Raped 3 years ago will I ever feel ok again?!
Question: the emotional pain is hurting me inside I have a lump in my throat of tears but they never come out. I stay in as much as I can because I am nervous and can only put on a mask of coping for long enough to go to work. I get home and I am alone. I cant trust people I cant get close to people the world feels such a cold lonely place.
Its been 3 years - how long until I feel ok again? My life is wasting away.
Answers: the emotional pain is hurting me inside I have a lump in my throat of tears but they never come out. I stay in as much as I can because I am nervous and can only put on a mask of coping for long enough to go to work. I get home and I am alone. I cant trust people I cant get close to people the world feels such a cold lonely place.
Its been 3 years - how long until I feel ok again? My life is wasting away.
Many people who have experienced any kind of abuse feel that it is their fault. It is NEVER your fault! Talking about it helps. You need to let go and understand that there ARE good people out there!
I think to all of us that the world can feel like such a cold and lonely place, I feel like that time to time. Don't let this incident hold you back from leading the life that you truly deserve.
I am a strong believer in Karma and whoever has done this to you will get theirs sooner or later.
YOU DESERVE HAPPINESS!
Please, please don't let your life wast away. You deserve better than that.
I recommend that you see a councilor, to vent all the emotions you've kept inside. You WILL get through this!
Take it one day at a time and tell yourself everyday that you deserve happiness.
I truly wish the best for you! :)
you will never be the same anymore but you can controll it buy going to therapy
I know it may seem a bit far away, but you could get a councilor or something ?
Good luck;l
maby if the person was caught you'd feel better, have you reported it yet? it seems its never too late to report these things..
they have therapists for your exact problem and they can help you cope with your feelings much better then anyone else. i suggest you look one up. good luck =)
wow that is terrible i was also raped it takes a long time to get over it. I would suggest joining a support group or talking to someone just let it out that made me feel better
don't worry! try to face the world! be brave!!! if you try and stay inside all the time you won't be able to face people
go outside often and try to enjoy life in a sensible and an entertaining way!
hope that helped :)
you need to get help to deal with it because its been three years. most people that go thru something so horrible need help to move on. its nothing to be ashamed of, go see your doctor and get a referral to a psychologist or counsellor. it may seem hard but you wont regret it. the world can be a happier place if you get help. im sorry you have had to go through this
what you went through was unfair, and wasnt pleasant.
but you are punishing yourself.
it was not your fault, it does not change who you are.
and not everybody would do something like that.
just talk to people, make friends, you dont have to become close or be physical, and you can explain your prefere personal space. but you need people are around to enjoy the nice things in life, to share hopes, dreams, successes and to generally have fun with. they do not need to know everything about you, or touch you if you do not wish.
dont punish yourself.
if you help yourself, you will be cured of this shadow of the past. dont let it hang over you anymore.
it will take time and may not be easy but one step at a time and you can better your life.
good luck.
You don't have to deal with this on your own. You'll feel better if you open up to someone. If you do not wish to confide in family or friends go to a therapist or a counsellor. They will not undo or erase what happened but they will help you cope with it and get on with your life. I think you are ready to accept help since you realise that you are wasting your life away by shutting yourself from others.
Gather your strength and reach out for others.
I would go and see someone!! If you family then try going out with them until you make some friends unless you have some already then go out with them!! Don't let who ever rapped you ruin your life!! You will only start feeling o.k. when you want to!! It really does depend on the person!! and the asshole who rapped will get what he deserves!!
Good Luck and remember don't let him take your life!!
You probably won't feel the same and will feel anxious around people... you should cry though that will help you get some emotions out, try something fun just cause you've been raped doesn't mean you have to let it ruin your entire life