I need real help with my fiance!!???!
Question: I can't be sexual with my fiance, we have been together for over a year. and in the beging i was fine with now i cant have sex with if i do its long in between. when i was a child i was sexually abused for like 7 years i think this is really effecting me now. even though it has been 3 years since i had pressed charges against him. for some reason with my fiance i put a wall up and i cant tear it down he gets fustrated but he understands what had happpened to me and doesnt press the issue. aslo i have known him since 4th grade then he had no clue, but he has know since we have been togther. How do i get over this that way i can enjoy being with him sexually, as much as i do when we are just around eachother? please help i love him so much.
Answers: I can't be sexual with my fiance, we have been together for over a year. and in the beging i was fine with now i cant have sex with if i do its long in between. when i was a child i was sexually abused for like 7 years i think this is really effecting me now. even though it has been 3 years since i had pressed charges against him. for some reason with my fiance i put a wall up and i cant tear it down he gets fustrated but he understands what had happpened to me and doesnt press the issue. aslo i have known him since 4th grade then he had no clue, but he has know since we have been togther. How do i get over this that way i can enjoy being with him sexually, as much as i do when we are just around eachother? please help i love him so much.
I'm so sorry. I've been there both as a survivor and someone who was married to a survivor.
What you are feeling and going through is, although painful, completely normal. The best way if you are ready is to find a therapist that can help you work through this, but you need to have the best one for you, someone you are comfortable with, and someone who can work with you.
www.rainn.org is the place to start your journey. It can be hard, but with work you can not only have a wonderful relationship but you can be happy too.
You can do this.
Good luck.
You need JESUS
Maybe you should seek counseling to help you work on your issues with sex. you could also try moving at a really slow pace like try getting really comfortable with him touching you in a sexual manner.
If you love him, you need to get into counseling RIGHT NOW before you lose him.