Is it normal to feel...?!
Question: unsafe when walking alone with someone? how can you prevent kid napping or anything else? i have a phone but is that enough?
Answers: unsafe when walking alone with someone? how can you prevent kid napping or anything else? i have a phone but is that enough?
keeping in touch with those at home is always best when you have to walk home, alone or with someone. If there is nobody home calling a friend is good.
Do this in front of the person that you are going to walk with.
Give time frames in with you the time that it takes to walk from where you are going.
Skip the party seen, even Friends come up missing, be smart.
Remember the stats rape and things like that are from people that are known to the victim(s).
Carry pepperspray or something. And chill out.
Dont walk with someone you don't trust!
how do u walk alone with somone? well peperspray and cell phone helps but i mean no real way to stop it unless ur a trained fighter, or have a bf to beat the crap out of em.If violence if bad in ur area its not enough, if its just a normal area it shouldnt be a problem
did you watch ms. congeniality? do that thing that she shows ppl in the pagent (as her talent), just SING
also, carry something in your hand that you can hit with (learned this in self-defense, take a class to be extra safe if you want)
i don't think a phone is enough because how fast can you dial? how fast can ppl come to rescue you, after all the bad stuff has happened... be careful, especially at night, and learn basic steps to keep yourself safe
You can carry a pepperspray but remember if the person that attacks you is using drugs the pepper spray will not stop him, it will make him or her even more violent. Don't use it near the face of the person, use it at leat a meter away...
It's pretty normal to feel unsafe. Women are the primary victims of violent crime.
Try taking a women's self defense class. It's not very expensive (some universities and civic centers offer them for free). Buy a tazzer or some mace and keep it on you when you go out.
And no...your phone is not enough.
why are you walking alone with someone you don't know well enough to trust?
although you can carry pepper spray or a phone, there is no weapon that will save you if someone really wishes you harm.
trust your instincts and stay away from bad situations.
that is totally normal..!
looks can be deceiving though...
it is best to try not to walk alone..
but in cases when you are alone in the streets with a person
you don't know...
dont make eye contact and walk fast without
being noticed... running is not a good option...
a phone is a good back up but incases like he's attacking you ..it is not really useful...
although you can put an emergency number on speed dial just in case...and scream for help...
BEST ADVICE: walk in a slighty crowded area where a lot of people go about during both day and night just incase you need help...
but dont panic all the time...its also good to just keep your cool and dont think of the worst case scenario...?
Through a Rapist's Eyes
(No joke)
When this was sent to me, I was told to forward it to my lady friends, but I forwarded it to most everyone in my address book. My men friends have a female friends and this
information is too important to miss someone.
Please pass it along and share it with your children.
A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:
1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed . They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair . Women with short hair is not common targets.
2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who's clothing is easy to remove e quickly . Many of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing.
3) They also look for women on their cell phone ,search ing through their purse, or doing other activities while walking because they are off-guard and can be easily overpowered.
4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5: 00 .am. and 8:30 am.
5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store parking lots . Number two: is office parking lots/garages. Number three: is public restrooms.
6) The thing about these men are that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.
7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas , or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.
Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.
10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question , like what time is it, or make general small talk: "I can't believe it is so cold out here," "we're in for a bad winter." Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.
11) If someone is coming toward you , hold out your hands in front of you and yell STOP or STAY BACK ! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be e afraid to fight back .
Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes) , yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
13) If someone grabs you , you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the
arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the upperinner thigh VERY VERY HARD . One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it - it hurts.
14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN . I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's part it is extremely painful . You might think that you'll anger the guy and make hi m want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out of there.
15) When the guy puts his hands up to you , grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible . The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
16) Of course the things we always hear still apply.Always be aware of your surroundings , take someone with you if you can and if you s ee any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!
You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.
1 . Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!
2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans . If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM . Toss it away from you....chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like e crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars afte r shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.) DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.
a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.
5 . A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot or parking garage:
A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.
B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of you r vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out.
IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO B E SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)
7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times. And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ.RUN, preferably in a zigzag pattern!
8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP! It may get you raped or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked "for help" into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her "Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door."
The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, "We a lready have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT open the door." He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry record ed and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it , but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby's crying outside their doors when they're home alone at night.
Please pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying baby -- --This
should be taken seriously because the Crying Baby theory was mentioned on America'S Most Wanted this past Saturday when they profiled the serial killer in Louisiana .
Planning your summer
if kidnapped nothing can help, so prevent by proper precautions.