I want to have a baby really bad?!
Question: I'm 17 and finshed high school early. I'm working right now until I find out when i want to do with my life. I know a baby is not a doll that can live on my bed. That it needs love and attention. I have family and friends who will help me. Plus I know how to take care of a baby. I learned everything when my brother was little. I know it's hard work but I know I can do it. I talked to my mom about it and she said it's just a phase I'm going threw. I know I should wait until I'm married but that's a long time away. How can I stop thinking about it? Please don't be rude or mean.
Answers: I'm 17 and finshed high school early. I'm working right now until I find out when i want to do with my life. I know a baby is not a doll that can live on my bed. That it needs love and attention. I have family and friends who will help me. Plus I know how to take care of a baby. I learned everything when my brother was little. I know it's hard work but I know I can do it. I talked to my mom about it and she said it's just a phase I'm going threw. I know I should wait until I'm married but that's a long time away. How can I stop thinking about it? Please don't be rude or mean.
It's great you want to have a baby. That's normal. So make a plan so that you will some day be able to have one.
1. Finish your education. High school alone is not enough to get you through life.
2. While you're at it, look for the man of your dreams. Date him. Marry him.
3. Have sex and walla....there you go.
You could have all that within 3 or 4 years. Think of your baby and what she/he deserves; a good home, a mother AND father, a stable life--not one barely surviving on welfare, food stamps and government handouts, which is all you could do for her/him right now.
It's okay to want to be a mother. But don't be selfish. Think about the baby's wants, too.
Here is a link to help you figure out what you want to do. You can look up careers, find out all about the job, what it pays, what your responsibilities will be, how much education the job requires, the demand for that job, etc. Good luck.
Good things come to those who wait.
http://www.bls.gov/oco/
well, you can stop thinking about it, by getting a pet, taking a baby sitting job, or helping out at a day care. :]
It really probably is a phase, I also (and right now, with my boyfriend) feel like I really want to be a mother, even though I know I'm not ready. Just wait it out and focus on other things. Find a hobby to take up spare time.
I kinda went thru a stage like that when I would wonder what being pregnant was like a lot and wanting to have a little baby to always hang around with and stuff but then I realized that being young and having fun and finding the right guy is what I should be doing and you can only be young once.
To think that your 17 considering getting pregnant is a high risk for your age... there are many complication that arises in the situation of early pregnancy. i suggest, if you really want to, consult your doctor or OB. by the way, the ideal age for pregnancy is 24 years old. the lower the age get, the high risk it become.
You don't have the money for a baby. I don't care how much overtime you worked at Burger King, you don't have enough. Take it from me, I am currently pregnant and I'm f*cking terrified. I don't want to be pregnant, and I don't want to deal with it. You're 17, go to college and you'll see how life really is. You're so young and you have so much ahead of you. If you have a baby now you will struggle, 30-something year old moms struggle and they're well off and financially stable.
Go to college, get a better job, and live life to the fullest. Wouldn't you want to give your child everything they could possibly want and you'll be able to afford that and then some.
Live your life first, then you'll have great stories to tell your kids plus you'll have years of wisdom.
You probably aren't sure of what you want, you can't just have a baby and be done with it, and if you don't like having one, you can't just take it back, it's not a doll or a thing, you won't just have a baby, you'll be a parent.
**************** We're not being mean, you asked a stupid question. Would you perfer us to say yeahh go for it! Have a baby, go on welfare! You won't be able to take care of it, are you really ready to give all your attention to a baby and no longer yourself.
Think of everything you'll be missing, hangouts with friends, movies, parties, boyfriends, hookups and even the little things, painting your nails, looking at pointless magazines, going to the mall to do nothing. All that will be gone and you know damn well you aren't ready for it.
We're not being mean, we're trying to save you and let you know exactly what you're getting into, you can't compare a pet to a baby, or a babysitting job to a baby, they are NOT EQUAL!
Take care love, do stupid things (except that), act crazy, laugh, smile and get drunk (responsibly), and make something out of yourself.
First of all, you don't have enough $$. It costs $200,000 from the time a baby is born until they graduate from high school.
Second, you're being selfish. I grew up with my parents divorced and with not a lot of money. I missed out on so many things that my friends had. Mostly emotional support by having a traditional family. I am very liberal and extremely open minded but when it comes to raising kids I start becoming really traditional because of the way I was raised. I have lots of emotional scars from my dad not being in my home growing up. My mom worked ALL the time, I was alone a lot and got really depressed. Plus I think all kids need a sibling and you probably couldn't afford that either. Fathers are crucial to little girl's self esteem and the same sex parent is the most important in a child's life (if it's a boy).
It's not fair to the kid- don't do it. DON'T DO IT. If you love your future child enough you wouldn't be so selfish. Go to college and get a degree so you can set a good example for them and be on your feet.
okay honestly,
i know you said that you have money for the baby, but do you know how much that costs?!
my god. you have to pay for food, diapers, clothing, bottles, pascifiares, baby wash/lotion, toys, a BABY BED, not your bed, and you have you have to pay to sta in the hospital. and plus, get married! your going to ruin your life if you have a baby BEFORE getting married. and why in the heck would you want something screaming and crying all day long.
babies are not nice and loving. they are selfish whiny brats.
if they dont get their food on time all they do is cry.
did you ever think about that?
dont have a baby until you find a good father for it. Without a good father figure the babies life will be incomplete and it will face social problems in the future. it wouldnt be fair for the baby to be denied having a normal father and family,
dont worry the right time will come
be patient
dont till ur married
The longer you wait, the more you will cherish your baby when the right time comes!
Wait until you have a good paying job with medical/health insurance. Babies need to go to the doctor more often than a healthy adult and that can get expensive! Babies/kids also require stuff designed just for them so you have to buy that too. They outgrow stuff so fast that you will frequently be buying stuff for them.
You may have the support of family but is it fair to expect your mom, who raised you, to have to babysit her grand baby every day while you go to work? You and the baby would benefit the most if you had a helping set of hands living in the house with you - like a husband.
You will find that some of your friends will become scarce when a baby enters the picture unless they have babies too. It is not necessarily that they do not care, but that you will be very busy with baby and will not be going out or hanging out like you might be doing now. There will probably be a "oh look! an adorable baby!" phase which will last for a couple months then after that you are on your own.
what are you a moron? a baby is a child, a person. not something for your past time. grow up. your obviously way to immature for a baby. get a steady man first an perferably married, an have your own house an a good job before you decide to screw up a babys life.
ITs a phase
HAving a baby however... is not, its for life.
Also...life is too short to have a baby at 17 (if you can help it) enjoy your single life before you settle down.
I'm kinda in the same boat as you, the major difference is that I'm 24. I really want a baby to and, like you, I'm confident that I could take care of it well and I have a good support system, and all of that -- the only thing missing is a MAN....not just any man, mind you, but the man of my dreams that I love and trust and loves and trusts me and who I can establish a FAMILY UNIT with.....have you thought about that? Everyone has different priorities and I'm not trying to push the idea of having a husband or at least a long-term boyfriend on you, but wouldn't that be nice and ideal to raise a baby with? I know a few girls your age who really wanted a baby and just went out and got pregnant just to have one. I know the urge to have a baby is strong because biologically speaking, you are at the prime age to practice your reproductive abilities, but the truth is, you are still very young and have LOTS of time to make lots of babies with the man of your dreams...when you find him. In the meantime, my advice to you is to use your energy and desire to have a baby to look for a guy you can establish a strong, loving relationship with...then have your baby. As the old rhyme goes "1st comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage!".....In my opinion, that would be the ideal situation for any woman and any child she brings in the world.
Girl I know how you fell. I feel like I want to have a baby all the time. You cant stop thinking i mean come on its a baby for petz sake. I think if found a guy who would be willing to do that and you know that you can pay for the kid then you should go for it. We should be friends. My email is hdffuek@yahoo.com
What are you going to do if your child isn't healthy? Are you going to be able to send it to a special school? What if your child is blind and deaf? How are you going to be able to handle that? You can't even vote lol so I know you don't have any money. Britney Spears is rich and can't even take care of two children... so aside from being financially unstable (in your case), you may not even be mentally stable.
lol why is everyone so mean to the retard?
You should wait until you're married. Or go to college so your baby can have a better life and you dont have to depend on everyone else. Your kid should be your responsibilty. Let it have married parents who can support it with more than a highschool education
I don't know how to stop thinking about having a baby, but I think you should definitely wait until you are married. Being married has made all the difference for me and my husband and our children. Children need more than just material things, they need love and nurturing and time and attention. They need parents who are ready to be parents and to take care of them. I really hope you wait. I am glad you have experience with children because then you will be better prepared when you have your own children. Having children is a 24hour day job/7 days a week. It is challenging and very rewarding. To fill your need for a child, you should consider being a nanny or baby-sitter. Then, you are earning money and possibly traveling. It is good that you are working. Then, you can save money. You should look at college too and give yourself a chance to go and learn new stuff. Have fun and enjoy this time in your life. Try new things. Help other parents. Help your friends. Volunteer to work with children who are at the hospital being treated for cancer. Marriage really made the difference for me, I could not imagine parenting alone. I hope you wait.
The thing is, most respondents missed your question, which is "how can I stop thinking about it?" They were answering what you didn't ask (but made an argument for) which was, "why can't I just do it?"
I know that some of these answers were mean, but others were just telling hard truths. If you are really considering it, I would suggest that you start doing the math: how much will rent, food, child care, health insurance, etc. cost? And you might talk with other young mothers--there might be some at the daycare where you work. Daycare is different from day-in day-out mothering.
Lots of young women have been through this--it's very painful. If you decide you can't go forward, try to think about what your second choice is--what you care about most, next to having a baby, Follow up on that second choice, and you may find that it becomes compelling enough that the desire for a baby eases until it become more possible to have one.
Watch a friend's newborn for a whole weekend.
Ok ignore the meanies on here. If it is the right time in your life and you know you can take care of the baby and give it all the love and attention it deserves then I think you should either have a baby or focus on something else in your life. Try to find something to look forward to, a job promotion, new love. something like that. don't let this desire take over your life. there's plenty of time for kids, and odds are if you want one this bad now, you'll be even more prepared to take care of it in the future. just relax, you have your whole life ahead of you. good luck, hopefully this helped! don't get discouraged by these people, they probably just want points
I have got the solution for you to help you stop wanting a baby.
It is very drastic, so we will have to proceed with caution.
I will dress up like a baby, diapers and all--I may have to tape two or three depends together, but for you I'll make the effort.
I will send you a picture. When you see that, your ovaries will literally jump out of your body and run into the woods.
But it is going to be awful hard to handle so you may want to look at it under the supervision of some professionals so it doesn't send you too far over the edge all together.
I figure you will be able to suppress the memory in about ten years time, at which time you can have your baby.
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Seriously I think what you are going through is natural. The desire is why we are all here today, it is probably simply very strong for U since you are a nurturing person. For a guy it is usually easier because after we drop the kids off at the pool, we forget about it for a while.
And don't listen to the mean people, you shouldn't let them get you upset like that, because then they win.
I can understand why you would want a baby. I'm 19, in college, and I personally wish I could have a baby. However, it's best to be rational about it, and realize that 17 is probably too soon to have children. Before you make a decision, think long and hard about what you want to do, and I know you understand that a baby isn't a doll. A way to stop thinking about it...hm....maybe you could ask your sister if you could babysit her child more often, then you'd learn what it's like to have a child.
IF U HAVE A MAN THAT IZ WILLING 2 B A FATHER TO THAT CHILD AND U HAVE THE MONEY FOR IT THEN YOU SHOULD HAVE A CHILD!!