Somedays I look horrible, and others I think I look OK. Why can't i be beaut!


Question: Somedays I look horrible, and others I think I look OK!. Why can't i be beautiful all the time!?
My mum says I am stunning, but I look in the mirror and say "Piss off you f***ing ugly b**ch!" I try to look my best by wearing mascara, and I am only 13!. I look nice with it on, and I wear it every day to school!. When i was younger, I was pretty ugly i have to say!. Hideous teeth, fat hair, freckles everywhere, fugly smile, but now that I've changed, I think I look nice :) but sometimes I just look YUCK!! Like when i wake up in the morning!. all my friends say i am gorgeous, and they love my freckles and my hair, but i hate them! they're all so pretty!. flawless! No freckles, stunning hair [I just straighten mine, it's naturally dry and wavy] and I hate it!! I am so ugly, but sometimes I think i look really pretty, which boosts my self-esteem as mine is extremely low!. How can I feel beautiful everyday!? Why don't I have a boyfriend yet!? this is so unfair, as all my friends have had boyfriends! Help!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com


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yeah so you should totally disregard that comment from confused up above!.!.he or she is clearly mentally ill!.!.!.i know how you feel!.!.some days i think i look reaally good and then other days i'm like "oh God, why did i even wake up, i look like hell!." i guess its all in your head really!.!.if you wake up every day and say "I'm beautiful" you'll feel that allll day!. Don't compare yourself to others!.!.you were made special! you sound super cute with your little freckles! i wish i had those, theyre so adorable!. listen to your friends, i bet you are gorgeous! hang in there kid and start raising your self esteem and youll have a bf in no time!.!.although, youre only 13 and most 13 year old boys would rather be playing video games than dating girls!.!.!.its not your fault girls mature faster than boys!. heck, my bf is 21 and he's still less mature than me, and im 19!Www@Answer-Health@Com

you have to be happy with yourself everyday, that's the only way you'll feel pretty every day!. and you do not have a boyfriend because your self esteem is low, if you do not like you, how can you expect others to like you!?Www@Answer-Health@Com

Its your hormones making you crazy!. I am sure you look fine everyday!. You don't need a boyfriend for the sake of having one!.!.!.that's how you end up with a jerk!. Find a boy who likes the same stuff you do, he'll be a good one!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Oh my GOD shut UP your SO SELF CONSCIOUS and IT DOESN"T MATTER NEWSFLASH SHUT UPWww@Answer-Health@Com

Ooooookay, becky, just to let you know - why disregard the above comment when you practically restated it, quote: " i guess its all in your head really!.!.if you wake up every day and say "I'm beautiful" you'll feel that allll day!. "

But, hey,whatever!. I guess it made sense to you!.

I felt the same way you do now when I was in middle school!. It's because I had no idea who I was, or what my life was about, which I realized much later was the source of my fluctuating insecurities - one day you 'think' you're sure of yourself!. The next, you feel like the world has tipped upside down and you're the one at the tip of a volcano!. You might not be able to escape the occational insecurity from growing up, but in the meantime, enjoy your life :-) Dream, hope, try different things, learn a new thing everyday, talk to people, try to make them feel better about their own insecurities (because you are only one of every girl your age who has them :-) )!.

Things will get easier, and through experiences, you'll slowly come to realize your self-image changing within yourself - and of course on the outside as well!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You are beautiful, you don't have a boyfriend yet because it isn't part of the plan!. You seem like a very smart girl, you have a lot of good things ahead of you!. Love yourself for you!. I was in your situation once, then I just did me, and all my dreams of a family and the life I want came true!. Sounds cliche huh!? Well I'm not rich, my husband and I both work to make ends meat, but we are content with our daughter and each other!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

oh sweetie!. i completely understand where u r comin from! as a teen u will often feel strange!. somedays u will think u look pretty, other days u will feel so ugly!. the thing is just to understand this is normal and healthy, so it doesnt depress u!. u dont need to wear mascara ok!? only when u go out!. try to believe ur friends!. when u dont feel pretty just dont spend time in the mirror, thats what i do!. get neat and clean then focus on something else!. the bottom line is really that beauty is only skin deep!. do u exercise!? start! u feel SO much prettier when u exercise!. u need to build ur confidence from the inside out, and learning a skill like a sport or an instrument REALLY helps!. more than u no!. it also is an avenue for frustration and depression!. and u have yearsss before u have to worry about boys! but if u really want one, the ideal way is to recognize u DESERVE one!.!.!. u are 10x woth any lil boy in ur school!! confidence and self respect makes u desirable in their eyes! u r beautiful honey!. trust me!.

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Okay, since there are a lot of details in your question, I'm going to break it down into simpler bits :)

1!. "My mum says I am stunning, but I look in the mirror and say!.!.!."
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Okay so I would pretty much ignore what your mom says, because she is ALWAYS going to think you are beautiful no matter what!. But don't curse at yourself in the mirror!.!.!.show yourself some respect! Even if you think you are ugly, you still deserve a happy life!. Love yourself, even though it may seem hard, and things will seem a lot brighter!.

2!. "When I was younger, I was pretty ugly I have to say"
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I bet you that even the most prettiest girl EVER thinks she looked disgusting when she was younger!. Try not to though! When your looking at old pictures just say, "Oh well, I was young, and that was a long time ago"!.

3!. "But sometimes I just look YUCK!! Like when I wake up in the morning"
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If you look at yourself in the mirror and think "yuck", then stop looking in the mirror! Your not doing yourself any good by staring constantly in the mirror and thinking that your ugly!. Just look away, go somewhere else and concentrate on other things!. Then maybe as the day goes by, you'll glance at yourself in a window and think "Gosh I look so gorgeous! Why was I giving myself so much crap this morning!?!?"

Good luck && hope I helped :)Www@Answer-Health@Com

same! I`m gonna add you now! remember that everything God made is beautifull!.!.!.you ARE beautifull!.!.!.!.I feel that way alot!.!.!.I belive in that "beauty is skin deep" but sometimes to belive it you should widen your chances of finding yourself attractive!.Get some foundation to fade your freckles, get a hairdreser to straiten your hair,maby change your hair colour for a refreshing change! but If your friends say that they probably think so!.!.!.!.!.after that you`ve just gotta learn to love yourself :) boyfriend!? because no guys have noticed how col you re because you dont show it because of your low self-esteem! theirs plenty of time for that latr ,I`m 13 2 and dont have 1!!.!.!.yu`ll be fine! by the way I added you :) I can be your friend if you want! if you want to we can chat, my emails: romance_dvd_94@yahoo!.com!.auWww@Answer-Health@Com





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