Survivors of acquaintance rape, how did your partners react? Were they supportiv!
Question: Survivors of acquaintance rape, how did your partners react!? Were they supportive!?
Or did they leave you like mine did!? At first he didn't believe me, and then when I told him I filed a report he said he would talk to me but didn't know if he wanted to be with me! WTF this is hard enough to deal with without losing his love and support! Is this a normal reaction for a guy!? He also said if it had been somebody else who had done it he would have been more supportive but he didn't like this guy!. Who cares who it was I feel so violated and betrayed! Has anybody else gone through this!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Hey Diamond, I'm glad you posted a new question, cuz I wanted to add something to what I wrote before!.
I've been getting madder and madder about your bf's reaction!.
I hope you are not begging him to get back together with you!. If/when he comes to his senses, I think it will be HIM that has to re-prove himself to you!. Cuz he showed that he is not LOYAL, and that is bullsh *t!.
When you needed him the most, he abandoned you and won't even talk to you!!? I don't know how you can save this (or whether you would even want to)!.
I feel really bad for you -- first for what happened, and second for how your bf reacted!. I know that you really cared about him (from some of your previous questions)!.
You will get over this eventually and I hope that you find a MAN who will stand by you, and not a boy who runs and hides!.
Don't know what else to say!. Hang in there!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I've been getting madder and madder about your bf's reaction!.
I hope you are not begging him to get back together with you!. If/when he comes to his senses, I think it will be HIM that has to re-prove himself to you!. Cuz he showed that he is not LOYAL, and that is bullsh *t!.
When you needed him the most, he abandoned you and won't even talk to you!!? I don't know how you can save this (or whether you would even want to)!.
I feel really bad for you -- first for what happened, and second for how your bf reacted!. I know that you really cared about him (from some of your previous questions)!.
You will get over this eventually and I hope that you find a MAN who will stand by you, and not a boy who runs and hides!.
Don't know what else to say!. Hang in there!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I was raped by muh cousin!.!.!.!.i lost all muh family!.!.!.except for muh mom and dad!.!.!.and a select few!.!.!.!.it didnt happen when me and muh bf got together!.!.but when i told him he was really supportive of me!.!.!.and really protective of me now!.!.!.!.i dont think ur partner knew how to react!.!.!.!.but I have felt betrayed by muh family!.!.!.!.but as long as i have the support of muh mom and dad and muh bf!.!.!.that is all that matters!.!.!.its really hard to get over and i dont know how long it will take but i am takin it one day at a time!.!.!.!.i was 11 when it happened and now i am 19 going on 20 this year!.!.!.!.!.!.!.i hope one day i can get over it!.!.!.and i hope some day u will to!.!.!.as far as ur partner goes!.!.!.maybe give him sometime to register it!.!.!.and maybe can talk about it!.!.!.!.!.as long as u have someone to support you then take it one day at a time!.!.!.!.i hope this helps u!.!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
my partrner was wonderful through the whole ordeal!. it happened just before i got with my partner, he did have issues getting his head around it mainly because he didnt want me to be traumatised for the rest of my life, and he was scared every move he made would remind me of the rape!. im so sorry to hear that ur partner left u, either he had serious emotional issues regarding this, or it was bad ignorance!. i dont think ppl will fully grasp the true meaning of sexual assault!. my heart goes out to!.
and jammy ur a ****head!. grow up and get some manners!. was ur mother an animal!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
and jammy ur a ****head!. grow up and get some manners!. was ur mother an animal!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm sorry about what happened to you!. Something like this hasn't happened to me but when I was a child, I was approached by internet predators and pedophiles a couple of times as a child!. I told my partner about it, the only person I told, and he was very supportive!. He was upset, but at the guys, not at me!. He was mostly scared for me and upset that I suffered!. I know my experience isn't nearly as bad, but I imagine your bf should have been there for you!. Normally, I'd maybe think it was ignorance as someone mentioned, but the fact that he was bothered by who did it is what bothers me!. It shouldn't matter who it is, if it happened, he should be there for you!. I hope things work out for you and I'm sorry you went through it!. PS!. I reported that a**hole!. That comment was just wrong!Www@Answer-Health@Com
My bf is incredibly supportive and has been since the start of our relationship when i explained everything to him!.
It was not an acquaintance in my case, but my ex bf that raped me and it was before me and my current bf got together but i still find it hard to cope with sometimes especially as i got pregnant and had to have an abortion due to the rape and abuse i sustained whilst pregnant!.
My bf has been wonderful and although we sometimes have our days, i know he would never even consider leaving me over this as it was not my fault!.
Im really sorry to hear that you have gone through this and that your bf has left you, but all i can say is that he couldn't have been the one for you if he was willing to accuse you of startig it and ot being your fault!. Never nelieve that it was your fault, no victim is to blame when it comes to rape!.
At the moment he is probably feeling hurt and betrayed also tho because he was not there to help you and protect you from this happening and possibly feels like he has lost control and just needs time to think!. Keep talking to him if you think he is worth it and try to make him understand that it wasn't his fault either!. It is a difficult thing to come to terms with for the victim and the family/partner so give him time, and explain that you need him more than ever now!.
He sounds a little fickle to me tho if he is just not supporting you cos it was this guy he didn't like, so tell him that it doesn't matter who it was, it was just as traumatic as it would have been had it been a stranger who did this horrible thing to you and if he can't understand that you need him, your better off without him!. Fall onto your friends cos partners will come and go but you'll always know you've got your friends to rely on when time's get hard!.
All the best with everything hun, I hope you can overcome this and become a stronger person for it xxxWww@Answer-Health@Com
It was not an acquaintance in my case, but my ex bf that raped me and it was before me and my current bf got together but i still find it hard to cope with sometimes especially as i got pregnant and had to have an abortion due to the rape and abuse i sustained whilst pregnant!.
My bf has been wonderful and although we sometimes have our days, i know he would never even consider leaving me over this as it was not my fault!.
Im really sorry to hear that you have gone through this and that your bf has left you, but all i can say is that he couldn't have been the one for you if he was willing to accuse you of startig it and ot being your fault!. Never nelieve that it was your fault, no victim is to blame when it comes to rape!.
At the moment he is probably feeling hurt and betrayed also tho because he was not there to help you and protect you from this happening and possibly feels like he has lost control and just needs time to think!. Keep talking to him if you think he is worth it and try to make him understand that it wasn't his fault either!. It is a difficult thing to come to terms with for the victim and the family/partner so give him time, and explain that you need him more than ever now!.
He sounds a little fickle to me tho if he is just not supporting you cos it was this guy he didn't like, so tell him that it doesn't matter who it was, it was just as traumatic as it would have been had it been a stranger who did this horrible thing to you and if he can't understand that you need him, your better off without him!. Fall onto your friends cos partners will come and go but you'll always know you've got your friends to rely on when time's get hard!.
All the best with everything hun, I hope you can overcome this and become a stronger person for it xxxWww@Answer-Health@Com