How do you have one of those mind blowing feelings during sex?!
Question: Ok...I never had an orgasm before or at least I never relised it. I feel so bad because I love my boyfriend and I fake it. :(
Any tricks or positions? How long? How do I know when I have one?
Please HELP!!!
Answers: Ok...I never had an orgasm before or at least I never relised it. I feel so bad because I love my boyfriend and I fake it. :(
Any tricks or positions? How long? How do I know when I have one?
Please HELP!!!
If you have never realized it, you haven't had one. I will now proceed to give you some serious advice.
Some women, many women actually, cannot have an orgasm without some sort of clitoral stimulation. A woman who has a lot of trouble having one will need clitoral stimulation by a vibrator. It is quite normal and you should not feel bad about it at all. However, DO NOT let your boyfriend know that you fake it. It will cause problems, trust me, don't do it.
Try this first. Go to a sex shop and buy a vibrator. Don't worry about being embarrassed in the least. It is not a big deal and nobody inside the shop will care that you are there. The cashiers should be helpful and you can ask them anything, because trust me, they have heard it ALL. They have heard your story a thousand times and will be sympathetic, not mean about it. The only people they ever laugh at are the ones who come in, act all rude to them and then go buy dvds of females urinating.
Ask the cashier to show you a strong vibrator, most shops will take it out of the package for you and put batteries in it so you can see how strong it is. Don't be afraid if it makes a bit of noise, you don't want a wimpy one and on a good vibrator the speed will be adjustable. Ask for a Cal Exotic brand bullet or egg (the only difference is the shape) one of those would be your best bet. They come in several colors, silver, gold or glow in the dark. The only thing about the silver and gold is that they don't work well with piercings. Wash your new toy before and after you use it, and especially before the first use, you don't want any factory dust on it and somebody had to put it in that package. And one last thing, do not leave the store until they have put batteries in your final purchase to see if it works. If you happen to go to a crappy inner city store, they might neglect this and you may need to ask them to do it, but don't leave before you see that the product works because a surprising amount of the time they don't, and shops like that don't take returns ever for the obvious reasons. Don't forget to buy batteries too if you don't have them, most shops sell them too.
Buy some lube so you won't chafe anything. I mean, you could technically go without, it won't hurt anything, but you'll see what I mean. There will be some cheap single pillow packs if you want. Buying a lot of different ones is always fun, but if you want to be more serious in your selection, read on. The best you can buy would be a silicone based lubricant, it is silky and it feels the best. The best brands are System Jo and after that, Eros. Always wash real good with soap and water after using silicone lube (or any lube for that matter) to avoid infection. The only thing about silicone based is that there are some women out there that are allergic to silicone. Another reason to try to get the sample pack size of these if you can find them, because silicone based lube tends to be quite expensive. If this is the case with you then you must get a water based lube. Never use an oil based lube unless you are by yourself, because oil based lubes will melt the condom. The only time I would recommend an oil based is when the couple is in a monogamous relationship where they have both been tested for STDs and the woman is on birth control and they no longer use condoms and the woman is allergic to silicone and water based makes her itch, coconut oil being a last resort for a woman who is irritated by all three.
Word of warning, MASSAGE OIL IS NOT LUBE. Never use it as such unless you want to go to the hospital for internal burns. Seriously, I have heard story after story!
Don't be fooled into buying sex pills or vitamins from a sex shop, the ones for women do not work and are just a waste of cash. If you really want a pill that can help you see your OBGYN and try to get a prescription.
I recommend trying your new vibrator out by yourself without your boyfriend at first because he might wonder if you've been faking it if you do have a real orgasm in front of him.
If you find that clitoral stimulation by vibrator does not work for you, then don't fret, there are other options, one of them talking to your OBGYN and inquiring into medication or other advice. Try doing kegel exercises every day, your inability to orgasm might be a result of lazy muscles. If you go to a Border's Bookstore, they have a huge section on sex with many interesting reading materials. The selection at Barnes and Noble is not as good. If none of that works, then try seeing a therapist. If that doesn't work try a sexologist, it is a relatively new field. Try getting a past life regression hypnosis done, you might be suffering from past life sexual trauma.
If none of these things have worked, try to find out what turns you on. Try reading erotic books or watching erotic movies or reading erotic magazines. The biggest erogenous zone on a woman is her mind.
As a final, final resort, you may want to talk to a pelvic therapist about the muscles in your hips. Do you have bad posture, or scoliosis?
Anyhow, I hoped I helped you out at least a little bit, good luck!
And if you have any more questions, or if anything I wrote here was unclear (I know stuff like this is quite confusing and I did put down a lot of information) feel free to contact me from my profile page.
have him play with your clit at the same time as intercourse
just relax, dont try so hard or be anxious about it.
im already horny babe
youll know honey cakes
you should tell your boyfriend about this, because if he realy loves you , he should satisfy you first before he does
I point my toes like a ballerina. Works everytime! Trust me you'll know
try vaginal sex for about 10min and start out slow then very very fast! then when you think your about to hit one go slow for about 5 sec then start going very fast again and you will get an orgasm in no time
Maybe I not you but that you boyfriend is not working it right and is only after his own gratification. You need to tell Your man it not working for you and show him what makes you feel good. Good luck.
umm, i didnt hav sex .
ok, firstly, you can try on your on(masturbate) and see if you get any reactions. if you don't them you're not ready, if you do then do my secondly comment.
secondly, if he get no feeling then either you not ready or he's not the one.
It doesn't sounds like you're 20 years old. There's really no reason to be lying about your age on here as no one knows you or cares how old you really are. But if you want an appropriate answer to your question you shouldn't lie. Back to the point -- you're way too young to be worrying about this stuff. When you're older and more experienced you might realize that what your boyfriend is doing now, or even what you're doing now just isn't working for you. You can find books in Borders or any sex store such as Amazing that gives you details and different positions you can try to help you out.
You need to know your own body and what gets you off.There's only ONE way to find that out...masturbate. Seriously. And after you figure that out try having sex when you have to pee. Sounds weird but it makes u more sensitive.
Its mostly mental for us, you may never have , alot of women can only have them during foreplay or using an electronic device although the best position to have one if its hard for you to have one to begin with is being on top.. try not to think about it to much and just stay in the moment
first of all.. the mother fu.cker above me (Blanche) needs to grow the f.u.ck up.
second of all. you need to ask your self a few questions.
is the sex lasting long enough for you to even orgasm?
is there foreplay? Foreplay plays a big role for the women. Obviously it's way easier for a guy to get off than a girl.
You should try being warmed up before penetration.
Or simply have him throw another condom on and keep going until you peak.
WHOAH, SOME PEOPLE ARE TOO iMMATURE FOR WORDS.. but anyways, don't worry about having an orgasm, some women just can't :( i only can using a vibrator, or recieving oral sex.. it's annoying, but that's life, buy a vibrator ! ;)
try using a small vibrator for your clit...it will work everytime
TELL HIM TO PLAY WITH UR CLIT WHILE HE PENETRATES U, THAT SHOULD DO IT!
a lot of women have your problem, and many find it difficult to reach an orgasm no matter how good their partner is. try masturbating to figure out what feels good and what doesn't, then show your boyfriend what you like. also, during sex try playing with your clit, or having him play with it. try all sorts of positions with him, and find out for yourself which ones feel best to you, as everybody is different and enjoys different things. I personally achieve better orgasms during sex if there was a lot of foreplay before. try talking dirty to each other, teasing, have him finger you/perform oral sex to get you turned on. So just find out what you like best and make sure you're really in the mood before intercourse and you should be all set.