Annorexic gf coming back from rehab?!
Question: Annorexic gf coming back from rehab!?
been dating for 2 years!. she has been in rehab for about 6 weeks!. what are some things i should avoid saying/doing when she returns to help prevent any relapse and such!. im kind of nervous about the sexual aspect of our relationship when she returns!.!.!. i dont know how she is going to feel about it!. b/c before she left for rehab, her hormones were so out of whack that she was never "in the mood," so i am hoping we can fully restore our ralationship!. i mean i deserve it for sticking through all these tough times with her and being there to support her!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Hi,
well, talk to her, let her guide the way, she will have hopefully have received plenty of good advice and insight - so she should be able to tell you that you don't necessarily need to walk on eggshells around her!. you cannot cause a relapse, but, could contribute!. it is thoughtful that you don't want to do anything that could send her into a relapse, let her know that and let her tell you how she feels about it, you, your relationship, sex, etc!.!.!.
please don't have sex before she is sure that she is ready - based on whatever!. she needs to feel good about herself, and needs a support system, not people who make her feel inadedquate or not good enough!. pressuring her for sex if she is not ready could be another way of her being told that she is not good enough, yes!? you definitely don't want her to do anything that will make her uncomfortable, right!? so, if you care about how she feels, then let her have a say - and that also means don't pressure her!. if she is not ripping your clothes off and begging for it but instead is reluctant and trying to stop then you need to think with your bigger head and stop!. be open with her, let her know you desire her, but take her reactions into consideration, listen to her and what she is really saying - not just what you want to hear!.
a ready, willing, and able partner is much better than one that needs to be pushed into it, right!? so, take a cold shower or think baseball or whatever works for you, and let her be the guide!. IF you love and respect her, and want a future with her!.
if you just want sex and she is not ready, then break up with her and find someone else!.
as far as 'deserving' 'it', that's pretty unattractive language!. i think you may need to reconsider what you mean!. do you see sex as a reward for good behavior!? sex IS a reward for good behavior, but as a gift, something to be given from the desire - ie, someone being selflessly kind and thoughtful and the other person seeing the caring behind the actions!. not something expected because you were a good boy!. hopefully you stood by her because you love her, not because you expected to be rewarded with sex!. her loving you due to your selflessness will spur her desire, you acting like you deserve it is a HUGE turnoff, and you should expect not to reap any rewards!.
Best Wishes, and, try to learn some compassion and altruism!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
well, talk to her, let her guide the way, she will have hopefully have received plenty of good advice and insight - so she should be able to tell you that you don't necessarily need to walk on eggshells around her!. you cannot cause a relapse, but, could contribute!. it is thoughtful that you don't want to do anything that could send her into a relapse, let her know that and let her tell you how she feels about it, you, your relationship, sex, etc!.!.!.
please don't have sex before she is sure that she is ready - based on whatever!. she needs to feel good about herself, and needs a support system, not people who make her feel inadedquate or not good enough!. pressuring her for sex if she is not ready could be another way of her being told that she is not good enough, yes!? you definitely don't want her to do anything that will make her uncomfortable, right!? so, if you care about how she feels, then let her have a say - and that also means don't pressure her!. if she is not ripping your clothes off and begging for it but instead is reluctant and trying to stop then you need to think with your bigger head and stop!. be open with her, let her know you desire her, but take her reactions into consideration, listen to her and what she is really saying - not just what you want to hear!.
a ready, willing, and able partner is much better than one that needs to be pushed into it, right!? so, take a cold shower or think baseball or whatever works for you, and let her be the guide!. IF you love and respect her, and want a future with her!.
if you just want sex and she is not ready, then break up with her and find someone else!.
as far as 'deserving' 'it', that's pretty unattractive language!. i think you may need to reconsider what you mean!. do you see sex as a reward for good behavior!? sex IS a reward for good behavior, but as a gift, something to be given from the desire - ie, someone being selflessly kind and thoughtful and the other person seeing the caring behind the actions!. not something expected because you were a good boy!. hopefully you stood by her because you love her, not because you expected to be rewarded with sex!. her loving you due to your selflessness will spur her desire, you acting like you deserve it is a HUGE turnoff, and you should expect not to reap any rewards!.
Best Wishes, and, try to learn some compassion and altruism!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Wow, what a really f_cking insensitive thing to say!. You DESERVE it!? Is that why you did it!? To get a merit badge!? That is so ignorant!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
well, you've probably been there a lot for her, just take things slowly when she comes out and don't force her in to anything; your relationship should start going back to normalWww@Answer-Health@Com
I think what you need to do is continue to be supportive, and one way to do this is by losing the attitude, lose the idea that you 'deserve' something, yes you deserve her love, but she also deserves your love!. Relationships are not about getting something just because you stuck by her!. Just continue to love her, show her support and be there for her and in return what you can expect is for her to love you and she can be glad that she has someone like you!. She sounds like she has gone through quite an ordeal, and I can understand how easily you could have begun to resent the situation, but please don't let your resentment and desire to have sex get in the way of something beautiful!. You obviously lover her or else you wouldnt have hung in their for so long, so let your love be what guides you rather than the selfish desire to have sex!. Eventually, when she's ready, she will be able to have sex with you and actually enjoy it, rather than just doing it because she knows you want it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com