My sisters very sick, plz help?!
Question: she has anorexia+bulimia, its very advanced, and even though shes getting treatment at a program, shes been in and out of hospital (often intensive care) 12 times and has been in this program before and has dropped out and gotten worse...
she has a bmi of 14 and i can see her dying and im so scared... she has almost died 2 or 3 times from this during the past 3 years (from attempted suicide, almost near fatal heart attacks) and im giving up hope... im so scared for her and i know that the dieseases have very high death rates (particularly since her case is very severe) and i just wanted to know if anyone else could have stories like this? anything about eating disorders they have experienced, i cant really talk about these things with anyone who would understand
thanks xx
i just turned 16 and my sister is almost 18 (next month)
Answers: she has anorexia+bulimia, its very advanced, and even though shes getting treatment at a program, shes been in and out of hospital (often intensive care) 12 times and has been in this program before and has dropped out and gotten worse...
she has a bmi of 14 and i can see her dying and im so scared... she has almost died 2 or 3 times from this during the past 3 years (from attempted suicide, almost near fatal heart attacks) and im giving up hope... im so scared for her and i know that the dieseases have very high death rates (particularly since her case is very severe) and i just wanted to know if anyone else could have stories like this? anything about eating disorders they have experienced, i cant really talk about these things with anyone who would understand
thanks xx
i just turned 16 and my sister is almost 18 (next month)
Anorexia is a mental disorder and must be treated as such, unfortunately often it isn't. Besides the body dysmorphia that she suffer from many bulemics and anoxerics are also controloholics and the only way they feel in control is by what they put it or don't put into their bodies and how is comes out.
Your family needs to find a good program. It needs to be treated like an addiction because that is what it is like. In addition, you must realize that this is a family disease, not just your sisters struggle and that it is life long. I started 30 years ago at the tender age of 12. I was hospitalized too many times to count and came close to heart failure just as many. 30 years later I still struggle with it. I have a BMI of 19. I eat but I never put in more than 1800 calories a day. I never use laxatives or vomit but the obsession with my food has never left me. I actually get a feeling of happiness when my stomache is empty and I feel stomache pains. It is the most misunderstand disease there is as most feel that it is a habit. Talk to your sister, get to know why she feels the need to control and why her self-image is so distorted and her self-esteem so low. She needs to accept that she cannot control the world. You might discover that she has been sexually abused or that your family life isn't what she needed. Many are finding success in addiction therapy but you must find a therapist that is trained in addiction and knows about eating disorders. Encourage her to at the very least take vitamins, there are no calories in vitamins that are taken with water. Do not bother trying to force her to eat but do try to help her recognize her eating rituals and encourage her to change them. Get her to read while eating so her mind is distracted from the food on her plate. Make sure she uses a proper sized plate to put her food on, not a bowl or salad plate so that the portion of food that she is eating looks small in proportion to the size of the plate. Remove all laxatives from the house and watch that she is not puking. I will tell you what finally made me start on my journey of recovery. When I was 23 and had been vomitting for 11 years I got a very bad pain in my sternum, not a heart pain, something different. Then I started vomitting up a lot of blood, red, red blood and my husband took me to the ER. They stopped the bleeding and a Gastrointenologist came to me and said. "You have nearly blow out your esophagus and I know that you have done this to yourself from years of vomitting and if you continue to do this two things will happen. Either the esophagus will rip open and you will bleed to death while drowning in your own blood and you will die or maybe someone will be there when this happens and they will get you to the hospital and they will perform a surgery in which they will replace your esophagus with the only other muscle in the human body that works in the same manner, your anal sphincter. So your *** will now be in your throat and because you will no longer have an *** you will have to wear a bag to replace your bowels" It was enough to make me realize that although I was tried to control things in my life the reverse had happened, the disease had control of me. I found a good therapist, took some anti-depressants for awhile and two years later was healthy enough to have my first child. Starving one self to death is a terrible slow and painful death. Find our why she wants to die as she knows this disease will kill her. Good luck and god bless.
You must get your sister help before she turns eighteen becasue she will then be considered an adult and able to make her own decesions. Where are your parents or her guardian in all of this. Why has she been discharged so may times? lack of compliance with the programs? Perhaps you could ask Dr. Phil. He has experiance with his problem and has helped many people.
I'm so sorry. Eating disorders are complex things. i would know, im in recovery. It is so sweet that u want to help, but there is not much u can do. It is up to the sufferer hereself to decide she wants to recover. I'm sure that in time, your sister will realize what she is doing to her health and decide to try and get better. But for now, the best thing u can do is offer her support. She needs support more than anything at a time like this. Don't give up hope. There is a light at the end of the tunnel
U and your sister will be in my prayers
God Bless You