How much does a first penetration hurts? For how many sessions will it continue !
Question: It does NOT always go away after the first time. It took me a while for the pain to go away. Pain during sex is called dyspareunia.
About 6 weeks after I lost my virginity, I saw the doctor because I was still having pain. It turned out to be the remnants of my hymen. It wasn't enough for a surgical intervention, but it was enough to keep the opening from stretching without a bit of coaxing every time. The doctor gave me a prescription for a numbing cream and told me to come back in five months.
It turned out I didn't need it. I didn't like using it, and it went away on its own.
In my case, it was the hymen. I think in MOST cases of it's lack of proper lubrication. Make sure she's very very wet before you enter. If she's not lubricating much on her own, you can buy lubricants at the store. Why not use your hands or lips to bring her to orgasm before you have sex? That way you know she will receive pleasure every time, and it should get her wet. Try exploring her vagina with your fingers... she should be very slippery inside.
Another important consideration is that she could have Bacterial Vaginosis or a Yeast Infection. These are caused by imbalances of the normal bacteria, NOT by sexually transmitted diseases. If she's feeling a burning or chafing, it could be one of these. If thats the case, a simple antibiotic should clear things up quickly. She may not be showing any other symptoms.
Its important to consider where she's having pain. Is it near the entrance? Is it deeper in? Does it feel like a burning sensation? Is it a dull pain? Is it spread out? Is it localized? Does it feel like she's cut or torn? Does she hurt for a long time or only during sex? A doctor can help sort all that out.
A short list of possible causes:
Common:
- not enough lubrication
- infection
Less common:
- stubborn hymen (broken, but not completely)
- vaginismus (involuntary spasm of the vaginal muscles upon entry, sometimes related to fear of intimacy or expectation of pain).
- vulvar vestibulitis (the glands that release lubrication become irritated and inflamed easily).
- vulvodynia (lasting pain in the area around the opening of the vagina.)
- Polycyststic Ovary Syndrome (an endochrine disorder)
- Endometriosis (uterine tissue growing in the wrong places).
- A pelvic mass (variety of causes. not cancer, but collected material).
- Bowel or bladder disease (everything is close together in there. You can put pressure on both through penetration).
- Scar tissue (prevents stretching. can result from infections.)
- Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (deeper infection, seriously bad).
- Menopause (lower estrogen causes problems)
- Interstitial Cystitis (an autoimmune disorder)
- Sj?gren's syndrome (an autoimmune disorder)
That's hardly everything it could be. Painful intercourse is a symptom of a lot of different things. Some of those things don't have to do with the reproductive organs at all. She probably doesn't have any of those things, but it would be a good idea to go see a doctor. She really should, just because it could be an infection, and those don't go away without treatment.
I think most women only experience pain the first time, so this isn't completely normal. It warrants a check-up. However, its probably something simple, so don't be afraid.
I'm glad she's with a caring husband who is doing everything he can to help solve this problem. I'm sure that it is easier for her to handle this difficult issue because you are being supportive.
Good luck! I hope you and your wife are able to figure this out soon.
Answers: It does NOT always go away after the first time. It took me a while for the pain to go away. Pain during sex is called dyspareunia.
About 6 weeks after I lost my virginity, I saw the doctor because I was still having pain. It turned out to be the remnants of my hymen. It wasn't enough for a surgical intervention, but it was enough to keep the opening from stretching without a bit of coaxing every time. The doctor gave me a prescription for a numbing cream and told me to come back in five months.
It turned out I didn't need it. I didn't like using it, and it went away on its own.
In my case, it was the hymen. I think in MOST cases of it's lack of proper lubrication. Make sure she's very very wet before you enter. If she's not lubricating much on her own, you can buy lubricants at the store. Why not use your hands or lips to bring her to orgasm before you have sex? That way you know she will receive pleasure every time, and it should get her wet. Try exploring her vagina with your fingers... she should be very slippery inside.
Another important consideration is that she could have Bacterial Vaginosis or a Yeast Infection. These are caused by imbalances of the normal bacteria, NOT by sexually transmitted diseases. If she's feeling a burning or chafing, it could be one of these. If thats the case, a simple antibiotic should clear things up quickly. She may not be showing any other symptoms.
Its important to consider where she's having pain. Is it near the entrance? Is it deeper in? Does it feel like a burning sensation? Is it a dull pain? Is it spread out? Is it localized? Does it feel like she's cut or torn? Does she hurt for a long time or only during sex? A doctor can help sort all that out.
A short list of possible causes:
Common:
- not enough lubrication
- infection
Less common:
- stubborn hymen (broken, but not completely)
- vaginismus (involuntary spasm of the vaginal muscles upon entry, sometimes related to fear of intimacy or expectation of pain).
- vulvar vestibulitis (the glands that release lubrication become irritated and inflamed easily).
- vulvodynia (lasting pain in the area around the opening of the vagina.)
- Polycyststic Ovary Syndrome (an endochrine disorder)
- Endometriosis (uterine tissue growing in the wrong places).
- A pelvic mass (variety of causes. not cancer, but collected material).
- Bowel or bladder disease (everything is close together in there. You can put pressure on both through penetration).
- Scar tissue (prevents stretching. can result from infections.)
- Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (deeper infection, seriously bad).
- Menopause (lower estrogen causes problems)
- Interstitial Cystitis (an autoimmune disorder)
- Sj?gren's syndrome (an autoimmune disorder)
That's hardly everything it could be. Painful intercourse is a symptom of a lot of different things. Some of those things don't have to do with the reproductive organs at all. She probably doesn't have any of those things, but it would be a good idea to go see a doctor. She really should, just because it could be an infection, and those don't go away without treatment.
I think most women only experience pain the first time, so this isn't completely normal. It warrants a check-up. However, its probably something simple, so don't be afraid.
I'm glad she's with a caring husband who is doing everything he can to help solve this problem. I'm sure that it is easier for her to handle this difficult issue because you are being supportive.
Good luck! I hope you and your wife are able to figure this out soon.
Depends on how big it is. Actually only the first.
hmmm...well a first penetration is always the worst penetration, but you can drink champagne on your birth penetration!
just the first time if she didn't already break herself in!
It depends on the size of the penis as well as how relaxed you are. I wouldnt say its extremely painful more like an uncomfortable feeling. It can hurt afterwards as well although you find that it hurts less and less everytime.
It hurts only the first time and only for a few seconds.
She needs to heal for a week before having sex again.
After that, it won't hurt.
Are you giving her enough foreplay and lubrication? That matters alot too.
Use some lube. Go to Walmart and pick up a tube of KY jelly, it's cheap. Dab a bit on the tip of your erect penis and on the entrance of her vagina. Slide in and enjoy. It'll reduce the friction and ease inseartion. She'll enjoy it more.
If this don't work, get her good and liquored up. She won't feel them pain then, LOL!!