My cousin is 12, and she wants to have sex. What should i do?!


Question: My cousin is 12, and she wants to have sex!. What should i do!?
Ok its not me ok im 15, its my cousin and she is 12 and she thinks she is ready to have sex with her 13 year old boyfriened!. they have been going out for a year!. I told her its wrong, and I care soo much for her I dont want her to be used and hurt, she is better than that!. but she insisted,"oh he loves me" and" he would neveeer hurt me"!. I feeel soo strongly she shouldnt do it, she is such a terrific girl!. She is mad at me but she told me she is "doing it" soon!. What should I do, Im not very close to her and My Uncle and Aunt!. What SHould I do!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


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I'm Jordan and I'm 12 also so i know what she is going through!. but i think you should sit her down calmly and explain to her that sex is only for adults and tell her why it is only for adults and if she still insists then you should tell her parents, and if she gets mad at you she will get over it and when she gets older she will thank you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

This girl is exactly that a little girl, far from being ready to have sex!. Apart from the risk of pregnancy she could get emotionally scared, also it is illegal and there would be serious consequences!. Most people wait until they are mature adults in a serious relationship!. If your cousin will not listen to you, i'm afraid you will have to seek help from an adult, if not her parents, a teacher, your parents anybody!. Good luck i hope you can make her see sence!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Don't try to tell her parents cos this way she might lose trust in you and you'll never know anything about her cos she'll never be able to be frank to you again!.
Try to convince her that it's not so right!.!.!. she might need (if she wants) to learn to masturbate!.!.
If she insists on having sex with the guy, they can do oral sex or superficial one!.
If they will go deeper then they have to use protection and condoms!.!.!. And she'll be the one to blame for what she chose, you just need to give her the advice and let her do whatever she wants!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Ok!. I agree with you!. She should wait till someone she passionately loves comes around and she should be older like 17 or 18!. But if she insists and everybody always wants to lose their virginity to their first love so if she wants to, than I think you should make it special for her!.!. preferably a condom also cause if there is none than that's a definate no!Www@Answer-Health@Com

Tell her parents!.
So what if she gets mad at you!?

She's too young to have been taught a lot of the sex ed!. stuff!.
She's too young to have sex!.
Or have a child!.

When she's older, she won't regret not having sex at this age!.
EDIT: Ooh, the STD picture thing is great!.
I remember those from health class!.

EDIT2: This isn't exactly the best idea, but to help ensure the best, educate her on some contraceptive stuff!.
And I have a feeling if she doesn't listen to you, she'll do pull&pray, thinking it works!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Tell your mom or her parents!. Really!. She's just a child!. It's more important that you look out for her safety and welfare than that you respect her privacy and make sure she likes you!. NO ONE is ready at that age!. He doesn't love her!. She won't be with him forever!. And yes he would hurt her!. And she's way too young to realize any of that on her own!. Someone needs to intervene!Www@Answer-Health@Com

Tell her parents!. You know she's too young, and you telling her is going to do absolutely the opposite!. She is way to young to even be thinking this way!. Do the right thing hon, tell your mom or hers so that she doesn't make this huge mistake!. She will thank you one day!.!.!.believe me! As a mom, I would want to know if my underage child was thinking abt having sex!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

It is wrong!. Tell her that she will def get pregnant if she does it (ok to lie in these situations)!. She'll be happy in the long run!. Keep tabs on her, or maybe tell your aunt/uncle that you think her bf is up to no good!. Idk, just figure out something! Huwah!Www@Answer-Health@Com

first of all, in my opinion, shes too young to date-wait til high school!. and talk to ur aunt and uncle, even though ur not close!. theyre still ur aunt and uncle, and this is a serious problem!. doing this, this young is NOT GOOD AT ALL!. u need to tell someone! IMMEDIATELYWww@Answer-Health@Com

just tell her okay but you gonna be the "easy" girl in highschool and ask her how many babies shell have by prom!.also tell her that if she gets an abortion you will beat her a**!.

or you could just call like a child hotline for tips!.!.!.!.like those posters around school!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

ok you can not tell her she cant do it just tell her what she needs to know about protection and that it will hurt the first time just prepare her if you do she might not want to do itWww@Answer-Health@Com

Honestly you need to tell her parents!. Or tell your parents and have THEM tell her parents!. They probably have no idea she's even thinking about it!. You don't want them to find out you knew beforehand when they end up with a pregnant 12-year-old on their hands!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

kick her boyfriend so hard in the balls his grandchildren will be abstinent!.

or if all else fails just go to your uncle and tell him the situation!. it's all for helping your cousin, which is most important!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

even if you're not close to your Aunt/Uncle, tell them, because they probably don't want her having sex either!. Just ask them to make sure your cousin doesn't find out you told them, and to act like they found out otherwiseWww@Answer-Health@Com

ask her if she really wants to tell her mom that she is having a baby!. and ask her is seh REALLY knows how to do it, and does her so called bf!?Www@Answer-Health@Com

Talk to her parents as this is something they need to talk to her about!.!.!. Having sex at that age is wrong no matter what but they need to explain the ins and outs of safety etc!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

scare her
tell her about std's
and that she could die from it
&& show her pictures of the diseases
it sounds mean but it will work
&& your doing it cus you love herWww@Answer-Health@Com

Tell her parents! Best thing to do even if she gets mad at you!. I mean a 12 year old having sex that is just wrong!. Does she even know about condoms!?Www@Answer-Health@Com

if she feels like losing her virginity at 13 then let her, but you should tell her about std's!. show her pics and tell her that sex if how you get them!. i doubt she will still want to have sex!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

telling her not to is gonna make her wanna do it more!. just tell her all of the harm that can come from itWww@Answer-Health@Com

tell her parents and also you try to talk her out of it, it will ruin her life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

don't allow her
and if she still goes for it say your going to tell on herWww@Answer-Health@Com

tell her parents or tell someoneWww@Answer-Health@Com

tell an adultWww@Answer-Health@Com

let her have itWww@Answer-Health@Com

telling her parents or an adult it only going to make it worse,
not only will she want to do it because she cares for her boyfriend but she will do it to piss everyone off and prove she can,
under those circumstances you would probably lose her as a friend!.

tell her how you feel about it,
dont tell her no!
just give her some facts explain to her that its her decision and its something that she has to decide for herself,what she thinks is in her best interest,
you honestly cant stop her!
tell her the pros and cons of having sex,
dont just tell her the bad things i hate when people do it to me,
[im 15 not a virgin,] someone just telling you the bad things that happen when you feel like your ready to have sex makes you feel like sh*t, like you shouldnt feel the way you do,,

i hope i helped =]Www@Answer-Health@Com

Explain all the responsibilty behind it!. All the dangers of it!. Get her to make a promise to have sex until marriage!. Sex doesnt prove anything!. I doubt we would even have situations like this and many others if society didnt circle around sex!. You sound like a really good person!. you can do this, if you cant change her in the end though, just tell her parents about what she wants to do!. Your the easy way!.!.!.her parents are the final way that can have severe consequences!.!.do what you must!. dont let her become like the hundreds of other girls that have sex and eventually get into a cycle of sex and tears!. good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com

let her learn from experience, its all u can do!. shell learn the first time and won't do it again!. if u tell n adult shell hate u forever!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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