Should I tell him? How? When?!
Question: Should I tell him!? How!? When!?
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now, we're both virgins, but we do do manual and oral stimulations!. I've made him orgasm MANY times, but he has never gotten me to orgasm!. I'm very comfortable around him and trust me, he's doing EVERYTHING right!. But I just can't seem to ***!. I've been faking it so he won't feel bad!. I'm feeling worse and worse about this, and I want to stop, but I don't know how or when to tell him!. I know he's going to be very upset for me lying to him!. But I feel that he finally needs to know!. How do I go about this!? And when is the best time!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
You need to STOP taking the guilt of this EVER SO COMMON problem on your shoulders!. It's not your fault, or even really his fault that you are finding it difficult to climax from him!. It's just not a process that is so easy for women, bottom line!. Sure, it is your responsibility to care for your guy, but it isn't to feed his ego!. Stop exerting extra energy, and stop feeling guilty!.
Honestly, I don't see any use in you telling him that you've been faking it!. There IS no best time!. Whenever you tell him, whether it be when he's half asleep, or while the two of you are being intimate; it'll crush and break him!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!. imagine, he'll be thinking back to all the intimate moments you both shared, and feel useless and embarassed!.
What I would suggest, however, would be to definitely stop faking it!. Now!. If he asks what's changed, just say that you're not sure, but that it's okay (if you want him to stop trying lol)!. Never fake it again!. If you want things to get better, then of course you're only digging yourself into a deeper hole by giving him 'praise' and making him feel as though there is no need to try harder since you're already being satisfied!.
When (if) he notices that you aren't reacting the way you normally would to his touch, you can decide when (if you are comfortable) to show him how and what you want done!.
Gosh!. As women, we always tend to want to make sure everyone else around is comfortable before we are!. Let it goooooo!. No more faking young lady!. lol!.
All the best!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Honestly, I don't see any use in you telling him that you've been faking it!. There IS no best time!. Whenever you tell him, whether it be when he's half asleep, or while the two of you are being intimate; it'll crush and break him!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!. imagine, he'll be thinking back to all the intimate moments you both shared, and feel useless and embarassed!.
What I would suggest, however, would be to definitely stop faking it!. Now!. If he asks what's changed, just say that you're not sure, but that it's okay (if you want him to stop trying lol)!. Never fake it again!. If you want things to get better, then of course you're only digging yourself into a deeper hole by giving him 'praise' and making him feel as though there is no need to try harder since you're already being satisfied!.
When (if) he notices that you aren't reacting the way you normally would to his touch, you can decide when (if you are comfortable) to show him how and what you want done!.
Gosh!. As women, we always tend to want to make sure everyone else around is comfortable before we are!. Let it goooooo!. No more faking young lady!. lol!.
All the best!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You must have a conversation with him!. Do not have it in the bed room! Tell him what you are feeling and what you are not!. He will see the importance of your desires and do everything he can to help you!. Also, let him know what you want and where you want it! Guys a pretty much dumb about a female anatomy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Try stimulating your clitoris while he is doing whatever to you!.!.this may help!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
first of all, can you orgasm when you're alone!? because that could be part of it!. tell him when you're not in a sexual situation and if he really cares about you then he wont be too upset and you guys can work together about it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com