I just don't enjoy sex... please help.?!
Question: I just don't enjoy sex!.!.!. please help!.!?
Hello!.
I lost my virginity waaay to early!. I was only 14!.!.!.stupid, i know!!
When i was 15/16years old i was in a year and a bit long relationship and was sexualy active(only when i was 16)!.
I enjoyed it a couple of times but the majority of the time i just felt like it was something i had to put up with in a way!.!.!.or i'd put it off!.
I've just turnded 18 and just over a month ago i had sex with this guy!. We arnt dating but are quite close and meet up a lot!. I like him!.!.!.not like love or anything but still!. I just didnt enjoy it that much!.!.it wasn't painful or anything but just didnt really seem that great!.
It's not cause the guys got a small dick by the way!.!.!.he's pretty average!.
Why is this!? Could it be because i had sex too young to begin with!? Will i ever enjoy sex!?
Please help!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I lost my virginity waaay to early!. I was only 14!.!.!.stupid, i know!!
When i was 15/16years old i was in a year and a bit long relationship and was sexualy active(only when i was 16)!.
I enjoyed it a couple of times but the majority of the time i just felt like it was something i had to put up with in a way!.!.!.or i'd put it off!.
I've just turnded 18 and just over a month ago i had sex with this guy!. We arnt dating but are quite close and meet up a lot!. I like him!.!.!.not like love or anything but still!. I just didnt enjoy it that much!.!.it wasn't painful or anything but just didnt really seem that great!.
It's not cause the guys got a small dick by the way!.!.!.he's pretty average!.
Why is this!? Could it be because i had sex too young to begin with!? Will i ever enjoy sex!?
Please help!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Oh, hon, the fact that you had sex when you were younger has little to do with the way you feel about it now!.
There's a saying that the biggest sexual organ you have is your brain; that just means that a lot of times, your brain and heart have to be in it for it to really be good!. Maybe the reason sex just seems "meh" right now is because you're maybe not really as into him as you thought you were, or maybe just the idea of sex in general is just something you're a little confused about right now -- you said that you think you lost your virginity too early and that it's just been something you did and not really anything you enjoyed, and that sounds like you're not too happy with sex at all right now!.
And you know what, that's TOTALLY NORMAL!. Our sexuality is a really, really personal part of all of our lives, and sometimes we just change the way we feel about it, or re-think how big a deal we want it to be in our lives -- and we can get all confused and mixed up while we're thinking, because sex IS so personal for each of us!.
The best advice I can give you is, be honest with yourself!. If you don't REALLY feel like having sex with this one guy, then don't!. If you don't REALLY feel like having sex at all period, then don't!. If you change your mind about it, then you can do different then!. But if the way you think about sex is "it's just something I put up with," then sex just plain isn't going to be enjoyable -- people say "it's something I put up with" about things like dentist visits, and trying to do something with that mindset and expect it to be fun is like thinking you're going to have a dentist visit be a party!. But that doesn't mean you're always going to have that mindset, and that it won't ever be enjoyable!.
Just be honest with yourself about what you really want, and if you really want to try something or do something!. If you really don't right now, it's okay to say no!.
But whatever you decide is right for you, IS the right thing to do!. No one else can decide what is best for you; that's the most important thing!.
You'll be fine!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
There's a saying that the biggest sexual organ you have is your brain; that just means that a lot of times, your brain and heart have to be in it for it to really be good!. Maybe the reason sex just seems "meh" right now is because you're maybe not really as into him as you thought you were, or maybe just the idea of sex in general is just something you're a little confused about right now -- you said that you think you lost your virginity too early and that it's just been something you did and not really anything you enjoyed, and that sounds like you're not too happy with sex at all right now!.
And you know what, that's TOTALLY NORMAL!. Our sexuality is a really, really personal part of all of our lives, and sometimes we just change the way we feel about it, or re-think how big a deal we want it to be in our lives -- and we can get all confused and mixed up while we're thinking, because sex IS so personal for each of us!.
The best advice I can give you is, be honest with yourself!. If you don't REALLY feel like having sex with this one guy, then don't!. If you don't REALLY feel like having sex at all period, then don't!. If you change your mind about it, then you can do different then!. But if the way you think about sex is "it's just something I put up with," then sex just plain isn't going to be enjoyable -- people say "it's something I put up with" about things like dentist visits, and trying to do something with that mindset and expect it to be fun is like thinking you're going to have a dentist visit be a party!. But that doesn't mean you're always going to have that mindset, and that it won't ever be enjoyable!.
Just be honest with yourself about what you really want, and if you really want to try something or do something!. If you really don't right now, it's okay to say no!.
But whatever you decide is right for you, IS the right thing to do!. No one else can decide what is best for you; that's the most important thing!.
You'll be fine!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
before a girl can climax or enjoy sex she has to really let go release control and go wiv the moment if ur not completely free of doubt it ain't going to happen if he dont 100% float ur boat it will sink i suggest u find the right guy!. A man should be able to make a women come without even using his dick as u put it however large or small!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
lady you just ain't doing it right!. Tool size is not required!. why don't you try masturbating and find out what you like and have your bf do the same!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You don't enjoy sex because you don't care about the people who you are doing it with!. It's much better if you are actually in love!. Sex isn't just a physical thing!. It's also an emotional and mental thing!. It's normal for a lot of women not to get a lot of physical enjoyment out of sex when they are young and when they haven't learned what gives them enjoyment, but when you are in love, the emotional enjoyment is enough so that you don't feel like you're doing it just because you "have to put up with it" and the physical part gets worked out!. Why are having sex with someone you aren't even dating!?!?!? You need to have more self-respect than that!. Stop giving yourself away to people that don't deserve it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Everyone is different but personally I think TRUST has alot to do with enjoying who you're with!. First you might want to figure out what you like when you're by yourself!. Sometimes guys are just ignorant of what works for ladies so you might have to show him where, what and how you like it!. Foreplay is a big deal to us ladies so depending on if the guy knows this or not will help or hinder your interaction!. So take some time by yourself maybe go by an adult store and find something with batteries that will help you figure out more of what turns you on!. Last I just want to say that our early experiences do affect us later so if you were traumatized or something along those lines it can affect your intimatacy!. The best way to deal with that is with a therapist!. And you dont have to be messed up to see one!.!.you mostly just talk about what your concerns are and they'll help you put things in perspective or help you work it out so you're feeling better about yourself!. As a PS!.!.!.Dont do anything you arent ready for!. Dont let anyone talk you into sex before you feel like youre ready for that!. When you have someone youre comfortable with & trust you can talk about what you like and show him too!. Hope this helped a little bit!.!.!.Best wishes AlwaysWww@Answer-Health@Com