and they're only 27.
the religious right (the ultra-conservatives), believe that human life begins at the moment of conception. so using that logic, they then believe that abortion is murder... and murder of an innocent victim (since the fetus has no choice in the matter). if you were to see babies being murdered, i'm sure you'd have a very strong emotional reaction. i'm not defending them AT ALL, and i don't actually agree with them - but that is their viewpoint. the problem in my mind is that their emotional outrages are (if you believe in the bible) sinful. which makes them hypocritical.
not all "bible hugging" christians will yell and rant at you when you leave an abortion clinic. i wouldn't.
i know some non-christians who would though...
the choice to have an abortion is a very difficult one... and often one that is regretted later in life. quite possibly you did the best thing for your baby. it is miserable growing up not wanted... in my opinion, it would be better to grow up in the arms of Jesus than to grow up in a hurtful, painful and damaging world.
i do not agree with the christian coalition and their demeaning protests. i do however believe that life is sacred... and that all life has a purpose.
... but again, this "bible hugging" christian would much rather be there to comfort your upcoming pain and ache when you long to hold your baby (in a few months or years from now) than to rant and rave at your decision.
i'm sorry you were traumatized twice. ... and in one day. that is really awful.
You're proud? You've taken the opportunity to live from a child and you're proud?
Did the baby ask to be created? No. How could you not have given it a chance? Please don't think I'm judging you. But, abortion just isn't right.
It just isn't right. I'm sorry to burst your little bubble of pride, but it just isn't right.
EDIT: You see yourself as an unfit mother (no comment)? Yeah, I'm back. I had a feeling you would defend yourself from my answer. I'm sorry if my answer offended you but you didn't honestly expect every person who answered your question to 'be on your side' did you?
I'll be honest and say that I am a Christian and it isn't exactly easy to listen to a person who 'saved her baby from a horrible life by getting an abortion' spout that she's proud. If you're proud and don't regret it, I can't change you.
I'm so very sorry that you had to endure both the pain of having an abortion and the pain of other people's criticism and judgement ~ nobody is entitled to tell a woman whether or not she should keep her baby ............ aside from the point that it is her body and she has to live with her decisions and be able to comfortably raise the baby ........ what about the mental impact that having an unwanted child could and more than likely would have on a person?? What about the depression and stress that would inevitably ensue ........ you made a decision that was yours to make and you have nobody to apologise to as far as i'm concerned. People who judge and condemn others are usually doing so because they are avoiding juding themselves and in the process mete out some very cruel behaviour ?
Chin up hun, do some things that you enjoy and try to put the stress and heartache behind you ?
Get out in the fresh air and sunshine and do something fun that really puts a smile on your dial .............. could be anything from chasing your mates around the shopping centre aisles, to singing at the top of your voice when your fave rock song comes over the loudspeaker system at the mall .......... hey, my fave pastime is to put really loud rock music on and jump around my loungeroom jamming down pretending i'm up on stage with all the boys in the band, works for me ?
please take care of you?
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i can't stand people like that. i dont think anything makes me more angry. they do NOT have any right to judge you. if they are so against abortion, then they shouldnt have one! sometimes abortion is necessary, and it is up to the woman, and no woman should be judged because of it. just ignore those people, they want a reaction.
i'm sorry you're so stressed out by what others think, and say. who are they to judge is right. sweetie, i know it's a very hard decision to make, and i'm sorry you were ever faced with such a decision.
now it's time to move on. pick yourself up, brush yourself off, head held high, focus on what to do next, and screw the world. no one would be there for your baby night, and day except for you. you are the only one capable of making a decision on what to do.
i'm not going to lye, you will get a lot of hell over this is you tell people. that is why it's called a personal choice, and should have been your best kept secret. only a very good friend who supports you should know about it, and be there to comfort you. in you're time of need.
email me, call a hot line, or a good friend, but don't go through this alone. i'll pray for you to find peace in your decision, and you're ability to recover from the pain.
take care, a bible loving christian like no other, barbara
i think you did the right thing for yourself. i must say i know alot of ppl that wish their mother had aborted them because they were raped and beaten as a child. not to mention the hate some mothers show towards their child because the child was from a rape. i dont agree with abortions and probably would never have had one my self but if its right for you. my friend got kicked out when her mum found out she was pregnate so she had to abort it cuz she couldnt care for it. she choice what was best for her child. and how can you tell me its ok to kill a cat cuz noone wanted it but its wrong to stop a bad life for a child?
religious ppl are the most hypocrital ppl in the world. i hate them with their judging eyes and stares and how they think they know best. if they really wanted to stop it they would adopt every baby in the world. and how do the know the baby wasnt handicapped or from a rape they dont know.
i still think that if you have sex you should be prepared to face the conciquence of a child be prepared to care for it but i dont know your situation and for all i know it could be a rape child so i cant judge you.
but it sounds like you did the right thing and if your not ready then why put a child through that. i know alot of ppl who have mothers who should not have been.
but you do what is best for you and tell them to shove thier bibles up ther ar$es
They don't "think" they have a right to judge you, some ppl missuse the freedom of speech by placing judgement on what they feel is wrong.. It is justifiable in a sense for how they think, most everyone would agree we should punish anyone that comits murder, theif, robbery & so on. We use a Judge & or a jury to make the decision after a trial..
When you said the Bible Hugging Know-nothing's "outside", it could be said you had no right to call anyone that, unless you can prove it true in a court of law & be more specific as to whom you are calling such deragotory remark's. There are many Bible Hugger's, Bible Pusher's, Christian & Non Christian belief's, that are very much against abortion,I'm against abortion, I feel it's murder any way you look at it..
As far as I know, the ppl have never voted it legal to murder other than abortion.. There are groups aqgainst certain forms of birth control, other than abstinance.. It's really a shame we have little control over our own body, that causes such chaos..
Whomever is calling you names or judging you, they are wrong !! Plus they don't know their Bible as well as they declare cause it does tell us to also obey the laws of the land,which means this place where we reside & if they are not Jesus Christ or an appointed judge..They should remain quiet.. The pill doesn't alway's work but a combination of two forms can give you better prevention of pregnancy, that's being responsible for your actions..
Good Luck...
hmm... my guess is that people are sickened by the fact that you killed a member of your own family and show no remorse.
Just because something is legal doesn't mean it is right.
It's a scientific fact that life begins at conception, weather you believe in god or not you made the decisions that led to your pregnancy weather they were good decisions or not is not relevant the fact is that you made the decisions that led to a new life being brought into this world, and you were responsible for your babies well being.instead you stopped your own babies beating heart and you are a murderer. Why should your family and friends have any more sympathy for you than for some one who murdered a sheriff or fire fighter. after all one day your baby might become a sheriff or firefighter, but wait..he or she wont no he or she wont because you killed your daughter or son in cold blood. you should bee locked up. maybe instead of mocking those who have faith in god you should have listened to them after all they were trying to save the life of your son or daughter. And even if your friends and family cant forgive you god can and wants to forgive you.