Women Help Me Please...?!
Question: I've had sex before (5-6 times) but I cant enjoy it. Even fingering gets to be really uncomfortable and even painful after about 5 minutes and the few times I've had sex I just dealt with the pain for my boyfriend. I can be really horny and I want to enjoy it, but it just ends up hurting a lot. I'm definately wet enough so thats not the problem, and I can relax and that helps a little. What should I do? Will I always be this way? What can I do to make it stop hurting so much?
Answers: I've had sex before (5-6 times) but I cant enjoy it. Even fingering gets to be really uncomfortable and even painful after about 5 minutes and the few times I've had sex I just dealt with the pain for my boyfriend. I can be really horny and I want to enjoy it, but it just ends up hurting a lot. I'm definately wet enough so thats not the problem, and I can relax and that helps a little. What should I do? Will I always be this way? What can I do to make it stop hurting so much?
I understand what you're going through because I had a similar problem. It just hurts no matter what you do, right? Well, there could be several explanations...
First off, if you've only had sex 5-6 times, your body still isn't really used to it. It's doubtful that anything would have stretched enough to make it more comfortable.
Another explanation could be your boyfriend's size. My current boyfriend is unusually large, and even though I've had several partners, it still hurts unless I'm really lubricated.
I think your best plan of action is to tell your boyfriend that it does hurt and see if you and he can figure out things he can do to make it feel better. It could be that he's just going about things in a way that doesn't work for you.
I seriously doubt that you'll always be this way - I know it may seem like it (totally been there!), but I promise, it will get better. In the meantime, make sure your boyfriend spends adequate time on foreplay before you all have sex. You may also want to try KY warming gel - warmth will help things expand, which could make it less painful.
Phew...that was long. Anyway, I hope things work out for you! Good luck!
thats really weird i ahve no idea
if its really painful you might have an infection. you should go get it checked out.
I know you said you were wet enough...but i would still reccommend using a lubricant such as Durex.
You can be wet at the start, but it can kinda diminish during the course of sex etc.
And you might expect it to hurt, which might make you less wet.
I would try lubricant though, then if that doesn't work, ask again :)
You will need more experience in this area. Don't worry about it . It will happen for you.
i would say just try to relax.
i dealt with that for a few years and then after a few partners, it just stopped being painful and became more comfortable. i think the tighter you are the more it can hurt.
you should go back to your physician again.
Are you sure? It could seriously be a pain disorder. Ask your gynecologist about it and let him/her poke around down there to get an idea.
your bf and you have to work this out, take time to experience positions that would hurt less or put less pressure on you. there is no short cut kind of solution to this, it takes practice and experiments.
Hmmm i think you've been " stretched" too much too fast and if youre doing things constantly you might be a little irriated
dont worry but try something to sooth and even if you are feeling horny you need to worry about your body it can wind up hurting you in the long run
the more you have sex the less it will hurt
maybe its your downstairs that still has some developing to do
theres nothing wrong with youu. people are different and maybe your boyfriends style is a little different than yours. maybe talk to him about being gentler when youre doing it. and once you start to loosen up, in both ways, aha, it will be more fun and less painfull.
I guessing you are probably using a pad, so your vagina, that hole the tissue hasn't loosen up yet. It takes time for that tissue to slowy untighten, eventually it won't hurt and you can enjoy it, But for now have more sex, and keep masturbating because the tissues will eventually loosen, and maybe try switching to tampons and that can help to.
Do you have your hymen? LOL.
I am very unsure i would get a second opionion.