No orgasm?!
Question: This is embarrassing to admit, but I've never had an orgasm. I have not told my husband. I've tried everything - even taking Viagra, but nothing seems to work.
I feel like something is wrong with me and I can't talk to someone in my family or my friends because it's so humiliating.
Any advice?
And yes, I love my husband and want to remain faithful to him. he's a wonderful man who worships the ground I walk on, and it's MY fault for not talking to him.
Is there a way I can try some techniques or tips in the bedroom before having to admit to him my problem?
Answers: This is embarrassing to admit, but I've never had an orgasm. I have not told my husband. I've tried everything - even taking Viagra, but nothing seems to work.
I feel like something is wrong with me and I can't talk to someone in my family or my friends because it's so humiliating.
Any advice?
And yes, I love my husband and want to remain faithful to him. he's a wonderful man who worships the ground I walk on, and it's MY fault for not talking to him.
Is there a way I can try some techniques or tips in the bedroom before having to admit to him my problem?
First off, DO NOT FAKE AN ORGASM if you are not having one! That is simply rewarding mediocrity -both his and yours. I think you should research female masturbation tips and try some out to get to know your own body first. THEN, you can manoeuvre your lovemaking to be as satisfying for you as it has been for your husband.
At some point, though, I think you should let him in on your little secret. Who knows? He might be more than happy to help you 'work' on it!
Ultimately, however, the idea is to RELAX and give in to the moment. The more you fret about it, the less you are truly experiencing the pleasure of the stimulation you are receiving.
try masturbation that way you can find the exact spots your husband needs to hit and then when you are doing it just show him and he will do it and you will have an orgasm
Jackoff with some porno.
Remember there are different points in a womens body you can get an orgasm from. Try your clitoris or g-spot.
the worst thing you can do is focus on it.
stress is a big factor.
i know women who cannot do it and i think that some people just cant.
try going on top so you can find what is best for you.
if you have never had one with any man it might just be that you dont do it. sex is good without them still though.
also, some psychologists, i believe, blame it on religious upbringing, but that might just be for men who cant do it.
I think there are doctors or therapists who specialize in helping with that sort of thing--but I don't think it's unusual for that to happen.
Tell him what you want... You don't have to admit that you've never had an orgasm, although it would probably be beneficial to the relationship to be honest. Let him know what feels good, what doesn't; To keep going, to keep it right there. A lot of women cannot have a vaginal orgasm (through intercourse) so maybe have him perform oral or rub until you come to clitoral orgasm. Many women have never experienced an orgasm, and it nothing to be embarassed about. Just means you're gonna have to work a little bit to fix it! I'm sure your husband will be more than happy to oblige ;)
It could be psychological (check out Female Sexual Arousal Disorder and Female Orgasmic Disorder)?
Does he have no desire to get you there... do you fake it?
I would suggest open communication. Or you know, those OOOHs and AHHHs when he hits a good spot, so he can keep it going.
okay so most women have orgasms from clitoral stimulation not actual intercourse..... My suggestion would be to bye a vibrator.... they have little ones that are like 20 bucks and use it when you are having sex.... also a little alcohol maybe a glass of wine ( not drunk) to relax and get in the mood..... good luck
i would say try some foreplay to get you aroused before you actually have sex or try letting play with your vagina licking soft slow and see what happens.
i didnt kno that women could take viagra and try giving ur self an orgasm the only way i get an orgasm is to be eaten out or do it myself! y guys need to be a lil more freaky deaky!