How to deal with a bully?!
Question: How to deal with a bully!?
i thought i would never have to come up with this issue as im already in high school!. theres this guy in my class and he doesn't bully be but he always puts me on the spot to try to get me to say something back or stand up to him when hes being really obnoxious i guess!. hes a tall, popular guy and im a girl!. my friend told me that i shouldnt be too nice to people, as i get taken advantage of!. i dont know what to do!. please help! thank youWww@Answer-Health@Com
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I am sorry to hear you are going through this!. The best advice I have is to just be nice, ( I know that it is hard to consider this) So hear me out!.!.!.!.!.!. He is a jerk to you for unknown reasons I am assuming so first off all I would find a way to ask him directly why he treats you like this find a way to do it privatly!. (be prepaired to have your feelings hurt) but all the same!. If he says he is playing or kidding or what ever tell him, it bothers you!. Tell him because he is so "popular" that you kind of expected him to be protective over you, instead of hurtfull!. Listen I was voted most popular from 6th grade untill I got out of school!. I carried that through college and seem to still have it going for me at 33!. I got side tracked for awhile in high school and felt that I had to be a d**k to some people and I hurt a girls feeling really bad!. We found ourselves alone one afternoon and she talked to me the way I am telling you to!. I have never felt so small!. I was a real jerk at first, but the more I thought about it the more I felt like a pinhead!. We ended up dating for two and a half years!. Even now while answering your question I feel sick!. I am still very sorry for how I treated her!. I did it for no reason except to try and show off she was an easy target!. I saw her as weak but I was the one who was weak I was so insecure about not being "Mr!. Man", If you try this and it does not work, you have other recourse, Most of the other choices are not very hmmmmm condusive to you feeling good about you!. You could embarass him every time he turns around so on and so forth, But no matter what you decide, be true to you if you feel good being nice to people then that is awsome!. There is definantly a lack of gentle good people in the world, so don't let any one shame you for that!. Be true to yourself and remember being nice is a beautifll quality!. I hope this works for you, it worked when it happened to me!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I had a boy who was a bully!. He always made fun of me and said bad things to me!. This was because I never paid any attention to him so he would get more mad and do it more to me!. I knew he was just upset because I knew he liked me and since i did not share the same feelings for him this is how he took it out on me!. Maybe you should say something funny when he says something to you to make him feel a little embarrassed!. Maybe if you do this the next time he bothers you he might not do it back because he sees your defending yourself and he does not want to look like a dummy in front of his friends!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The guy likes you, this is why he is doing this, young boys dint know how to Handel their feelings so they try to look cool or macho in front of the guys!. So you stand up to him girl, and dint take his mouth!. Once this guy kept asking me out, a fat guy that i couldn't stand!. He would torment me in front of people!. So i put his manhood down- if you know what i mean!.
Your p- isn't big enough to pee from!. You cannot always be nice to an attackerWww@Answer-Health@Com
Your p- isn't big enough to pee from!. You cannot always be nice to an attackerWww@Answer-Health@Com
Don't do what he wants!. Ignore him and don't give him any attention!. Eventually you will become boring to him because you're not playing along with his little game!. he wants you to fear him!. If you don't and ignore him, he'll find someone else who will do what he wants!. Fighting him will only give him attention and encourage him to do this to other people!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
be bigger person!.!.i realized something!.!.being suave really helps get you out of many sticky situations!.!.learn the right lingo and you'll be bully free
i think he probably likes u!.!.i think u should say that to him very loud "Look I realize you have a thing for me but I'm NOT interested!. Your a nice guy and all though!."
he will say "YOu!? and make some rude comment"
you just rebuttle with "Whatever" and go back to your daily stuff as if you OWNED that battle!.!.people can sense confidence and he will back down because whenever he does somethint to u again!.!.!.ppl will think he has a crush on uWww@Answer-Health@Com
i think he probably likes u!.!.i think u should say that to him very loud "Look I realize you have a thing for me but I'm NOT interested!. Your a nice guy and all though!."
he will say "YOu!? and make some rude comment"
you just rebuttle with "Whatever" and go back to your daily stuff as if you OWNED that battle!.!.people can sense confidence and he will back down because whenever he does somethint to u again!.!.!.ppl will think he has a crush on uWww@Answer-Health@Com
You guys are in high school you say!? From my experience from being in high school it sounds like he likes you!. Guys that age can't deal with their emotions plus they get embarrased by the other guys but that is what it sounds like to me!. Have you blown him off!? Maybe he thinks he doesn't have a chance or he's trying to get your attention either way!. That's my guess!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
ignore him if u can!. i had the same thing kind of except this guy sexual harassed me and i couldn't do anything because he was the teachers pet and never believed me because they didn't like me and when i went to the office i got expelled because the teacher said i was making false accusations but i was really telling the truth !. so if i were u i would ignore the immature baby its sound like he is trying to make you look bad because it makes him feel better!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
just deal with it and tell him to leave u alone!. well to tell u the truth i just dealed with it and when senoir year came and when i graduated i never seen them never again!. so yeah just let it go and stay in there and dont do anything dumb and deal with that dumb person!. u really wont see him anymore so deal with it!. its the best thing to do!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
awww, why are boys like this!?
some people will say that maybe he has a crush on you (possible!?)
but I know you have prob heard this a thousand times, best thing to do is ignore him!. act like hes not even in the room!.
if it gets out of hand, i suggest you speak to a teacher or your school counselor, have the 'bullying' documented!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
some people will say that maybe he has a crush on you (possible!?)
but I know you have prob heard this a thousand times, best thing to do is ignore him!. act like hes not even in the room!.
if it gets out of hand, i suggest you speak to a teacher or your school counselor, have the 'bullying' documented!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Find a way to put him on the spot!. Make him uncomfortable!. You don't neccessarily have to be mean about it, but being mean back can be very effective and will probably knock him off his butt!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Ask him if he has a problem with girls or you in general, with plenty of witnesses!. (Or that is what I would do) Sometimes being passive aggressive is the answer but not often!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
well he is obviously just immature and wanyed attention!.!.!.!.just let it be because if you go off on him and give everybody a show hes getting exactly what he wanted!.!.!.!.attention
just be the bigger person and let him look like a giant flaming idiotWww@Answer-Health@Com
just be the bigger person and let him look like a giant flaming idiotWww@Answer-Health@Com
bully him back worse than he did uWww@Answer-Health@Com
just tell the teacher but when everybody is out of the room!.i did it and it workedWww@Answer-Health@Com
Just ignore the guy, he'll back off in no time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
fight himWww@Answer-Health@Com
Your question caught my eye!.
Just to let you know - I'm 50 - a lot older than you and I know that you're probably looking for advice from someone closer to your own age!. That being said !. !. !.
This worries me a little!. I think it's odd behavior!. What does your gutt instinct tell you about what's going on!? Do you think you have good instincts!? If you sense that there's something not quite right, trust yourself!.
Maybe he's trying to see if you'll "put up a fight!." If he thinks you're passive, maybe you'll seem like an easy target for rape or !?!?!?
When boys are little and they like a girl, sometimes they'll pick on them because they don't understand what they're feeling and they used to think girls were icky, but this girl is different and they just know they want attention from her but not how to act properly!. However, since he's a popular guy, I'm not quite buying this explanation!. Plus, he's a little too old for that!.
Take precautions!. Don't walk alone around school or home or anywhere that you can be caught off guard and alone!. (You might even want to talk to a counselor about this - although I know you probably won't do that!.)
I'm sure I'm probably wrong, but it never hurts to be cautious anyway!.
Steer clear of him if you can!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Just to let you know - I'm 50 - a lot older than you and I know that you're probably looking for advice from someone closer to your own age!. That being said !. !. !.
This worries me a little!. I think it's odd behavior!. What does your gutt instinct tell you about what's going on!? Do you think you have good instincts!? If you sense that there's something not quite right, trust yourself!.
Maybe he's trying to see if you'll "put up a fight!." If he thinks you're passive, maybe you'll seem like an easy target for rape or !?!?!?
When boys are little and they like a girl, sometimes they'll pick on them because they don't understand what they're feeling and they used to think girls were icky, but this girl is different and they just know they want attention from her but not how to act properly!. However, since he's a popular guy, I'm not quite buying this explanation!. Plus, he's a little too old for that!.
Take precautions!. Don't walk alone around school or home or anywhere that you can be caught off guard and alone!. (You might even want to talk to a counselor about this - although I know you probably won't do that!.)
I'm sure I'm probably wrong, but it never hurts to be cautious anyway!.
Steer clear of him if you can!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com